31 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I've lived in Oakland for nearly a decade now, and while parts of my heart belong to New York, and the East Bay feels like home, I've got my eye on putting roots down somewhere its actually affordable.

I cut my political teeth in the Bay and have a lot of loving community here. Who I am and how I see the world is very much shaped by these things and for that I'm thankful.

I'm really lucky in that I get paid to work with grassroots organizations to strengthen their racial justice practice. I'm also co-writing a book about organizations from the 70's and 80's who took direct action against racism. History, social justice, organizing and the many things that fall into that bucket are pretty important to me, which means two things 1. I'll gladly talk your ear off (consensually) and 2. if you're you're not interested in this kind of thing we won't be a good match.

I like good clean fun like getting a bunch of people together to play laser tag (most often losing to the professional 12 year olds in Concord) and doing meaningful things for friends like making signs and bringing balloons to their shows. Friends have described me are fiery and earnest and caring. In that order.

I put a lot of energy, if not all of it, into becoming a more connected person to my values and things I care about. That includes making more time for enlivening things (like contra dancing!), reconstructing the relationships I have with my family, healing trauma with community organizers, and arranging my life well to eventually have an awesome, loving family.

And this last point is part and parcel to the fact I'm looking for a sincere partnership with a longer term intention to have a family. If this doesn't fall within your wheel well, cool, just keep moving.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a trainer of anti-racist political education and non-violent direct action. I'm studying to be a somatics practitioner and am learning how to knit again.
I’m really good at
running long distances,
taking care of my physical and emotional health,
riding my bike toward or next to bodies of water,
and making chicken noises (i used to be a nanny, so this was a hit).
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably tattoos. Or my jacket. People love my jacket.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
How Green Was My Valley; Parable of the Sower; Out of This Furnace; The Art of Racing in the Rain; Hillbilly Nationalist, Urban Race Rebels, and Black Power: Community Organizing in Radical Times; The Fire Next Time; Caliban and the Witch (!!!), The Ecology of Freedom

Refused, Cary Ann Hearst, the Boss, Hiretsukan, The Weakerthans, Converge, Songs: Ohia/ Magnolia Electric Co., (early) AFI, Sick of it All, William Elliot Whitmore, Mika Miko, Usher, Built to Spill, Lemuria, Neko Case, Suicide File, Dag Nasty, I-Spy, Pete Seeger, Wilco, Saves the Day, Justin Townes Earle, 112, Sun Kil Moon, Botch, Chuck Ragan, Engineer, The Cave Singers, Ralph Stanley

Death at a Funeral, The Birdcage, Blue Valentine, Shaun of the Dead, Twister, Away We Go, The Wind that Shakes the Barley, Freeway, Super Troopers, Tremors, Nine to Five, Princess Bride

Burritos, beats, almond butter, blue berries, vegan flan, Ethiopian food.
The six things I could never do without
dogs x10,
politicized healing (somatics),
hiking in remote places,
and the Sonoma County coast line.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
*social change and how everyone is needed in that.
*that dropping out of my PhD program was one of best choices ive ever made
*and dogs eating chips. its one of my favorite things that i can't explain.
On a typical Friday night I am
mostly like any other night, which includes
hanging out with friends,
walking without destination,
at meditation,
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I wear frumpy pajamas. And I used to be punk.
You should message me if
you already know who you are, what you want in life, and you're reasonably stoked on that.

you have Left (which is not the same as liberal) politics and you feel positive about calling yourself a feminist. you dont have to wear a badge, but you have sincere time in on understandings why that's legit.

you have invested a fair amount of energy in your own emotional literacy (knowing why and how you feel things). To be frank, if this last part is confusing or you just felt dismissive, it's likely you should not message me.

and, you have the hook up at a paintball range.