Oblomow
31 Besançon, France
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My self-summary
My profile is being remade, don't be afraid of it's emtpyness. Just so many things have changed since I've moved to France.

So, first of all, I am a bisexual man living in consensual non-monogamy. This could be a quote from Captain Obvious, but alas, due to my experience I have learned I need to precise what that means.
So, I am bisexual. That means I am not just really gay and pretending, I really and actually may love people from both, or let's say all, genders. For lack of a better word, let's call that bisexual. I've probably been through more than you because of that, so no, I'm not just lazy and reluctant to come out completely.
And than, I am a man. This could also obvious aswell, but I need to explain it. It does not mean I surpress my feelings, neither does it mean I am accessary to any evil or stupidty of my brethren because I am one, nor does it imply that I will cess to do so because I do things that "real men" don't, like wearing pink, crying or being in awe of cute things. On the other hand, I lift weights, drink beer, I've been to the military and I have some faible for military things and weapons, so who the fuck cares ?
Then, I live in consensual non-monogamy. That does not mean I need to have sex with you just because you are not satisfied with your monogamous marriage. It means I don't limit my love to one person, but I will not leave my man.
He's the reason why I am here in France, after all. Yes, there are people that emigrate for other reasons than professional ones these days. I'm one of them, and so far, I don't regret it.

So, what are this bisexual man's views of the world ? One thing I appreciate about France is that it is a secular state. That's because I'm not really into religions, and I've grown up in a less secular one (i.e. Germany) and didn't appreciate that circomstance too much. I've grown up a lutheran protestant with some everlasting faible for catholicism and it's fancy churches. I prefer religions that don't make the effort to pretend they were something else, and even more if they don't proselytize. I've ended up a sceptical deist, if that makes any sense to you. I don't exclude the existence of God, but I don't rely on it, nor do I think that this would justify lapidations, genital mutilation, the killing of people that are not completely conform to their gender or other such things.

Sounds rather liberal, does it ? As a matter of fact, it does. But still, I have a hard time to label myself a liberal. For far too many being "liberal"/"leftist" obviously means to be solidary with homophobic, antisemitic, authoritarian theocracies ( Palestine, Iran, Cuba..) and against cosmopolitic, open-minded immigration societies ( i.e. USA, Isreal...), so I'm still reluctant.

to be continued
What I’m doing with my life
Being full-time honey of the man of my life
( http://www.okcupid.com/profile/transvince?cf=recently_visited), an uncle for our nephews and nieces and an expat recovering from the bizarreries of my home-country.

Graduated with a master in Russian studies and history in 2014, now teaching German, translating and living as a part of the academic proletariat ( don't know wether that expression even exists in English, but there is no better one..).
You should message me if
So, the main purpose I'm here is to find friends, preferably in the area to actually meet up in person. You are welcome to write me for whatever reason as long as you are ok with my way of living.
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