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My self-summary
A match has to make you feel the way you want to feel. Physical attributes that seem so important in the beginning become superficial. Height, weight, hair color, job and all those sorts of things that may have attracted you initially and made your chest swell with pride when you walk into a party together will be at the bottom of the list describing Character. That's because what you are looking for is the experience of you. And the things that will create this for you will be values, personality style and interaction style, and the way we make each other feel.
What I’m doing with my life
I assume you are most interested in my thoughts on a first date with you, so here it goes:

Go for a walk - This is such a simple first date idea but most shy away from it because they feel like they must do something complex in order for their date to be impressed. Wrong! The only ideas you need to impress your date with are the ones that you articulate as your conversation progresses. If you are an interesting person and have found a fun person to spend time with, rest assured that a walk about town will be just fine. Remember, the idea is to leave your date wanting more. As a warning, you may be tempted to start talking about previous relationships. Don’t. That’s not how to get over an ex. Rather, enjoying the company of a fun new person without dwelling on the past will serve you best!

Watch an outdoor movie – Going to a movie is pretty worn out in the world of first date ideas. You can resurrect it in a fun way by going to see a movie outdoors or, even better, at a drive-in movie theater if you still happen to have one near where you live.

Create your own picnic – Pick a nice spot near where you’re meeting up and swing by a grocery store or take-out restaurant for some quick eats before setting up camp for food and conversation with your new favorite person. There’s no need to spend a lot of money. Picnics are supposed to be simple and you want it to be about getting to know your date, not truffles wrapped in gold foil!
I’m really good at
Making you feel great. I’m the type of partner who will plan a surprise weekend getaway to a cozy little B&B on the coast where we can snuggle in bed or watch the waves crashing on the shore.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am truly interested in meeting people and open to learning about who they are. You will get this in a first impression. We have all had the experience of meeting someone and knowing instantly that they were dragged here by a friend and are just waiting to get out the door and head home. When I am meeting someone for the first time I approach them with a genuine interest in who they are. This is often contagious and I find I have better conversations and lasting connections when I am interested because you become interested.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Coming Revolution on Your Desktop–from Personal Computers to Personal Fabrication, by Neil Gershenfeld. Gershenfeld explains why he thinks the next big technological revolution will be toward personal fabrication: the ability to design and produce your own products in your home.

The World Until Yesterday: What Can We Learn from Traditional Societies?, by Jared Diamond. Diamond reminds us how humans lived in traditional societies, and what the differences between their lives and ours mean.

What Is Intelligence?: Beyond the Flynn Effect, by James Flynn. The intelligence researcher explains his view of just what that nebulous term means.

Sex at Dawn, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. Ryan and his co-author (and wife) Jetha mine the past to debunk myths about our sexuality and fidelity.

Fantasies of Flight, by Daniel Ogilvie. Ogilvie argues for a return to older ways of considering personality.

Charity Case: How the Nonprofit Community Can Stand Up For Itself and Really Change the World, by Dan Pallotta.

Practical Ethics, by Peter Singer.
Six things I could never do without
1. Good health- Without it you are miserable and cannot enjoy life to the fullest, you really realize how much you take it for granted when it's gone.
2. Good Relationship with Family- Good support system, people to go to when things aren't going well. People you can trust.
3. Finding Happiness- However that may be, pretty self-explanatory.
4. Being in Loving Relationship- Brings happiness and someone you can trust, love, care for, etc.
5. A Career I love-that allows you to have a roof over your head and provide all your basic needs.
6. My kids-Most important. duh
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Commitments – Most of us have filled our days full from beginning to end with time commitments: work, home, kid’s activities, community events, religious endeavors, hobbies… the list goes on. When possible, I try to release from the time commitments that are not in line with your greatest values.
Goals – I attempt to reduce the number of goals you are intentionally striving for in your life to one or two. By reducing the number of goals that you are striving to accomplish, you will improve your focus and your success rate. Make a list of the things that you want to accomplish in your life and choose the two most important. When you finish one, add another from your list.
Negative Thoughts – Most negative emotions are completely useless. Resentment, bitterness, hate, and jealousy have never improved the quality of life for a single human being. Take responsibility for your mind. I try to forgive past hurts and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
Possessions - Too many material possessions complicate our lives to a greater degree than we ever give them credit. They drain our bank account, our energy, and our attention. They keep us from the ones we love and from living a life based on our values. If you will invest the time to remove nonessential possessions from your life, you will never regret it.
Words – I try to use fewer words.(you'd never guess that here) I try to keep speech plain and honest. Mean what I say. Avoid gossip.
On a typical Friday night I am
Nothing means more to me than spending the weekend cheering on my sons in their games.
You should message me if
You want to meet me.
The two of us