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My self-summary
I am interested in creating multiple consensual, ethical and, yes, committed loving relationships. As a friend said, I'm interested in poly~amory, not just poly~fuckery. :-)

I am not currently in a relationship, poly or otherwise, but I am dating non-exclusively.

I have many varied interests and greatly enjoy learning new things, often simply for the sake of learning. I like taking classes, attending meetups, or reading about new areas of interest. I enjoy many artistic and creative endeavors: Sculpture, Figure Drawing, Ecstatic Dance, going to the theatre or theater, concerts and live music of any kind, art museums and art shows, and lots of other stuff that helps keep Austin weird. I like card games, board games and bedroom games, but not head games. I'm a big music fan, especially the Beatles, and I enjoy collecting their records and memorabilia. I'm also somewhat of a 60's throwback in my approach to life and value set. Something along the lines of "peace, love and understanding," but I only do two of the "sex, drugs and rock-n-roll" bit. I don't live in the past, nor in the future. Instead I try very hard to remain as much in the moment as possible.

I strive to maintain balance in most things: work/play, seriousness/fun, activity/contemplation, knowledge/experience, left brain/right brain, masculine/feminine, yin/yang, etc. I'm not very political at all, but my ideals and values are clearly more on the liberal side and I do get involved with social causes that I resonate with from time to time. Humor, though, is a must! I especially enjoy word play and double entendres. Sarcasm is not my strong suit, however, and I’m not typically fond of it in others.

Sex is very important to me, but I'm not looking for one night stands. Rather, I'm more interested in deep, passionate, connected intimacy that I believe stems from being genuine and real with each other through complete, open and honest communication. It's a connection that can develop over time or be there from the start. It's not just sexual chemistry, though that's an important part, it's the whole connection: physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional. Charles and Caroline Muir label it "conscious loving" in their book "Tantra, the Art of Conscious Loving." I'm generally a gentle and passionate lover and prefer long love making sessions that combine passion, play, humor, excitement, adventure, nurturing and intimacy. I am attracted to women who are in touch with their Goddess nature, confidently, passionately and actively participating in love making, and do not see sex as a "duty" or a tool for getting what they want.
What I’m doing with my life
After 25 years in Corporate America, I returned to school to earn a Doctor in Human Sexuality degree from the Institute for Advanced Study in Human Sexuality in San Francisco. I now have a private practice helping others to achieve their full sexual potential.

In spite of enriching and intellectually stimulating jobs, hobbies and activities, I continue to search for deeper meaning to my life. In the past 15-20 years, I've become interested in many new-age/metaphysical interests such as non-violent communication (also called compassionate communication or NVC), yoga, meditation, tantra, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, law of attraction, aromatherapy, massage therapy, orgasmic meditation, and especially ecstatic or contact improv dance.

Spirituality is very important to me, but I don't resonate well with most of the popular religious disciplines. Religious dogma in general, and areas such as evangelism, fundamentalism, a judging God, going to hell, and other "morality" based aspects do not appeal to me at all. The spirituality discussed in the "Conversations with God" book series probably comes closest, though there are things in there that don't fit well either. Buddhism has a definite appeal, and I am trying to learn more about it, but I mostly prefer to just believe what I believe without having it fit into any particular label. Most importantly, though, I believe we each have our own spiritual journey that is for each of us to determine and pursue on our own terms and in our own way. I do enjoy learning about and talking about spirituality and "life's big questions" with open-minded people, whether we agree or not.

Re-reading the above makes it sound very serious, which I suppose on one level it is, but I really try to enjoy every moment and see humor and lightness in everything I do, including spirituality. If you resonate with the works of any of the following authors, I'm sure we'll have a lot in common: David Richo, Charles Eisenstein, Marshall Rosenberg, Marianne Williamson, Deepak Chopra, Eckhart Tolle, Margot Anand, Neale Donald Walsh.
I’m really good at
Loving. In all it's flavors. As a verb and a noun. Loving deeply, loving unconditionally, feeling love, making love, giving love, receiving love, living love, being love. When I can take away all the crap of the day-to-day world, only love remains.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no clue. Some people think I look a little like Bill Murray.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite movies: Big, E.T., A Hard Day's Night, Sideways, A Beautiful Mind, Dodge Ball, The Piano, Gandhi, Good Will Hunting, Dead Poet's Society, Rain Man, The Gods Must Be Crazy, or just about any Marx Brothers movie.

Music: I love music (though I can't play anything!) and enjoy almost all genres. Way too many to list all my favorites but some of the ones that come to mind are: Beatles, solo Beatles, "Pet Sounds", Dan Hicks and His Hot Licks, Dido, Liz Phair, The Corrs, most all 60's British Invasion, Tears for Fears, John Mayer, Coltrane, Boney James, smooth jazz, Sixpence None the Richer, Shawn Colvin, Indigo Girls, The Go-Go's, melodic female vocals a la the Lilith Fair concerts, Simon and/or Garfunkel, Harry Nilsson, James Taylor, Late 60's-early 70's Rick Nelson, and the quiet singer-songwriter playing in the small, dimly-lit, romantic club where you and I sit and gaze into each other's eyes discussing the meaning of life.

Books: I read a lot and usually have several books partially read at the same time (many of which I never actually "finish"). Nothing fiction, I mostly enjoy books on love, spirituality, new-age topics, sexuality, self-help, the Beatles, Rock 'n Roll. Some favorite authors include Neale Donald Walsh, Marianne Williamson, Eckhart Tolle, Margot Anand, David Deida, Wayne Dyer, Bruce Spizer, Mark Lewisohn

Food: I'm more vegetarian than not, but I do eat meat (mostly chicken) as well as dairy. I do try to keep it fairly healthy, but I'm not a fanatic about it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I have private things that I enjoy sharing with an individual, but not necessarily with everyone. I’m pretty much an open book in person and generally prefer deep discussions around sex, spirituality or social issues to “small talk.”
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