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My self-summary
Silly, energetic, sardonic, charming. All words used to describe the people I imitate using the evil gem I stole from a wizard that one time.

I'm friendly and not afraid to make a fool of myself - I think being afraid is an easy way not to be alive.

That isn't to say I'm reckless, but more that I'm exploratory; try anything once (twice, three times, maybe once more to be sure) as learning happens on the edge of the comfort zone.

Altruistic is probably in there as well, and I love animals so that's an easy way to get right into the deep places. If you've got an animal (or some animal stories) I'll probably melt. I think I was some sort of warlord who rode lots of horses and had hounds in a past life, or maybe one of the hounds.

As you may have picked up I'm also nerdy. That's different to different people. Do I hike and climb mountains and swim in the creek and travel to other countries? Yes. Do I throw dice and slay imaginary dragons and write involved stories about magic and morality and heroism? Also yes. People can be multifaceted.

I used to be a social worker, I've worked at sanctuaries for tigers that lost their homes, I've given horseback tours in the Peruvian Andes - I've also watched all of Buffy the Vampire slayer in a single week off work, like some sort of self-loathing couch-lurking Netflix monster. In each of us there are multitudes.
What I’m doing with my life
Short answer?
Trying to create a foundation for something beautiful and more expansive than myself.

Long answer?

I wouldn't call myself cynical, but I definitely am giving the world the old fish-eye. There is so much that can be fixed, and there's the strange transition from 20s to 30s when you realize it's your job to do the fixing. It might come earlier to people with more responsibility, but it's dawning on me; if we want the world to be better we've got to make it that way.

To that end I'm an activist. I'm involved with Austin Texas Environmental Justice - if you want to know about it feel free to ping me or look us up on facebook. There's a lot we can do to make the world better, it's all intersectional - if you're not all about feminism, social justice and freedom from/of religion, if trans people "shouldn't exist" or you're down on Black Lives Matter or other movements that strive to address racism please don't waste my time or yours.

I work with kids as my day job - teaching art and drama and storytelling to some 17 preK-1st graders at an elementary school after school hours end. That's as much activism as lobbying congress and the state senate can be.

If you have a plan for one year, plant rice.
If you have a plan for ten years, plant trees.
If you have a plan for a hundred years, educate children.
I’m really good at
Reading books rapidly
Taking care of kids
Writing stuff!
Being enthusiastic
Being still and holding space for people.
Speaking Spanish
Translating and Mediating Disputes
Expressing / Simplifying complicated concepts.

I greatly enjoy games - board games, video games, storytelling games. I like collaborative games, or friendly competition.

I vacillate between periods of quiet and periods of boisterousness, but I'm pretty good at modifying my behavior to suit circumstances. Like a chameleon I can change to suit my environment.

I am also good at wordsing, you might have noticed I use a lot of big ones. I'm not stuck up about it, and never judgy about other people's vocabulary.

I just like using certain words because they mean what I am trying to say.
The first things people usually notice about me
Me, generally. I kind of stick out - - not intentionally, but people just notice me, not sure why. It's probably just how I hold myself. Presence maybe, or charisma? When I was a kid I was the class clown, it's evolved past that but it's similar.

Physically, I have big curly eyelashes, strong jaw, thick dark hair, bedroom eyes, great shoulder-to-waist ratio, a round butt. But who looks for all that? Nobody does, nobody at all.

It takes awhile for me to hit my stride with new people sometimes - I think I'm probably an acquired taste. I'm just trying to figure you out is all, so bear with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
There's no good way to discuss what you like here. I have dozens of books and stories I enjoy, and not all of them are wholly good. If you've ever loved a song but hated the lyrics, or the singer's voice, or that one guitar lick - you'll probably get why I'm not sure how to explain that what I like isn't always loved 100%.

* List is both *really long* and in no particular order.

Books: The Prophet, Vurt, Cosmos, The Fifth Sacred Thing, The Silmarillion, The White Hole in Time, Endgame: The Problem of Civilization, Earth Took of Earth, Sabriel, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy , Sex, Time, and Power: How Women's Sexuality Shaped Human Evolution , Songs of Earth and Power, The Definitive Guide to Body Language, Against His-Story! Against Leviathan! , A Song of Ice and Fire, The Subject Tonight is Love, Ishmael, The Demon-Haunted World, The Four Agreements, Veronika Decides to Die, The Master and Margarita Chronicles of the Black Company, A Fire Upon the Deep, Neuromancer, Snow Crash, The Left Hand of Darkness.

I like raiding the magic books at stores, too.

Comics: Alan Moore's Sandman, The Wicked & The Divine, Rat Queens, Bone

Authors: Carl Sagan, Douglas Adams, Garth Nix, Vernor Vinge, J.R.R. Tolkien, Starhawk, Neil Gaiman, Omar Khayyam, T.S. Eliot, Paulo Coelho, Hafiz, Pablo Neruda, Kahlil Gibran, Peter S. Beagle, Ursula K. LeGuin, Terry Pratchett, William Gibson

Movies: Amelie, It's A Beautiful Life, Grave of the Fireflies, Kung Fu Hustle, Super Troopers, Miyazaki films in general, Howl's Moving Castle, Princess Mononoke, Nausicaa of the Valley of the Winds and Spirited Away in particular, The Labyrinth, Office Space, A Fish Called Wanda, Serenity, Snatch, Jurassic Park, Children of Men, and many others. The Last Unicorn is probably the one I will ask you to watch with me.

Shows: Stranger Things, Arrested Development, Cosmos, Mr. Show, Outlaw Star, Planet Earth, The Office (English and American), Firefly, Star Trek: The Next Generation, Dr. Horrible's Singalong Blog, Steven Universe, 30 Rock, Dollhouse, Adventure Time, Futurama, The Vision of Escaflowne, most of Joss Whedon's stuff, Community, Game of Thrones, Archer, House, Sense8

Music in No Particular Order:
Tim Minchin, Trespassers William, Cecile Corbel, Townes Van Zandt, Emancipator, Neutral Milk Hotel, Sun Kil Moon, Joanna Newsom, MGMT, Silversun Pickups, The Deer, Me Without You, The Protomen, Ohia, Beats Antique, Andrew Bird, Fleet Foxes, The Grateful Dead, The Blue Hit, Aloha, Fleetwood Mac, Iron and Wine, Sunny Day Real Estate, Loreena McKennitt, Wilco, Mana, Muse, The Disco Biscuits, The Foo Fighters, Radiohead, Solas, Spoon, Frou Frou, Sufjan Stevens, Nick Cave, Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds Tom Waits, And You Will Know Us by the Trail of Dead, Simon and Garfunkel, Strunz and Farah, Will Oldham, The Dandy Warhols, Johnny Flynn, Phosphorescent, Bonnie "Prince" Billie, That Damned Band, Klezmer, Salsa, Irish jigs, dancing music. Yann Tiersen, Florence and the Machine.
And much more.

Food: Cooking is fun. I prefer lentils, rice, all sorts of peppers, mangoes, cantaloupe, sweet potato, papaya, curry, and, if I really like you, feeding my friends with my hands, like slices of orange, or strawberries dipped in chocolate.
If it's sticky, it's fun.
I really want to learn to cook more healthy food that tastes like sin, so if you know any decent recipes share them.

Dark chocolate is best chocolate.

Mostly-vegan; I can't have milk, and I don't eat eggs anymore. I will rarely eat the most sustainable types of seafood, cockles and the like - and very rarely I'll partake of hunted meat from animals that are overpopulated (deer, javelina, feral hog) and need to be controlled, but these occasions aren't common. Meat isn't functionally sustainable; eating it makes it harder for us all to survive as a people.

I do eat honey sometimes, but I like to know the people who make my honey - from farmer's markets and so on.
It's about reverence and love, and cooperation.

I'm not super judgmental; this poem by Khalil Gibran sums up how I used to feel about eating omnivorously. It's not going to be a fight, but I do think people should stop eating meat and animal products as soon as possible if we want to continue living on this planet.

"Would that you could live on the fragrance of the earth, and like an air plant be sustained by the light.
But if you must kill to eat, and rob the newly born of its mother’s milk to quench your thirst, let it be an act of worship.
And let your board stand an altar on which the pure and the innocent of the forest and plain are sacrificed for that which is purer and still more innocent in man."
- The Prophet
Six things I could never do without

I think the world would benefit from more people being apt to do the work, and show compassion -loving one another wholly and openly. Taking the time to sit and groom friends' tousled hair, hold hands, smiles and gratitude.

We are alive. Why not let ourselves enjoy it and run and fall and laugh. It's what we are built for. Taking pleasure in the work we do, too, is a good way to live longer and happier lives.

I really really enjoyed throwing my little sister into things when we were little. That's probably a memory I will never want to forget - playing with my little siblings. That can be my sixth.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Improving the world, writing stories, and making out.

Social justice is one of my joys and struggles. I love the idea of an equitable world where people can dress how they like, people can act in whatever way feels best or natural to them without hurting one another, people can share with confidence that others will respect their choices, others will see the humanness in them.

I dream of a world where we are not defined by the structures we were born into, but rather grow from our foundations and reach for the stars in our night sky. Sustenance and love are our human rights. We have the right to seek these things, to inhabit our bodies - for as long as we can - and understand the truth as well as we can interpret it.

Everyone has this right - no exceptions.

"Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality. When we recognize our place in an immensity of light‐years and in the passage of ages, when we grasp the intricacy, beauty, and subtlety of life, then that soaring feeling, that sense of elation and humility combined, is surely spiritual. So are our emotions in the presence of great art or music or literature, or acts of exemplary selfless courage such as those of Mohandas Gandhi or Martin Luther King, Jr. The notion that science and spirituality are somehow mutually exclusive does a disservice to both." - Carl Sagan
On a typical Friday night I am
Climbing mountains in the Andean highlands, until I decided to come home from Peru.

Here are some snippets from various past Fridays:
Little points of delight at the tip of a pencil, singing on a long walk through a park, my nose in a book, dancing wildly by the fire, watching a silly thing with friends and singing, playing songs from The Ocarina of Time on my harp, jumping into a secret swimmin' hole and swimmin' nekkid, trooping through a field looking for trouble/edible fungus - tromping down the wrong side of a mountain to get to the hot springs under the full moon, kneeling at the top of a mountain and giving my spirit to the moon and the earth, collecting bits of obsidian, copper, and serpentine, sleeping with a puppy under one arm and a cat under the other.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not really sure. I wouldn't call myself a huge optimist or pessimist, but I guess that I'm about as lost as anyone else. I just look like I know exactly what I'm up to.

" The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes "Awww!” "- Jack Kerouac

I think he's got it mostly right.. except for a possibility of perspective.. when people see things that are commonplace without forgetting the beauty of every moment, when people can take in a morning just like any other with amazing, overwhelming love for a blade of grass.. being set aside by the ground, by an everyday hello.. I want that feeling. That's my most private thing. I don't need the world to explode in front of me to go "Awww!" I just want a blade of grass, a handful of dirt, and a sweet kiss now and then.
You should message me if
If you are a good person .
If you want to teach me something useful or interesting.
If you want a really good hug.
If you are honest, and bonus points if you strive to be a better communicator.
If you are brave enough to admit you're not sure what you're wanting, but wonder what I'm all about anyhow.
Fetlife profile available upon request.

If you'd like to message me. I am fond of being approached.
Green light go.

I practice NVC, (NonViolent Communication) so if you want to discuss that.

For all of those people out there who like mystery and challenge:

I am as open and straightforward as a bright hot summer day, or an afternoon torrential downpour; that is to say -- like the sun or the rain or the grass in the wind I am as simple and arresting or intricate and interlaced as your own apprehension of me can be.

I am looking for real love, the kind that does not own people, the kind that makes friendships from chance meetings or great and lasting stories from a shyly spoken first word.

My cards are on the table; if you'd like to meet, I don't assume fireworks or melting-into-embraces or for my stars to fall from the sky and walk along on the world with me, but I have known those things and do seek those things out. Those are the things I want in life.
The two of us