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My self-summary
This profile needed an update--here goes. So recently I became serious about how my life has been going. Can't complain. Found my passion in work and have no debt (which, after going through grad school and owning a home, is quite an accomplishment in my mind). Unfortunately without realizing it, I had become burned out with work. Taking some steps now to work less and enjoy life more so that I'm living in accordance with what I value (which means definitely having a partner). Just for the record, one of the things that has helped bring me back is watching Mamrie Hart on YouTube. I'll say this: If I were heterosexual and could pick any person to be with, I'd pick her. If you don't know her, check out her "You Deserve a Drink" series. She makes me laugh pretty much every time.

One of the personality characteristics that OkCupid has pegged me with (lovely, that) is that I'm not as nice as most people. My experiences have demonstrated that frank communication is paramount. Politeness and manners still have their place--just make sure what comes out of your mouth is your truth. Sometimes that doesn't sound nice (sorry OkCupid), but I'm also steadfast in tempering any critical evaluation I may have (where's that personality trait?). I value honesty in communication--I think it's the foundation of trust and integrity to any relationship. Know yourself and the rest is cake...(that's a bit of a pun, as my nickname among some friends is Pat E. Cake).
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a psychologist working in downtown Minneapolis. It's not as strange as you might think--in some ways it's much stranger. Nevertheless, I feel truly privileged to have found my passion in the work domain.

In my free time, I tend to opt for activities that are a bit more light-hearted, such as movies, games, and video games. I have a gaming group that I hang out with weekly to be able to explore my geek/nerd tendencies. I play piano (studied it in college somewhat) and have been increasing my involvement with exercise (yoga, tai chi, strength/toning work). Very recently shifting diet has become a focus. It was sooo difficult to cut out sugar. ...really, it pained me quite literally.
I’m really good at
Sensing another's needs and speaking my mind. I'm also quite adept at admitting I'm wrong (again OkCupid, where's that personality characteristic? ...sheesh).
The first things people usually notice about me
I have shy tendencies, which tend to be relevant only initially upon meeting someone. Some might chalk it up to being aloof, but my intentions are generally to be kind.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: I tend to enjoy a broad range of movies, but quirky tends to stick with me. Clue is a perennial favorite; Amilee has a special place in my heart. Hedwig and the Angry Inch. Anything Joss Whedon does is pretty much an automatic "in," (long-time Buffy fan, loved Avengers, was upset when he dropped the Wonder Woman movie plans).

TV: The Walking Dead, RuPaul's Drag Race, Netflix in general, American Horror Story (although I haven't watched Hotel yet), Project Runway, OITNB

Food: Currently doing the Elimination Challenge ("The Chemistry of Joy" by Henry Emmons) to find out if I have any food sensitivities.'s been a rough haul, y'all. I grew up eating cake for breakfast, if that gives you a sense of my baseline. :/

Reading: Going through grad school soured my willingness to read for pleasure. Anything that gives a greater sense of spirituality and wonder for life, though, breaks through the resistance ("The Four Agreements," "The Mastery of Love," "Winning through Enlightenment," and stuff by Ken Wilber, Carolin Myss). Recently I've been reading Sam Harris' "Waking up: A Guide to Spirituality without Religion." It's quite good.

Music: I'm weird. Most of the music I listen to is the stuff I play, which is either classical piano (Beethoven, Brahms, Chopin), Tori Amos (don't judge me!), or something that I make up, which I like to call "music doodles." Otherwise, I can appreciate good, strong vocals from folks like Sia, Annie Lennox, and the occasional reality-singing-show contestant that I watch on YouTube (Brian Justin Crum, I'm looking at you).
Six things I could never do without
Love, Passion, Wisdom, Integrity, Kindness, and Safety

Ok, more Oprah's favorite things:
A few good friends, Gaming computer, my piano, a good breakfast
I spend a lot of time thinking about
just about anything--I'm pretty cerebral. I also really like the notion of taking thoughts less literally, which is an art form.
On a typical Friday night I am
Having fun with friends, either staying in or gathering for happy hour. I'm also prone to having a quiet evening at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In contrast to my professional life, which is all about keeping information confidential and secret, I don't carry personal secrets about myself in private life.
You should message me if
You're a fellow human being that finds something here of interest to spark a conversation. ...also if you're good at laughing, then definitely message me.
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