So, first of all, I am a bisexual man living in consensual non-monogamy. This could be a quote from Captain Obvious, but alas, due to my experience I have learned I need to precise what that means.
So, I am bisexual. That means I am not just really gay and pretending, I really and actually may love people from both, or let's say all, genders. For lack of a better word, let's call that bisexual. I've probably been through more than you because of that, so no, I'm not just lazy and reluctant to come out completely.
And than, I am a man. This could also obvious aswell, but I need to explain it. It does not mean I surpress my feelings, neither does it mean I am accessary to any evil or stupidty of my brethren because I am one, nor does it imply that I will cess to do so because I do things that "real men" don't, like wearing pink, crying or being in awe of cute things. On the other hand, I lift weights, drink beer, I've been to the military and I have some faible for military things and weapons, so who the fuck cares ?
Then, I live in consensual non-monogamy. That does not mean I need to have sex with you just because you are not satisfied with your monogamous marriage. It means I don't limit my love to one person, but I will not leave my man.
He's the reason why I am here in France, after all. Yes, there are people that emigrate for other reasons than professional ones these days. I'm one of them, and so far, I don't regret it.
So, what are this bisexual man's views of the world ? One thing I appreciate about France is that it is a secular state. That's because I'm not really into religions, and I've grown up in a less secular one (i.e. Germany) and didn't appreciate that circomstance too much. I've grown up a lutheran protestant with some everlasting faible for catholicism and it's fancy churches. I prefer religions that don't make the effort to pretend they were something else, and even more if they don't proselytize. I've ended up a sceptical deist, if that makes any sense to you. I don't exclude the existence of God, but I don't rely on it, nor do I think that this would justify lapidations, genital mutilation, the killing of people that are not completely conform to their gender or other such things.
Sounds rather liberal, does it ? As a matter of fact, it does. But still, I have a hard time to label myself a liberal. For far too many being "liberal"/"leftist" obviously means to be solidary with homophobic, antisemitic, authoritarian theocracies ( Palestine, Iran, Cuba..) and against cosmopolitic, open-minded immigration societies ( i.e. USA, Isreal...), so I'm still reluctant.
to be continued
( http://www.okcupid.com/profile/transvince?cf=recently_visited), an uncle for our nephews and nieces and an expat recovering from the bizarreries of my home-country.
Graduated with a master in Russian studies and history in 2014, now teaching German, translating and living as a part of the academic proletariat ( don't know wether that expression even exists in English, but there is no better one..).