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My self-summary
Hello, I'm traveling a lot this summer, so send a message with patience and ideally substance if you're game!

I've lived in Oakland for nearly a decade now, and while parts of my heart belong to New York, and the East Bay feels like home, I've got my eye on putting roots down where its actually affordable.

I cut my political teeth in the Bay and have a lot of loving community here. Who I am and how I see the world is very much shaped by these things and for that I'm thankful.

I'm a sucker for vestiges of white ethnic culture, am currently engulfed in family history, and believe strongly in poor and working class people's strategies for fundamental social change. This is pretty important to me, which means two things: 1. I'd happily talk your ear off about this and more 2. We won't be a good match if you have no idea or interest in what this means.

I know that I'm impulsive in nature, but intentional in action. I like to plan and map things out. It's nerdy, but give me butcher paper and markers and we could power-map any situation, be it the three next laser-tag tournaments, or white anti-racist organizing and movement-building in the US. Other ways friends have described me are fiery and earnest and caring. In that order.

I put a lot of energy, if not all of it, into becoming a more connected person to my values and things I care about. That includes making more time for fun and alivening things (like contra dancing!), reconstructing the relationships I have with my family, healing trauma with community organizers so we can be more effective and compelling in social and environmental justice movements, and arranging my life well to eventually have a family.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a teacher and trainer of anti-racist political education and non-violent direct action. I also study somatics and am learning how to knit again.
I’m really good at
running long distances,
taking care of my physical and emotional health,
riding my bike toward or next to bodies of water,
and making chicken noises (i used to be a nanny, so this was a hit).
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably tattoos. Or my jacket. People love my jacket.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
How Green Was My Valley; Parable of the Sower; Out of This Furnace; The Art of Racing in the Rain; Hillbilly Nationalist, Urban Race Rebels, and Black Power: Community Organizing in Radical Times; The Fire Next Time; Caliban and the Witch (!!!), The Ecology of Freedom

Refused, Cary Ann Hearst, the Boss, Hiretsukan, The Weakerthans, Converge, Songs: Ohia/ Magnolia Electric Co., (early) AFI, Sick of it All, William Elliot Whitmore, Mika Miko, Usher, Built to Spill, Lemuria, Neko Case, Suicide File, Dag Nasty, I-Spy, Pete Seeger, Wilco, Saves the Day, Justin Townes Earle, 112, Sun Kil Moon, Botch, Chuck Ragan, Engineer, The Cave Singers, Ralph Stanley

Death at a Funeral, The Birdcage, Blue Valentine, Shaun of the Dead, Twister, Away We Go, The Wind that Shakes the Barley, Freeway, Super Troopers, Tremors, Nine to Five, Princess Bride

Burritos, beats, almond butter, blue berries, vegan flan, Ethiopian food.
The six things I could never do without
dogs x10,
politicized healing (somatics),
medicinal herbs,
and the Sonoma County coast line.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
*social change and how everyone is needed in that.
*that dropping out of my PhD program was one of best choices ive ever made
*and dogs eating chips. its one of my favorite things that i can't explain.
On a typical Friday night I am
hanging out with friends,
walking without destination,
writing my human rights pen pal in prison,
at meditation,
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I seek out articulated buses so I can sit in the joint and pretend I'm at the boardwalk enjoying a low level roller coaster ride.
You should message me if
you already know who you are, what you want in life, and you're reasonably stoked on that.

you have Left (which is not the same as liberal) politics and you generally feel positive about calling yourself a feminist. you dont have to wear a badge, but you have sincere time in on understandings why that's legit.

you have invested a fair amount of energy in your own emotional literacy (knowing why and how you feel things). To be frank, if this last part is confusing or you just felt dismissive, it's likely you should not message me.

and, you have the hook up at a paintball range.