ParisNYSF
59 Richmond, United States
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My self-summary
Warm, funny, Jewish intellectual, political progressive. Ex New Yorker moved back to the Bay area a few years ago after I fell in love with the Bay area in grad school (Cal). I'm outgoing, energetic, insatiably curious, love to laugh and have a good sense of humor, and enjoy exploring the world, discovering new people and places. My core principles are integrity -- walking the talk, gratitude, and treating others with kindness, dignity and respect. I'm grateful for my health, for my work that not only pays the rent but allows me to but do good in the world and have worked in over 50 countries, my two amazing 10 year old girls, old friends and family, and to live in one of the most beautiful places on the planet. I work helping social change projects design and implement scaling up strategies, until recently in developing countries, now transitioning to mostly domestic work.

In good physical shape, I love to bike, swim, run and XC skiing in the winter. My favorite things to do are all things saltwater (sailing, diving, bodysurfing, swimming) looking for shells in tidal pools, dinner parties with friends, stand up comedy and live theater, and reading trashy novels and sharing good ones. I am a practicing Buddhist and also identify/practice Judaism. Though I don't practice it, I'm a trained somatic coach. Despite years of meditation practice and retreats (leader and participant), yoga, Tai Chi, and quiet contemplative times in beautiful places, I remain a pretty high energy, intense person, a mix of seriousness and playfulness. If you can't deal with energy and intensity, I'm not for you.
What I’m doing with my life
I have my own business as a management consultant specializing in scaling up promising and proven social change projects. I've worked mostly in Third world countries. As rewarding as this has been, I'm getting tired of the long as flights and jet lag, and am transitioning to do more work in the US and here in the Bay Area.
I aspire to do more work, perhaps first as volunteer, to bring mindfulness and meditation to disadvantage populations. I'm starting to work with a program like that in San Quentin. I love living on the waterfront in Marina Bay, near Pt. Richmond, where I walk or cycle daily on the East Bay trail and sail my Hobie 16.
I got divorced 7 years ago and am the proud father of twin 9 year old girls who live in Portland OR and whom I see during their school vacations and every 6 weeks for a long weekend. My relationship with my ex, after a lot of hard work, has never been better.
I’m really good at
Kindness, caring, and compassion, snuggling, making other people laugh, cooking, XC skiing, cycling, planning, traveling, strategic thinking, public speaking and telling stories. Being a great father to my girls and helping them grow up to be strong, sensitive, women who are comfortable being themselves, having dreams, and turning those dreams into reality
The first things people usually notice about me
big brown eyes, women tell me its my butt
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love film, especially the classics like Blade Runner, the Godfather, old B&W like Bogie and Bacall, the Thin Man. I see everything from foreign "films" to Hollywood blockbusters (Star Trek, Jason Bourne, Harry Potter, Star Wars). I see the latter mostly on the plane, just enjoyed Indignation.
Music: Upbeat Pop/Rock is my prime thing, everything from Dylan, the Beatles, especially George Harrison, to Red Hot Chili Peppers, SemiSonic, Springsteen, The LAs, Roy Orbison. Jazz is good, more old school, and definitely Latin music -- J but not so much Rap/Hip Hop.
Food: I eat just about anything except fast and/or unhealthy food, I cook lots of Asian, vegetarian, etc. Ex-foodie, now following a pretty simple food plan to avoid my family history of obesity, diabetes heart disease and all that comes with it.
Magazines: New York Review of Books
Books: Reading the Innovators, a history of the orignis of the computer and the Internet. Often read non-fiction (The Black Count, Imperial San Francisco, Emperor of Maladies, the UnWinding, Thinking Fast and Slow) and non-profit management -- Lean Startup, Forces for Good, Good to Great -- and a lot of mysteries, thrillers and sci-fi on the plane like Michael Connolly, George R.R. Martin, Lois McMaster Bujold, John Scalzi, Neal Stephenson. Favorites are old adventure novels -- Alexander Dumas's Count of Monte Cristo is my all time fave -- and historical fiction.
The six things I could never do without
1. The beach and the ocean
2. Old close friends
3. NYRB
4. my road bike
5. Love and snuggling
6. tender, gentle and passionate, intense sex
7. my twin girls
8. Music
Yep, that's eight. Tant pis
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The tragedy and sorrow of what the US has become with its racism, violence, and the potential for what it could be, how to make the world a better place (and making a living at the same time)
How happy I am after recovering from the emotional and financial wreckage of my divorce, living an amazing second half of my life.
Balancing appreciating RIGHT NOW and thinking about the future.
On a typical Friday night I am
going to see movies/theatre/stand-up/out to eat, planning long weekend road cycling or sailboat trips , and sometimes going to Shabbat Services
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Despite the fact that I come across as very self-confident, articulate, and an extrovert I am also sweet, shy and sensitive
You should message me if
Are looking for a partner for the rest of your life.

You are passionate about life, incredibly curious about everything, and want to share your passions and curiosity with someone else

You're super smart (cognitive, emotional, creative intelligence are all good, not just school smarts), comfortable in your own skin, powerful (I am not only not intimidated by strong powerful women, it is what I prefer).

Upbeat, funny, positive and grateful

You are in decent physical shape and the beach, cycling or something outdoors and athletic plays a role in your life

you know how to communicate effectively in a relationship and have difficult conversations with love and compassion

I have 9 1/2 year old identical twin girls who live with my ex-wife in Portland. I only see them every 4-6 weeks (I usually go up there for a long weekend) and around school holidays (maybe 3-4 weeks in the summer, a week at spring and winter breaks). Given the unfortunately limited time I have with them, I am not looking for a stepmom or co-parent. Any partner I hope might like kids and be interested in spending time with them/us a few weeks a year, or not, on camping trips, trips to Europe. As I am an independent consultant I take about 12-13 weeks vacation a year, which includes 3-4 weeks with my kids, 3-4 weeks with just YOU, and time for meditation retreats and other personal growth. Many empty nesters I meet on this and other sites tell me I'm great but they're done with parenting, and they want time for themselves. I totally get that. In this case, it is a both and. I am not looking for a parent or stepmom, but they are an important part of my life and you would need to be good with that.. , even if I have them only 25% of the time.
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