OxymoronX
41 East London, South Africa
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My self-summary
My short holiday in Cape Town with my family was wonderful, even though it did involve me stepping outside of my comfort zone.

As I still have more than a month's leave due to me, I have applied to take 10 days off. This time, I'll be on my own, and will not be leaving town.

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I am content with my own company most of the time, and do not think that I would do at well at dating. This should not be taken to mean that I don't want friends, or at least to "meet" people with a view to regular online chats-online gaming even. Owing to my life circumstances, any friendships I form here cannot grow into romantic relationships.

When I say that I don't want children, I mean that I don't believe that I would make a good parent. I am also not in a position to be able to support, feed, clothe, educate and help the child on the way to adulthood.

I am an atheist, though not the militant type. I can tolerate religion only up to the point where it does harm, whether physical, emotional, or intellectual.

Though I have labelled myself as heterosexual and do admire the female form, I feel uncomfortable at the very mention of sexual activity. I don't know whether or not this makes me asexual. How important are these categories if one is not looking for casual sex or a life partner in any case.

When I do go out, and am not shopping/window shopping, I gravitate towards libraries, bookshops [I can easily spend most of my time out here. It is easy for me to lose track of time in such places.] , and computer games and hardware stores. My home town could do with more of these - and larger library.
What I’m doing with my life
Dabbling in whatever interests me within a given period, whether or not I am any good at it.

I take pride in my work, but am not a slave to it, and look forward to doing the things that bring me pleasure outside of working hours.

Appreciating the time I spend with my family, close and extended, wherever they are. Though expected, death still has the capacity to shock.
I’m really good at
Daydreaming.
The first things people usually notice about me
My awkward gait, perhaps?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books [By author]

Owing to the number of science fiction and fantasy books at my local library, I have [rather than regularly reading what is available] taken to branching out into the Crime, Medical, and Urban Fantasy genres.

Fantasy and science fiction:
Isaac, Asimov, Iain M. Banks, Peter F. Hamilton, Stephen Baxter, Neil Stephenson, William Gibson, Douglas Adams, David Gemmell, Robert Jordan, J.R.R. Tolkien, Raymond E. Feist, Mary Zucker Reichert, Terry Pratchett

Popular science [By subject]
Astronomy and Cosmology, Genetics, Computers and Technology, the English Language, Prehistory [more specifically the Palaeozoic and Mesozoic eras], Western Mythology, Quantum Mechanics [I can't say that I understand it, nonetheless it intrigues me.]

Crime:
Joe Deaver, Kathy Reichs, J.D. Robb, Karin Slaughter

Medical:
Robin Cook

Other: Janet Evanovich

Comics: Calvin and Hobbes, Dilbert, Madam and Eve, Asterix, Birds of Prey, X-Men/X-Force, Runaways, Firestorm, Avengers, Captain Marvel [Carol Danvers], Ms Marvel [Kamala Khan], Aphrodite IX, Inhumans, Silver Surfer, Guardians of the Galaxy and more. I have a Marvel Unlimited subscription, and buy comics using Humblebundle.com.

Podcasts:
Having tried some alternatives, I find myself returning to iTunes to get my podcast fix. I have managed to pare down my subscriptions to a more reasonable selection since the last time I mentioned podcasts in my profile.

Movies:
I seldom visit a cinema. If I do watch a movie, it will be on ShowMax or Netflix. Most of what broadcast on public television has already shown at least half a dozen times. Though I do, by law, have to pay an annual TV license it serves more as a screen for gaming andwatching rented DVDs, BluRay discs or whatever is available on Netflix/Google Movies/ShowMax.

My cinematic tastes tend toward science fiction and fantasy. I pay little attention to reviews, but watch what I enjoy. Suicide Squad being case in point.

Television:
Currently, nothing. I do take out a subscription for Netflix or Showmax now and then.

Music: Mozart, Holst, Tchaikovsky, Bach, Grieg, Elgar, ABBA, Kate Bush, certain film sound tracks.

Computer games:
Primarily role playing games such as Dragon Age and Nox. I have not yet got around to playing any of Bioware's earlier work [Baldur's Gate, etc] I am also a sucker for shoot 'em ups [Star Saviours, Raiden, Demon Star, Raptor, and Enemy Mind, for example] I enjoyed what Quest for Glory games I have played [or tried to play]. Tachyon: The Fringe, Wing Commander IV and Prophecy, Dungeon Keeper 2, Heavenly Sword, Mass Effect 3, and Halo 3 were good, too. So many games, so little time! I have too many games on too many platforms. I know that I should let most of them go, but......inertia.....don't know where to begin.
The six things I could never do without
The love and support of my family: we are very close. [It comes having a Greek parent]

Libraries, because books are expensive, and storage space scarce. Books/magazines/comics: still my primary form of entertainment. [I would happily pay a yearly subscription to belong to a vast online library from which I could read a given number of books a month.]

My job: because most of I need or enjoy has a price tag. [A sense of accomplish in completing a task as well as I possibly can doesn't hurt either.]

Regular solitude

My computer and its associated LTE internet connection.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether I am misrepresenting myself in any given situation at any given time.

To what degree my thoughts and ideas are inconsistent with reality.

Whether a given activity is worth pursuing.

The disjuncture between the expectations that some people have of me and my own experience. [Now and then, I need to remind myself to make peace with who and what I am, and not to drive myself to exhaustion trying to live up to the expectations of others. I pushed myself severely at at school, and did reasonably well there through sheer hard work and memorisation, though I struggled with subjects like Maths. Throughout this time, I felt like an impostor, and believed that it was only a matter of time before my "luck" ran out. Some people anticipated that I would eventually graduate from university. I did not. I hope that they have accepted, or will come to accept, that I am not as smart and ambitious as they may have thought.

I have been told that I have a tendency to overthink matters, to make them more complicated than they are.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hmmmm....other than stay up later than I would on a work night, I wouldn't say that I do anything that I wouldn't on any other day of the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I listen to conspiracy podcast on iTunes. They're entertaining.

Once upon a time, I accidentally generated Chlorine gas. I had to open windows and leave the room in a hurry.

I feel intimidated by those who OKCupid's algorithms measure as my closest matches. They are more accomplished and have seen more of the world than I have.
You should message me if
Having read through my profile, you would like to...

1) suggest a website, book, computer game, or podcast you think may appeal to me

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