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My self-summary
I spend my weekends playing board games, (like Puerto Rico, Trains, RA, Village, Terra.... not Monopoly!) drinking tea, and thinking about all the work I should be doing but am not.

During the week I'm at UCL studying for a PhD in Crime Science which mostly consists of thinking about all the work I should be doing, but am not.

Despite hating my photo being taken I occasionally feel compelled to update the pictures of me on here so people can actually get an idea of what I look like - I'd like to think I'm not quite so miserable in person as I appear in the photos.

I'm pansexual, single, and here to make friends with or without benefits; just be honest about what you're interested in if you do message me.
What I’m doing with my life
Studying at UCL by day. Studying at home by night (or playing computer games. Mainly this to be honest.)
I’m really good at
Making cheesecake. And being completely oblivious to subtle or implied meanings in conversation. Seriously, I seem incapable of taking what someone says at anything but face value. Forgive me!
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm told my pictures don't really show what I really look like (thankfully I'm told this is, "But in a good way") and that I look completely different when I'm wearing contact lenses or glasses. I could totally be Superman, right?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by Philip K Dick, Tolkien, Pullman, Gladwell. To be honest most of these sorts of books are on hold as I trawl through academic papers for uni.

Movies: Cloud Atlas brings me close to tears every time I watch it but I haven't opened the floodgates just yet. Anything by Chris Nolan (such a fanboy of his now). I prefer Sci-Fi and films that have something to say that makes you actually think about something in a new way. Horror and RomComs don't interest me in the slightest.

TV: The Blacklist - James Spader became one of my favourite actors when I blitzed through Boston Legal. Person of Interest. House of Cards is a show I can watch again and again (until season 3. What the hell happened?!) so if you haven't seen it and want to let's do it! I'm also about half way through The West Wing rewatch, and Fringe.

Music: I'm mostly into classical music and instrumental soundtracks - Einaudi, Giacchino, Zimmer, Rachmaninoff, Saint-Saens, Gershwin, etc.
Six things I could never do without
Tea (I drink it almost non-stop!)

Snuggles (The non-tea-drinking time. Good during films.)

Board games. Sad as it may sound to some I've really got into these in the last couple of years. I don't mean Monopoly or Scrabble but if you know TRAINS!, Puerto Rico, Galaxy Trucker, Love Letter, Coup, Smallworld, PowerGrid, Village, Through the Ages, Last Will, Clash of Cultures, Archipelago... well we will get on. I've been to Essen Spiel the last two years and spent far too much money. Is there a rehab for board game addicts?

A challenge - preferably a mental one; I'm not proficient at scaling physical mountains.

Sex. It's perfectly easy to enjoy it and still treat everyone with respect and decency.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What am I doing? Is it worthwhile? How can I make the world a better place? No, seriously, I could be doing more right? There's nothing worse than coming out of a Batman film and thinking, "Why aren't I helping people more?" but then I remember that I am trying to do good and although it might not be much I'm constantly reminded of this scene from Cloud Atlas:

Haskell Moore: No matter what you do it will never amount to anything more than a single drop in a limitless ocean.
Adam Ewing: What is an ocean but a multitude of drops?

A lot of random crap like that goes through my head. It's not all that serious though. Sometimes it's just, "Do I want Jaffa Cakes or Custard Creams?"
On a typical Friday night I am
At home watching a film. I prefer the company of a few good friends over a nice meal than a plethora of drunk nutters. I've got nothing against people who want to go out and drink a couple of nights a week, but it's just not for me. To each their own; it would be a boring world if we were all the same.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty open about everything so there's not much to put here, so I'll go with things other people might not be so keen to divulge:
1. I have HIV and I'm on meds and have an undetectable viral load. For those that don't know what that means (and I've no reason to expect you do unless you're a gay guy) it basically means I can't pass it on. This really isn't an issue; we're not living in the 80s and it causes me no problems at all. Hayfever is worse.
2. I have one rather large piercing. You won't see it in the publicly available pictures on here.
3. I'm interested in and attracted to people across the gender spectrum. I really can't comprehend why this is seen as taboo by so many people. Society is weird.
You should message me if
You're interested in chatting, meeting up for a drink (of tea), and maybe more. If you're miles and miles away or just want to chat online, then I wouldn't waste our time. There are loads of places to chat; this site is for meeting people.
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