65Los Altos, United States
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My self-summary
I'm happily retired and really believe that from here on out my job is to enjoy life as much as I can, preferably with a loving companion. Laughter is exercise for the soul. I love to laugh and especially like to make others laugh, even strangers. I don't even mind a joke at my expense as long as I can reciprocate in kind.
I firmly believe that if a couple has health and happiness, they really have a lot.
I am affectionate and enjoy simple touching and playful teasing. There are a lot of ways to express love for a partner
and those don't all require being in bed. I mean, sex is wonderful, but most of the times that partners demonstrate their love for each other, they are clothed and often in public. Kisses in public are great along with discreet touching and gentle pinches. I probably sound like Dr. Ruth, but I don't mean to. It's just that I believe there are a thousand ways to express love, and partners will invent new ones that are their very own.
I like to participate in lively, intelligent conversations without being argumentative. There's no need to win a discussion or keep score. As a wise person once said: People can disagree without being disagreeable.
Life is too short, so I no longer have time for people who: take themselves too seriously, complicate life unnecessarily, cannot or will not communicate, or waste precious time on unimportant activities/ideas.
A couple who can communicate effectively can steamroll issues before they reach the unpleasant stage. We're all adults and I would expect adult communication skills and behavior from myself and my partner. Things only fester and get worse if they are not discussed at the appropriate time.

I love to travel, have traveled a fair bit, and am open to travel of all sorts: the usual local weekend(or more) suspects like San Francisco, Monterey Peninsula, West Marin and West Sonoma, Wine Country, Yosemite and Tahoe. I also enjoy air trips: NYC, Boston, DC as well as trips requiring a passport: Europe, Canada, Latin America, Aus/NZ/Fiji, Africa. As enjoyable as travel is, it's SO much more enjoyable with a partner who can share in the new places, new people, new experiences and superb times that a couple can experience as a team deeply in love and surrounded by strangers in a strange place.

There's nothing like a pleasant meal in a special restaurant to bring out deep conversation and tender, non-verbal communication. A restaurant can be special to a couple without being five-star. Dining is an experience, not merely a meal. The quality of that experience is usually not correlated with the cost. Getting cozy with an agreeable adult beverage after a fine dinner is about as good as it gets, whether in a three-star or a five-star.

That's far more than enough about me. Let me describe my idea of an ideal partner:

She needs to be: easy with a laugh or a smile, of above average intelligence, playful, alert, curious, honest(in word and deed), a good communicator, positive, assertive, understanding, open to new experiences and places, one who enjoys intimacy of all sorts, one who initiates(you know what I mean), flexible and supportive, kind to all people and animals.

She doesn't need to be: a trophy wife type, a genius, a triathlete or hyper feminine.

She should not be: overly complicated, into dramatics, into martyrdom, a glass is half empty type, one who saves up hurts and keeps score, helpless, one who has poor self-esteem or one who lets the state of the world depress her.

I would love to find an emotionally healthy partner with whom I can share countless pleasant moments and create the same life affirming happiness for her as she would for me. Let's make endorphins...LOTS of them.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying retirement and developing an entirely new outlook on people, places and things around me. I recognize that life could be so much better with a loving partner to share it with. Now that I have the time to travel, I am looking for a partner with whom I can enjoy seeing and enjoying new places.
I’m really good at
I'm a very good listener who doesn't interrupt.....much... and who always maintains good eye contact while speaking or listening. I am often able to come up with a simpler solution to a problem than other persons and can place the problem owner at ease once I suggest that solution. I am generous within my means. I am usually the first to reach for the tab and I tip generously. Usually I can get others to laugh, and keep laughing, during a typical conversation that is about a matter not requiring serious discussion.
The first things people usually notice about me
I usually have an easy, natural smile on my face and am often the one who initiates a conversation, even with complete strangers. I seem to have a gift for making others smile as soon as they see me. I have been told that I am friendly, articulate and empathetic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: Chinatown, Paper Moon, any James Bond movie, Casablanca, The Grapes of Wrath, The Wizard of Oz and many others.
Food: Fish, Japanese, Vietnamese and Italian
Music: Mostly 1960s and 70s R&R, some opera, some classical
Six things I could never do without
1) frequent, at least daily, showers
2) access to the Internet
3) access to radio and good stations
4) comfortable climate
5) occasional solitude
6) female contact(not the last in priority sequence)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things I need to do before my death or change in health precludes me from doing them.
How I can conduct my life in order to make it more comfortable and effectual.
On a typical Friday night I am
Because I am retired, Friday night has no particular significance to me EXCEPT that it is one night when bars and restaurants are crowded and when my time spent shopping should take the next two days off until Monday when stores are less busy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not sure how to answer this. I have no skeletons in any closet and have no need to come out of any closet. Perhaps I will think of something as I gain more experience on OK Cupid.
You should message me if
you want to enjoy generous affection, romance and intimacy with a mature man who is: easy to be with, low-maintenance, drama averse, not ego driven, thoughtful, a real gentleman and not too serious about himself. I am easy-going, not seeking perfection, willing to overlook or ignore a partner's imperfections. I just want to enjoy the rest of my life with a loving partner who can add to my enjoyment and me to hers. Let's push every envelope and see just how much fun life can be.
The two of us