In good physical shape, I love to bike, swim, run and XC skiing in the winter. My favorite things to do are all things saltwater (sailing, diving, bodysurfing, swimming) looking for shells in tidal pools, dinner parties with friends, stand up comedy and live theater, and reading trashy novels and sharing good ones. I am a practicing Buddhist and also identify/practice Judaism. Though I don't practice it, I'm a trained somatic coach. Despite years of meditation practice and retreats (leader and participant), yoga, Tai Chi, and quiet contemplative times in beautiful places, I remain a pretty high energy, intense person, a mix of seriousness and playfulness. If you can't deal with energy and intensity, I'm not for you.
I aspire to do more work, perhaps first as volunteer, to bring mindfulness and meditation to disadvantage populations. I'm starting to work with a program like that in San Quentin. I love living on the waterfront in Marina Bay, near Pt. Richmond, where I walk or cycle daily on the East Bay trail and sail my Hobie 16.
I got divorced 7 years ago and am the proud father of twin 9 year old girls who live in Portland OR and whom I see during their school vacations and every 6 weeks for a long weekend. My relationship with my ex, after a lot of hard work, has never been better.
Music: Upbeat Pop/Rock is my prime thing, everything from Dylan, the Beatles, especially George Harrison, to Red Hot Chili Peppers, SemiSonic, Springsteen, The LAs, Roy Orbison. Jazz is good, more old school, and definitely Latin music -- J but not so much Rap/Hip Hop.
Food: I eat just about anything except fast and/or unhealthy food, I cook lots of Asian, vegetarian, etc. Ex-foodie, now following a pretty simple food plan to avoid my family history of obesity, diabetes heart disease and all that comes with it.
Magazines: New York Review of Books
Books: Reading the Innovators, a history of the orignis of the computer and the Internet. Often read non-fiction (The Black Count, Imperial San Francisco, Emperor of Maladies, the UnWinding, Thinking Fast and Slow) and non-profit management -- Lean Startup, Forces for Good, Good to Great -- and a lot of mysteries, thrillers and sci-fi on the plane like Michael Connolly, George R.R. Martin, Lois McMaster Bujold, John Scalzi, Neal Stephenson. Favorites are old adventure novels -- Alexander Dumas's Count of Monte Cristo is my all time fave -- and historical fiction.
2. Old close friends
4. my road bike
5. Love and snuggling
6. tender, gentle and passionate, intense sex
7. my twin girls
Yep, that's eight. Tant pis
How happy I am after recovering from the emotional and financial wreckage of my divorce, living an amazing second half of my life.
Balancing appreciating RIGHT NOW and thinking about the future.
You are passionate about life, incredibly curious about everything, and want to share your passions and curiosity with someone else
You're super smart (cognitive, emotional, creative intelligence are all good, not just school smarts), comfortable in your own skin, powerful (I am not only not intimidated by strong powerful women, it is what I prefer).
Upbeat, funny, positive and grateful
You are in decent physical shape and the beach, cycling or something outdoors and athletic plays a role in your life
you know how to communicate effectively in a relationship and have difficult conversations with love and compassion
I have 9 1/2 year old identical twin girls who live with my ex-wife in Portland. I only see them every 4-6 weeks (I usually go up there for a long weekend) and around school holidays (maybe 3-4 weeks in the summer, a week at spring and winter breaks). Given the unfortunately limited time I have with them, I am not looking for a stepmom or co-parent. Any partner I hope might like kids and be interested in spending time with them/us a few weeks a year, or not, on camping trips, trips to Europe. As I am an independent consultant I take about 12-13 weeks vacation a year, which includes 3-4 weeks with my kids, 3-4 weeks with just YOU, and time for meditation retreats and other personal growth. Many empty nesters I meet on this and other sites tell me I'm great but they're done with parenting, and they want time for themselves. I totally get that. In this case, it is a both and. I am not looking for a parent or stepmom, but they are an important part of my life and you would need to be good with that.. , even if I have them only 25% of the time.