OxymoronX
41 East London, South Africa
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My self-summary
I am cautiously looking forward to a short holiday in Cape Town.
I shall be flying out early tomorrow morning. Plans are to visit the Kirstenbosch Botanical Gardens, wander around the V&A Waterfront and The Biscuit Mill and take in some light theatre in the form of Joseph and his Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat.

I wonder why I have the jitters?

Greetings, Earthling!
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Quizzes, questions and, sporadically, conversation: these are why I have remained a user of OKCupid for several years.

In this time, I have been in contact with a handful of women, [not all at once] and have been playing Scrabble on Facebook with one of them for the past two years and counting.

I am content with my own company most of the time, and do not think that I would do at well at dating. This should not be taken to mean that I don't want friends, or at least to "meet" people with a view to regular online chats. Online gaming even. Owing to my life circumstances, I cannot turn any potential friendships into romantic relationships.

When I say that I don't want children, I mean that I don't believe that I would make a good parent. I am also not in a position to be able to support, feed, clothe, educate and help the child on the way to adulthood.

Though I have labelled myself as heterosexual and do admire the female form, I feel uncomfortable at the very mention of sexual activity. I don't know whether or not this makes me asexual. How important are these categories if one is not looking to engage in romantic relationships anyway?

When I do go out, and am not shopping/window shopping, I gravitate towards libraries, bookshops, and computer games and hardware stores. My home town could do with more of these - and larger library.

GAMING PERSONA:
Commonly used character names: Aelryce, Andaeriel, Phaerian, Midnyte
Preferred species: Human, most Elf sub-species
Alignment: Lawful good or Chaotic Neutral
Preferred classes: Magic user, rogue, ranger, biotics specialist, tech. specialist

If I could change my profile name without having to pony up the Rand equivalent of $20, it would be something along the lines of BetweenWorlds.
What I’m doing with my life
Dabbling in whatever interests me within a given period, whether or not I am any good at it.

I take pride in my work, but am not a slave to it, and look forward to doing the things that bring me pleasure outside of working hours.

Appreciating the time I spend with my family, close and extended, wherever they are. Though expected, death may come suddenly.
I’m really good at
Daydreaming.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've no idea. This isn't something I ask people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books [By author]

Owing to the number of science fiction and fantasy books at my local library, I have [rather than regularly reading what is available] taken to branching out into the Crime, Medical, and Urban Fantasy genres.

Fantasy and science fiction:
Isaac, Asimov, Iain M. Banks, Peter F. Hamilton, Stephen Baxter, Neil Stephenson, William Gibson, Douglas Adams, David Gemmell, Robert Jordan, J.R.R. Tolkien, Raymond E. Feist, Mary Zucker Reichert, Terry Pratchett

Popular science [By subject]
Astronomy and Cosmology, Genetics, Computers and Technology, the English Language, Prehistory [more specifically the Palaeozoic and Mesozoic eras], Western Mythology, Quantum Mechanics [I can't say that I understand it, nonetheless it intrigues me.]

Crime:
Joe Deaver, Kathy Reichs, J.D. Robb, Karin Slaughter

Medical:
Robin Cook

Other: Janet Evanovich

Comics: Calvin and Hobbes, Dilbert, Madam and Eve, Asterix, Birds of Prey, X-Men/X-Force, Runaways, Firestorm, Avengers, Captain Marvel [Carol Danvers], Ms Marvel [Kamala Khan], Aphrodite IX, Inhumans, Silver Surfer, Guardians of the Galaxy and more. I have a Marvel Unlimited subscription, and buy comics using Humblebundle.com.

Podcasts:
Having tried some alternatives, I find myself returning to iTunes to get my podcast fix. I have managed to pare down my subscriptions to a more reasonable selection since the last time I mentioned podcasts in my profile.

Movies:
I seldom visit a cinema. If I do watch a movie, it will be on ShowMax or Netflix. Most of what broadcast on public television has already shown at least half a dozen times. Though I do, by law, have to pay an annual TV license it serves more as a screen for gaming andwatching rented DVDs, BluRay discs or whatever is available on Netflix/Google Movies/ShowMax.

My cinematic tastes tend toward science fiction and fantasy. I pay little attention to reviews, but watch what I enjoy. Suicide Squad being case in point.

Television:
There is very little on public television that interests me. Now that Netflix has launched in South Africa, I am more likely to watch shows on that platform. During my free month's trial, I managed to get through season one of Daredevil and Jessica Jones, as well as a few movies. My internet connectivity woes are no more. I signed up for uncapped LTE, and cancelled my fixed line service. The service is decidedly more brisk and reliable than my ADSL was!

Music: Mozart, Holst, Tchaikovsky, Bach, Grieg, Elgar, ABBA, Kate Bush, certain film sound tracks.

Computer games:
Primarily role playing games such as Dragon Age and Nox. I have not yet got around to playing any of Bioware's earlier work [Baldur's Gate, etc] I am also a sucker for shoot 'em ups [Star Saviours, Raiden, Demon Star, Raptor, and Enemy Mind, for example] I enjoyed what Quest for Glory games I have played [or tried to play]. Tachyon: The Fringe, Wing Commander IV and Prophecy, Dungeon Keeper 2, Heavenly Sword, Mass Effect 3, and Halo 3 were good, too. So many games, so little time! I have too many games on too many platforms. I know that I should let most of them go, but......inertia.....don't know where to begin.
The six things I could never do without
The love and support of my family: we are very close. [It comes having a Greek parent]

Libraries, because books are expensive, and storage space scarce. Books/magazines/comics: still my primary form of entertainment. [I would happily pay a yearly subscription to belong to a vast online library from which I could read a given number of books a month.]

My job: because most of I need or enjoy has a price tag. [A sense of pride in getting things done doesn't hurt either.]

Modern medicine, in the absence of which I would not exist. [This is beginning to read like the acknowledgements section of an award acceptance speech.]

Time alone: protracted interaction with more than a handful of other humans, especially the rowdier sort, exhausts me.

Bonus points:
My computer and internet connection.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether I am misrepresenting myself in any given situation at any given time.

To what degree my thoughts and ideas are inconsistent with reality.

Whether a given activity is worth pursuing.

The disjuncture between the expectations that some people have of me and my own experience. [Now and then, I need to remind myself to make peace with who and what I am, and not to drive myself to exhaustion trying to live up to the expectations of others. I pushed myself severely at at school, and did reasonably well there through sheer hard work and memorisation, though I struggled with subjects like Maths. Some people anticipated that I would eventually graduate from university. I did not. I hope that they have accepted that I am not as smart and ambitious as they thought.

Whether, whenever I find myself addressing a woman, they suspect me of having ulterior motives when all I am doing is being polite or trying to be helpful, rather than making a nuisance of myself.

Whether I am overthinking the above.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hmmmm....other than stay up later than I would on a work night, I wouldn't say that I do anything that I wouldn't on any other day of the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Once upon a time, I accidentally generated Chlorine gas. I had to open windows and leave the room in a hurry.

I feel intimidated by those who OKCupid's algorithms measure as my closest matches. They are more accomplished and have seen more of the world than I have.
You should message me if
Having read through my profile, you would like to suggest a website, book, computer game, or podcast you think may appeal to me.
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