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My self-summary
***Note****: If you are more than 45 minutes away...probably not going to happen. If you are in another state or country...its not going to happen, so don't waste your time or mine please. I am sure you would otherwise make a great match, but I just don't have the time or the ability to travel long distances to make a relationship work where you are more than 45 minutes or so away. I know that being in Plano, that does limit my choices, but I don't want to start something that is doomed to fail from the start. I have a minor daughter and she is the focus of my life as well as some responsibilities in the local political scene in a volunteer position i hold with the Kendall County Democrats. That all takes up a lot of my time, so i need to find someone who lives close by. I just like to he up front and honest and I don't like my time being wasted and I want to give you the same courtesy.

I will be happy to chat and correspond (not into cybering or a long distance if that is what you are looking for...good was fun when i was younger, but now that I am older, it just doesn't interest me.I hope you find what you are looking for...), but I am not interested in a long distance relationship. Being a single parent, I really don't have a lot of extra time, so I would prefer to be able to spend as much time with my partner rather than my car , so that is why I want to keep the distance short.

I am a bisexual, open to polyamorous/open relationships (not a requirement though...I am just open to it)...pretty much just looking for a girlfriend (and/or possibly a boyfriend, though I lean more towards girlfriend...I am very picky when it comes to men, so no hard feelings if I say i am not interested. I am not interested in online play and i am not interested in pickups or casual sex with guys.) right now.I am looking for a serious relationship. I do have some physical disabilities that limit my mobility, but I still try to lead as normal of a life as possible. I really need some companionship and a friend. The stress relief that may come with that wouldn't hurt either ;-).

My ultimate goal is to find someone for a long term relationship...not sure about marriage just yet...but at least a long term relationship. I needs someone I can trust and someone that can be open and honest with me. I am sick of liars, cheaters, and backstabbers. I will be open and honest with you and I expect the same back. I want to know that I will have someone there during the good and the bad and know that they won't give up, just as I won't.

I am a web developer by trade...though I have recently retired, Pagan Minister, disabled Army veteran (yes, I do have some physical issues...but don't let that stop you ;-) ), father, lover, SciFi fan, adventurous, fun loving guy.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a web developer by trade, though I recently retired after 25 years due to medical issues. I still love doing web development and might do some small projects or volunteer my talents to a charitable cause.

I am pretty politically active as well as active on the civil rights scene and currently the Director of IT/Media/Marketing for the Kendall County Democrats and a Precinct Committeeman in my precinct. Being involved in our political processes is important. Democracy is not a spectator sport.

I am co-founder of Fox Valley Pride. We started that mainly as a protest group when Chik-Fil-A opened up in Oswego, IL and we wanted to protest it. We are trying to steer it into more of a social organization that focuses on LGBTQ rights. We serve mainly Kane and Kendall Counties in IL.

I am also very active in the antifa movement, which is a movement that tries to root out fascism wherever it may be festering. In the past I have been part of the Occupy movement. I also do a lot with religious freedom as it relates to Pagans and heathens and was part of the campaign that eventually got the VA to approve the use of the Pentagram, the Druidic Awen and Thor's Hammer (Mjolnir) on VA provided headstones for deceased veterans.

I used to do a lot to help protest against severe limitations to the woman's right to an abortion and did a lot of clinic defenses when i lived in the south. I very much believe in a woman's right to chose. Personally, I am very much against abortions, but I realize that I have no right to push that on anyone else...even my partner.

So that is pretty much what i do with my life. I would love to find someone that is equally interested in this so that they could participate in these activities with me.

I also love to be outdoors and I love photography. This past spring, I finally buckled down and bought a DSLR (Nikon D5500) and I love to go out and photograph nature in all of her splendor! We have a lot of cool places in the area to go so I love to get out when i can and go to places like Silver Springs State park, Starved Rock, Matthesin State Park, McKinnley Woods and other local gems that we have here in IL. I used to camp a lot when I was younger (10 1/2 years as a Boy Scout to include 3 years as a camp counselor), but unfortunately, my physical limitations make it difficult. I do have a tent and camping gear and I need to find gear to help accommodate me because I really love camping and i don;t want to let my physical limitations to limit me any more than absolutely necessary! When i can afford to do so, I also like to travel to surrounding states and visit their treasures as well.
I’m really good at
Technical things, computers, gaming, debating and arguing, problem solving, sex (i would like to think so anyway), children (I used to be good at making them, but I am snipped and only shoot blanks these days hehe), animals, fixing things, being a complete PIA.
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyes and my bald head
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Michael Morecock, Marion Zimmer Bradley, Tolkien, WIlliam Blake, Katharine Kurtz, Anne McCaffrey, Anne Rice, Shakespeare, William Blake, anything SciFi, Fantasy, Historical/Historical Fiction. Religious, Spiritual, Pagan, Heathen, Anthropological/Archaeological, Linguistic, Political (left leaning of course), and Philosophical.

Movies/TV: Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Dogma, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Stargate, Game of Thrones, The Vikings, NCIS, The Doors, Warcraft, Star Wars, Star Trek, Penny Dreadful, Underworld, Divergent, Farscape, Firefly, House of Cards, Orange is the New Black, Super Hero movies and TV Series, The White Queen, Bill Mahr, The Man in the Castle, The Americans, Old School Horror (Stuff like vampire/monster movie flicks...not gore or slasher flicks), anything Cthulhu related, Army of Darkness/Evil Dead (my only slasher/gore like in the genre), Documentaries, History/Historical Fiction, Educational/Edutainment, and Political stuff. I am a Netflix/Amazon Prime Junkie LOL

Music: Metal(Industrial, Goth, Punk, Hardcore, Nu Metal), Rock, Hard Rock, Classic Rock, Folk, New Age, Pagan/Heathen, Native American/Shamanistic Drumming

Food: Cajun, Italian, Asian, Indian, and just about everything else out there *grin*...pretty much if it doesn't move faster than me or fast enough that I can't shoot it, I will eat it. I don't hunt, though i will fish on occasion, but i will take advantage of the spoils of hunters...I love venison,
Six things I could never do without
Family, my computer, my car, caffeine, my dog and my cats.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future and where we are headed, spiritual stuff, philosophical stuff, sex, finances, politics.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home on my computer...I don't get out as much as I would like. Come rescue me...PLEASE!!!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Not much is private with me
You should message me if
1. If you find me interesting/sexy/irresistible/etc...*grin*

2. If you like intellectual guys with a tough guy exterior. I look like a biker, but I am very intellectual and have a very broad educational I am a computer programmer ;-)

3. Someone who is very active and participates in the processes that run our country..aka...I organize and protest and volunteer my time to candidates i back. We don't have to agree politically...just be active in what you believe. That's how the country works!

4. You enjoy sex and sexual things. You enjoy sexuality as well. You are open to exploring new avenues of exploring both...having the I will try anything once attitude is a good thing.

5. You are not looking to jump into anything serious at first, but have a serious, long term relationship in mind as the end game. With that said, until I find that, I could go for some causal sex too...I need the stress relief ;-) I shoot blanks BTW :-D

6. You are very open and honest and do not play games (well you play the fun games LOL). My last relationship was riddled with lies, cheating, and deception...I do not wish to repeat that. I would rather be hurt with the truth than devastated by lies.

7. Age is not an issue to me, so as long as you are legal, and we click, I am game.

8. If you are in the area (the closer the better...I am a single parent, so I don't have a lot of time to waste driving). If you live more than a 45min drive away, it's probably not going to happen. if you live in another state/country/continent, it's definitely not going to happen.
The two of us