I firmly believe that if a couple has health and happiness, they really have a lot.
I am affectionate and enjoy simple touching and playful teasing. There are a lot of ways to express love for a partner
and those don't all require being in bed. I mean, sex is wonderful, but most of the times that partners demonstrate their love for each other, they are clothed and often in public. Kisses in public are great along with discreet touching and gentle pinches. I probably sound like Dr. Ruth, but I don't mean to. It's just that I believe there are a thousand ways to express love, and partners will invent new ones that are their very own.
I like to participate in lively, intelligent conversations without being argumentative. There's no need to win a discussion or keep score. As a wise person once said: People can disagree without being disagreeable.
Life is too short, so I no longer have time for people who: take themselves too seriously, complicate life unnecessarily, cannot or will not communicate, or waste precious time on unimportant activities/ideas.
A couple who can communicate effectively can steamroll issues before they reach the unpleasant stage. We're all adults and I would expect adult communication skills and behavior from myself and my partner. Things only fester and get worse if they are not discussed at the appropriate time.
I love to travel, have traveled a fair bit, and am open to travel of all sorts: the usual local weekend(or more) suspects like San Francisco, Monterey Peninsula, West Marin and West Sonoma, Wine Country, Yosemite and Tahoe. I also enjoy air trips: NYC, Boston, DC as well as trips requiring a passport: Europe, Canada, Latin America, Aus/NZ/Fiji, Africa. As enjoyable as travel is, it's SO much more enjoyable with a partner who can share in the new places, new people, new experiences and superb times that a couple can experience as a team deeply in love and surrounded by strangers in a strange place.
There's nothing like a pleasant meal in a special restaurant to bring out deep conversation and tender, non-verbal communication. A restaurant can be special to a couple without being five-star. Dining is an experience, not merely a meal. The quality of that experience is usually not correlated with the cost. Getting cozy with an agreeable adult beverage after a fine dinner is about as good as it gets, whether in a three-star or a five-star.
That's far more than enough about me. Let me describe my idea of an ideal partner:
She needs to be: easy with a laugh or a smile, of above average intelligence, playful, alert, curious, honest(in word and deed), a good communicator, positive, assertive, understanding, open to new experiences and places, one who enjoys intimacy of all sorts, one who initiates(you know what I mean), flexible and supportive, kind to all people and animals.
She doesn't need to be: a trophy wife type, a genius, a triathlete or hyper feminine.
She should not be: overly complicated, into dramatics, into martyrdom, a glass is half empty type, one who saves up hurts and keeps score, helpless, one who has poor self-esteem or one who lets the state of the world depress her.
I would love to find an emotionally healthy partner with whom I can share countless pleasant moments and create the same life affirming happiness for her as she would for me. Let's make endorphins...LOTS of them.
Food: Fish, Japanese, Vietnamese and Italian
Music: Mostly 1960s and 70s R&R, some opera, some classical
2) access to the Internet
3) access to radio and good stations
4) comfortable climate
5) occasional solitude
6) female contact(not the last in priority sequence)
How I can conduct my life in order to make it more comfortable and effectual.