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My self-summary
Hello Stranger!

I suppose you've come to this page to find out about me - so I'll put aside that self-conscious feeling of overindulgence I get when I talk about myself and get on with it.

Where to start... I was born. Growing up was all about running amok in the forest, community-oriented alternative education, and orchestrating grand theatrical productions with my siblings and friends, whilst wearing a tea cozy on my head, with my cowlick sticking out the spout slit.

One day I forgot the route back to Neverland, and gave myself over to more adult pursuits. I built a small consulting company with my PhD supervisors to occupy my time - work that involves creating statistical models of grass, bugs and houses burning down (it's frightfully sexy). My torturous thesis was a hybrid of computer science and evolutionary biology - creating artificial worlds in computers, so I could perform experiments on the inhabitants.

I'm ethical non-monogamous (relationship anarchist - the responsible kind), idealistic, open/honest to a fault, think that communication is paramount in all relationships and get on best with people who are like minded in that respect. I think the world would be a better place if people were just nice and looked after each other.

I'm pretty open with what I'm seeking on here. I tend to be attracted to people who break the life/relationship script. Ideally I'd like to create something enduring (letting things grow organically), but also value fleeting romances. I'd also like to make new friendships, with people who are either poly, poly curious or poly friendly. If you are this, and it's not clear on your profile, shoot me a message to give heads up.
What I’m doing with my life
Jeez Mum! Get off my case! I'll sort it out soon.

I'm still recovering from the trauma of finishing a ridiculously overdue thesis. Seriously, what a fucker! I am, however, looking forward to the day when airline staff ask me to assist in an emergency amputation, because I insist on calling myself "Doctor" when checking in.

I enjoy the freedom of solo living. I'm rather spoilt with my place - a bluestone building (pictured above), part of a heritage listed manor, which now houses a cafe. I live in one of the back buildings, in what used to be the mistress' apartment - which (scandalously) is connected via a secret door to the chapel. It's like a cross between Hobbiton, Hogwarts and Home. It has all the hallmarks of a promising love shack, but I'm happy to travel for a date.
I’m really good at
Avoiding questions that require me to talk myself up in an overt manner.

For some reason, I feel most liberated in my writing when being self-deprecating. I've got qualities which could be good or bad, depending on who you're asking. I certainly don't presume to be everybody's cup of tea. Rather than attempt a boast, I prefer to ramble and flourish my flaws; spinning them like golden coins, so they'll simultaneously bedazzle the ones who are right for me, whilst deterring the ones who aren't.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm an introvert and usually shy around strangers. That is, until I break some seal by blurting out something ridiculously personal about myself, after which, I'll happily run around under your garden sprinkler without any clothes!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ah... The inevitable what really matters is "what you like", not "what you are like" section.

Books: Kurt Vonnegut's Breakfast of Champions, Gabriel Garcia Marquez's A Hundred Years of Solitude, George Orwell's 1984, Margaret Atwood's Blind Assassin, Tom Robbins' Still Life with Woodpecker, Shakespeare's Midsummer Night's Dream, William Goldman's Princess Bride and Dr. Seuss' Star-Bellied Sneetches

Movies: Me and You and Everyone We Know, The Purple Rose of Cairo, Withnail & I, Pan's Labyrinth, Dogs in Space, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Harold and Maude, Cinema Paradiso, Velvet Goldmine, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind and The Texas Chainsaw Massacre.

Music: The Smiths, The Go-Betweens, The Lucksmiths, Lloyd Cole, Hefner, Pulp, Cat Stevens, Bowie, Field Mice, Cure, Belle and Sebastian, Magnetic Fields, Yo La Tengo, Iggy Pop, Kings of Convenience, Shins, New Order, Radio Dept., Vetiver, Nick Drake, Broken Social Scene, Van Morrison, etc... Radio is pretty much fixed on RRR.

Food: Ice cream
The six things I could never do without
I could never do a profile without a list.
I could never do a picnic without a tree.
I could never do a road trip without a daggy singalong.
I could never do a bicycle ride without a seat.
I could never do a date without an enthusiastic accomplice.
I could never do a philosophical discussion without a mildly addictive drink (actually, scratch that, I just need oxygen).
I could never do a question without breaking the rules.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about expression in writing; I'm perfectionist and I obsess about clearly articulating my rambling nonsensical thoughts. Often I over think and rewrite sentences so much that I create little monsters that no one can understand but me. With a pride reminiscent of Frankenstein, I let these miscreants flutter out into the world, like demented butterflies, and wonder that other's hearts don't break on encountering their beauty.
On a typical Friday night I am
flexible... What are you up to?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Despite any outward appearance to the contrary, inside I'm really just a frightened child. I'm an awkward, introspective, introverted type, and tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. Sometimes I feel like the only person in the world who hasn't got their shit together.

With intimates, I am bold, excitable and obscenely chatty (or was that chattily obscene?). I've broken a few beds in my time. No doubt this is more indicative of sturdiness of structure than vigour on my part.
You should message me if
you're a dingledodie! I'm most interested in people who live to think and feel; to talk and listen with compassion; whose values extend beyond materialism and social status; who strive for equality and are sex positive; who have the courage to forge an alternative life script for themselves and seek self fulfilment; who care about others, but are up for a bit of social vandalism.

I'm particularly interested in people who are committed to, or seriously thinking about committing to, a poly lifestyle, but, I don't mind being the "in-between" guy, as long as it's respectful and sincere. No cowgirls...