One of the personality characteristics that OkCupid has pegged me with (lovely, that) is that I'm not as nice as most people. My experiences have demonstrated that frank communication is paramount. Politeness and manners still have their place--just make sure what comes out of your mouth is your truth. Sometimes that doesn't sound nice (sorry OkCupid), but I'm also steadfast in tempering any critical evaluation I may have (where's that personality trait?). I value honesty in communication--I think it's the foundation of trust and integrity to any relationship. Know yourself and the rest is cake...(that's a bit of a pun, as my nickname among some friends is Pat E. Cake).
In my free time, I tend to opt for activities that are a bit more light-hearted, such as movies, games, and video games. I have a gaming group that I hang out with weekly to be able to explore my geek/nerd tendencies. I play piano (studied it in college somewhat) and have been increasing my involvement with exercise (yoga, tai chi, strength/toning work). Very recently shifting diet has become a focus. It was sooo difficult to cut out sugar. ...really, it pained me quite literally.
TV: The Walking Dead, RuPaul's Drag Race, Netflix in general, American Horror Story (although I haven't watched Hotel yet), Project Runway, OITNB
Food: Currently doing the Elimination Challenge ("The Chemistry of Joy" by Henry Emmons) to find out if I have any food sensitivities. ...it's been a rough haul, y'all. I grew up eating cake for breakfast, if that gives you a sense of my baseline. :/
Reading: Going through grad school soured my willingness to read for pleasure. Anything that gives a greater sense of spirituality and wonder for life, though, breaks through the resistance ("The Four Agreements," "The Mastery of Love," "Winning through Enlightenment," and stuff by Ken Wilber, Carolin Myss). Recently I've been reading Sam Harris' "Waking up: A Guide to Spirituality without Religion. It's quite good.
Music: I'm weird. Most of the music I listen to is the stuff I play, which is either classical piano (Beethoven, Brahms, Tori Amos--don't judge me!) or something that I make up, which I like to call "music doodles." Otherwise, I can appreciate good, strong vocals from folks like Sia, Annie Lennox, and the occasional reality-singing-show contestant that I watch on YouTube.
Ok, more Oprah's favorite things:
A few good friends, Gaming computer, my piano, a good breakfast