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My self-summary
I've decided that I'd like to date more, get out a little more often but I'm actually rather shy in new social situations and I'm not really happy in crowds or other places with lots of noisy and wild energies. Get me alone though and I'll open up pretty fast! So, here I am, wanting to date a little bit more but being the shy quiet type. Add in the fact that I am involved in open and/or polyamorous relationships and dating can be rather ... complicated. (In the interest of saving a bit of time, I am currently involved with a wonderful man, Phil62702. You don't have to date him but we do live together so he'll be around.) I also, apparently, need to be a bit more clear. I am not now, nor am I going to become interested in being, the "other woman," the mistress [that's little "m" not big "M" for those that understand the distinction], or a piece on the side. I engage in open and honest relationships and ALL of the people I date are aware of each other and hopefully on friendly enough terms we can all spend time together. If you are looking for a "discreet relationship" that your wife, girlfriend, partner, significant other, etc does not know about I am not the one for you.

In terms of who I am beyond all that boring stuff, I'm a 40 year old professional working in the health care industry in a broad way. I always have a book somewhere nearby, and am addicted to playing games on my iPhone. Actually, I think I'm just addicted to my iPhone! I can text all night but don't really like talking on the phone. (Note: Just because I like to text does not mean I'm going to be exchanging numbers with you immediately. I'm selective about who gets my number. I'm much more likely to give you a messenger handle.) I have a fondness for word play and bad puns, especially bad fish puns, that no one else seems to appreciate. I was raised a country girl in a town around 7,000 on a good day but love living in the city now. I find myself occasionally nostalgic for my life back in a small town. When that happens I get in my car, drive just about anywhere in St. Louis, and say a fervent prayer of thanksgiving that I am not in the middle of nowhere anymore. Small towns have their charm but the "big city" frees you to be who you are, at least in my experience.

I'm trying to think of what else to put in here but my mind is, of course, blank right now. Honestly I'm happy to talk about myself; feel free to ask me anything! In fact if you start the conversation it will go better if you have things to ask me!
What I’m doing with my life
I'm working full time while I ponder what degree I need to pursue next. What that tranlsates to now is "I'm not sure what degree I want but I know I want one!" I think I'm going to start collecting them. Maybe if I get the whole set I'll get a cool prize. I work full time because I have to pay the bills somehow and being a professional student didn't pay that well. In my dream world I win the lottery and I CAN be a professional student. I love to learn.

Trying to find something I'm passionate about. Or alternately, since I'm pretty sure mental health and social services work is what I'm passionate about, trying to figure out how to move ahead in the field. Hence, figuring out the next degree I need. See how that all circles back?
I’m really good at
writing, listening, giving advice that I don't take. Making obscure references to things no one else gets.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea because I'm not other people! Having asked a few friends apparently my smile is high on the list. I would have guessed my weight or my eyes.

Non-physical I'd guess my sense of humor. It's often obscure; people don't always get my jokes. I think they're funny though and honestly? I often just want to amuse myself.

The words I use. I tend to have a rather extensive vocabulary. Often, like with my jokes, people look at me askance (see what I did there?) when I pull out some thesaurus-worthy words.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Surely you don't expect me to pick just one of anything? Variety is the spice of life! To quote a friend, "embrace the power of 'and'."

Books: The Newsflesh trilogy by Mira Grant (if you haven't read them do so now!), Daughter of the Blood, Heir to the Shadows, Queen of the Darkness by Anne Bishop (simply amazing, if you enjoy fantasy I highly recommend them), Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (favorite book hands down if I have to pick), anything about forensics from forensic anthropology to forensic pathology whether it's fiction or non-fiction like the Diane Fallon mysteries by Beverly Connor or No Stone Unturned by Steve Jackson (about the formation of NecroSearch International).

Movies: I'm a romantic comedy kinda girl, probably because I'm a hopeless romantic. Hope Floats, Jerry Macguire, Pratical Magic and Love Actually are staples of my DVD shelf not to mention Dirty Dancing. I have a love for BBC period pieces. I own the 1995 BBC (and non-BBC 2005) version of Pride and Prejudice as well as their adaptation of Sense and Sensibility and Persuasion. I am also a huge fan of Serenity and the TV show it was spawned from. Bonus points if you know what TV show that is, more points if you like it.

Music: I listen to just about anything! I've got Michael Bublé, Train and the Glee soundtrack in playlists. I also love Trisha Yearwood, Nickelback, Matchbox 20, Barenaked Ladies, John Mayer, Joss Stone, and Melissa Etheridge. It's a good bet I've got music on in the background no matter what I'm doing and it could be anything from Melissa Etheridge's "Kiss Me" to Custom's "Beat Me" to Alanis Morisette's cover of "Let's Do It (Let's Fall in Love)". I was raised on country music but I can find something to like in most genres.

Shows: Big Bang Theory, Marvel's Agents of S. H. I. E. L. D., Bones, Criminal Minds, I spent a month or so binging the Travel Channel show Dead Files on Netflix and wish I could find something similar to watch now that I've exhausted all those episodes. Any recommendations? We don't have cable so most of what I watch is on Netflix. I recently decided to try Hulu so I can branch out a bit more now!

Food: I'm not a picky eater and I'm generally pretty adventurous. I can almost always find something I'm willing to try at any restaurant but I'm going to have an easier time at Mexican, Italian, or Chinese places. I have to have Chinese buffet every so often or I go a little crazy; it's one of my weaknesses!
Six things I could never do without
We shall just assume the basics are covered, shall we?

Books, plenty of books.
My journals.
My cell phone/iPad.
Pretty string to play with and make things.
Time with friends and family.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'm going to do in the future. What book I want to read next. Why people that specify "new friends" or "activity partners" in their "Looking For" section want them to be single.
On a typical Friday night I am
Am probably working lately. I'd much rather be either at home curled on the couch with a good book and the TV or a CD on or out with my boyfriend Phil62702 having fun re-exploring St. Louis.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm polyamorous. This does not make me a slut, a bad person, or promiscuous. It also doesn't guarantee I'm sleeping with you. It doesn't mean I won't sleep with you either. I'm fond of saying I don't do casual sex but I do sex casually. (Translated: I am not looking for one-night stands or random hook ups; I prefer to have some type of relationship with the people I sleep with even if that's just friends.) I'm not going to think we're creating a life together because we've been in bed together nor am I going to assume we're going to see each other constantly or even regularly. I'm fine with friends with benefits; happy to have them, but the first part of that is "friends" not "benefits." You're going to have to TRY and get to know me before I think jumping (or falling, sliding, tumbling, etc.) into bed with you is an excellent idea. A brief couple messages exchanged does not count as getting to know me.
You should message me if
Feel free to message me if you have questions or comments. I love making new friends but I warn you, if you message me I'm going to respond to what you write. If you really want a conversation with me beyond "Thanks for your message! [Babbling about your message here.] Take care!" please write something I can respond to. I am becoming increasingly disillusioned with two line messages of little to no substance followed up by an inquiry as to why I didn't write more back. Just sayin'.

You didn't run scared when you saw the words "open relationship" in my introduction. I really am on here for new friends and activity partners. Yes, I'm in an open relationship but I am looking for friends as well as people to date; if something would develop from that, excellent! But that isn't the sole purpose of my profile here.

You have a book you think I should try, a movie you think I should see, or a restaurant you think I would like. I love recommendations!

Better yet, you want to! Maybe something in my profile made you think of yourself, maybe something made you laugh, or maybe you just liked what you read. I'm a fun and quirky girl with a great sense of humor. I'm up for just about anything from a quiet dinner to drinks to hanging out at the bookstore! Why don't we see what trouble we can get into?
The two of us