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My self-summary
I am grateful for every little thing.
I moved to Tacoma with my "open relationship" boyfriend. He will never marry me and he doesn't care if I leave him because his jam bands are more important than someone who has stood by him and shown nothing but loyalty, honesty and actually waaaaayyyyy too much patience. So now I'm here renewing my already quite cynical idea that there might be someone out there who wouldn't mind having a real friend. At the very least, a very passionate and animated friend!

I am also looking forward to going on my dream date of sushi on a sailboat on the sea at sunset. Ha! Shelly dreams of sushi on a sailboat on the sea at sunset!
I am a very sensually passionate person who enjoys sharing touch and intimacy in all facets of a deep and meaningful relationship. Holding hands while walking together is nice....

Dancing is one of my biggest passions. Can you show me a new step? Are you a good lead? Can you use a good follower?

I have a grown son who's the joy of my life but lives too far, and an 10 year old Pug who still lives with me. My Pug is permanent in my life, so if you don't like dogs I won't date you.

I want to be in love. I believe in love. I want a best friend and partner in love. I want to laugh with my love, sing with my love, dance with/for my love, cry with my love...take sunset beach strolls, and take long hot bubble baths with my love.... cook great food, drink yummy wine, make love divine... I want to share joy, share sorrow, share pain, share tomorrow with my love... Wake up with the sunrise to the lovin touch of my love....

I have tried the polyamory thing. I'm not being fulfilled by it. I feel more confused emotionally, and feel more alone and empty than I did before. Maybe it's just that I tried it with someone who can't share their emotions verbally? I am open to learning more, but it will take time to gain my trust. The more communication, the more trust. I do believe there are people out there that know how to, and WANT to help make someone feel connected, safe, and WANTED emotionally, physically and mentally in a relationship. Want to turn me on? Be GENUINELY interested in me as a person first. I know I have great tits, and cute dimples. I would try to do me too, if I met me in a coffee shop and we made eye contact and if I got a smile. Still, guys, we really do want to be liked before we're "loved"...most of us anyway. I absolutely guarantee it! hahaha! And try not to use pretty words unless you mean it. I don't like to hear insincerity in a compliment, or passionate words used in passionate encounter. Don't tell me some line and think I haven't heard it in a song long before I met you trying that on me. I been singing the blues a long time, and I'm done with it.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I'm recovering from double, total hip replacement surgeries last summer. I'm also studying to add small animal massage to my certifications in massage modalities. I want to specialize in helping humans get closer with their pets to help with preventive healthcare.
I’m really good at
Baking, dancing, massage, survival, and helping people. Control and surrender; getting people to feel comfortable with the gift of healing touch; being a friend, being loyal, honest and loving. I'm also good at communicating and expressing my feelings; listening to other people's feelings; and talking about uncomfortable things comfortably.
The first things people usually notice about me
My cute dimples! Or my unique hair color/style. I'm not other people, and I don't usually ask what they notice about me first, so I can only go with what I see, and those are the first things I notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love reading anything from Music Composition, Learning to Play Piano, Bass or Singing books; to fiction like Laurell K. Hamilton, Dean Koontz, Stephen Kings Dark Tower Series; all kinds of metaphysical and spiritual books, cookbooks; books on sailing, living aboard sailboats; books on how to best take care of my Pug, and poetry. I don't watch a lot of TV because I'd rather play music, dance or go to a music show. When I watch TV it's usually John Stewart and The Corbert Report, a movie with LOTS of explosions, scary events, comedy or thriller, or the music channels. I love reggae, jazz, blues, bluegrass, some country from the dust bowl era to about the 1970's. I also love funk, soul, hiphop, and some rap. I sing a lot of jazz and some blues/rock. Love and music are my religion.
*As far as food and drink go, I LOVE SUSHI!, Indian food, Asian food of all kinds, GOOD Mexican, Italian, Greek, trying New cheeses and just all around GOOD food lover. I appreciate a good Porter or Stout beer, and a nice juicy glass of Red Wine very much. I also love a good whiskey and brandy. Being back in Seattle for almost three years, I've gained an appreciation for cocktails and happy hour as well. Watch your girlfriends if I'm drinkin tequila...
Six things I could never do without
Loving sensuality, healing touch, creative expression, Prissy the Love Pug (I could live without her when she dies, but I'll miss her!), music and air.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I'm gonna get my sailboat. Whether or not there is actually someone special out there for me. Why people emotionally manipulate someone for their own pleasure even when they know it hurts the other person. Why another human can watch someone they say they care about suffer, yet help and reach out to humans who are disrespectful to that person who is suffering. If there will ever be world peace. The next time I get to have Sushi, go sailing, dance, sing, laugh, cry, feel...
On a typical Friday night I am
Looking for the next opportunity to get on a sailboat, go dancing, play music with friends or just chill.... There is, never has been and never will be a typical anything for me.... I have accepted that and am over it already...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a reincarnation of myself.
You should message me if
You want to take me out for Sushi and Dirty Gin Martinis. You think we could have some fun together, and be friends first. You want to teach or learn with me how to make Sushi, be a better Sailor, Salsa dance, make me laugh (I could use a good laugh), give me a massage (strictly therapeutic), or you want a massage from me. You should message me if you would like to get together and play music, write songs together and encourage creative expression.

Also, if you rated me highly, message me because I am not going to upgrade my account so I can contact you. I am here to look for love, so if you are too, maybe taking a chance on messaging me would be a good thing.
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