Peaceandlove50
27 Oxford, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
A creative, extremely open minded, left-wing, passionate, poly, bohemian, kinky, romantic, hedonist, music obsessed, humorous, politically motivated, gamer based in the South of England (Oxfordshire & Reading).

I consider myself extremely lucky to be able to work in the world of music and to make my living as a musician, instrument tutor, guitar consultant and as a performer. My speciality and biggest passion is for the guitar (with a particular soft spot for any guitar based contemporary music genre) but I also play and teach most* instruments with a fret. As much as I enjoy playing music I listen to just as much. Quite often a free afternoon or evening is spent listening to some old favourites or discovering new tunes that take my fancy and crafting playlists from them. I have a lot of respect for the arts in general and anyone associated with or involved with their creation.

I've been polyamorous (ethically non monogamous) for the last 3-4 years and have transitioned through many of its variants, from hierarchical poly, to Relationship Anarchy. I now consider myself to be 'solo' poly at this stage in my life as it makes a lot of sense to me, but that is not necessarily set in stone and could change. I frequently attend the Oxford Non-monogamy meets and occasionally the Bristol poly meet.

I have a great love of reading that goes back to my early years when I was often found nestled underneath a tree with my nose buried in a thick tome of the Tolkien, Pullman, King or Lewis variety, the times have not changed since. As an offshoot to this I'm also a history buff and enjoy telling stories, either fictitious, historical or otherwise.

I'm a bit of gamer and enjoy everything from Chess, Go, Carcassone, Catan (most board games to be fair) to popular card games and digital games either on consoles or computers. My current gaming obsession is Hearthstone! If anyone fancies a game ping me.

My political persuasion is more than little to the left of centre even if that does make me a bit of a 60's counterculture cliche (I coincidently despise war and conflict in all of its forms and guises). I can also be quite kinky, although this is not always the case for every sexual context or romantic partner and it's form and flavour can vary from connection to connection. I very much champion sex (and body) positivity.
I’m really good at
After many years of study and practice I like to think that I'm fairly proficient at my craft of playing, performing and teaching guitar, but there are some seriously talented individuals 'out there'. Needless to say it's what I live for, and I love every second.

Also Hugs.. Big Liony hugs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music:
This list is potentially endless and is constantly evolving, but I have got a particular soft spot for Blues music, Heavy Metal, Trip Hop and classic 60's counterculture classics. Although due to my work and BA in music, I've spent quite a bit of time listening to almost all contemporary genres. And there's something I like about most of them.

But to get my rear off the musical fence I will name drop a few* of my favourite bands and artists:

Bob Dylan, Patti Smith, Black Sabbath, Red Fang, Mastodon, Prince, Jeff Beck, The Gorillaz, Massive Attack, Johnny Cash, The Clash, The Ramones, The Pixies, R.E.M, Alice in Chains, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones, Led Zeppelin, Iggy Pop (and his Stooges), Pink Floyd, Miles Davis, Patt Metheny, The White Stripes, Porcupine Tree, PJ Harvey, Florence and the Machine, NWA, Cyprus Hill, Public Enemy, Frank Zappa, The Smiths, Cakes & Ale, Daft Punk, The Sisters Of Mercy, The Cure, The three Kings of the Blues: Albert, Freddie and B.B, Rory Gallagher, SRV, The Black Keys, Ben Harper, Monster Magnet, Madonna, Elvis, Elastica, Mectric, Weezer, The Doors, Moby, Ninja Sex Party, Nick Drake, the Dropkick Murphy's, the Smashing Pumpkins, The Queens of the Stone Age, The Flithy Six, Them Crooked Vultures, Black Honey and of course Radiohead.

Movies:
Like my taste in music, my taste in movies is very broad and I'm incredibly passionate about this subject. So for this section I will mix things up:

My favourite Directer of all time is Akira Kurosawa. The man was a genius visionary and a romantic to the core and was so far ahead of his time it was unreal. My favourite actor is Daniel Day-Lewis.

My top ten favourite flicks, Ranked in order of most loved:

1: The Grand Budapest Hotel.
2: Blade Runner.
3: Seven Samurai.
4: Guardians of the Galaxy.
5: Gangs of New York.
6: Who Framed Roger Rabbit?
7: The Dark Knight Rises.
8: Kill Bill Volume II.
9: Almost Famous.
10: The Road to Predition.

Television:
I'm not nearly as into T.V as I am Films, however I still really enjoy a few odd shows such as: Vinyl, a Game of Thrones, Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Reaper, Firefly, Spaced, The Thick Of It, Battlestar Galactica, Breaking Bad, Adventure Time, The Mighty Boosh, Shogun and Samurai Jack.

Books:
His Dark Materials (the Northern Lights, the Subtle Knife and the Amber Spyglass), Atonement, the Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, A song of Ice and Fire, Scribbleboy, American Gods, Wild Cards, Soul Music, Mort, The Second Coming, The Stand, The Dark Tower Series, Carrie, Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep, The Songs Of Innocence and Experience, The Colourless Tsukuru Tazaki and his Years of Pilgrimage, Norwegian Wood, The Passage, Shogun, The Legend of the Five Rings, The Art of War, The Grapes of Wrath, Animal Farm, Moby Dick, 1984 and Vinegar Street.

Graphic Novels:
The League of Extraordinary Gentleman, V for Vendetta, The Saga of the Swamp Thing (Alan Moore's run), The Walking Dead, Y the Last Man, Watchmen, Civil War, The Ultimates, The Dark Knight Returns, Batman: the Long Halloween, Batman Knightfall, The Hellblazier Series and anything associated with the X-Men or Wolverine, with particular favourites being "The Dark Phoenix Saga", "The Age of Apocalypse", "The Onslaught Epic", "Second Coming" and "The House of M".

Games:
The Final Fantasy series (titles I through to IX only) Donkey Kong Country 2, The Legend of the Mystical Ninja, Skyrim, Oblivion, The Legend of Zelda series (especially Majora's Mask), Knights of the Old Republic I & II, Chrono Trigger, Starcraft II, Street Fighter 3 Third Strike, Resident Evil Series, Bioshock, Catherine, Age of Empires II, Yoshi's Island and Lylat Wars.
The six things I could never do without
1) My rather large collection of musical instruments. I know that this technically counts as more than one choice but I'm a rebel without a cause after all..
2) My IPhone, a predictable choice but it's my lifeline to the digital realms.
3) My Diary. Anyone who is also poly or works freelance knows how valuable one of these can be.
4) My set of Uber-tier cream and brown coloured Sennheiser's.
5) My 'Koi Carp' inspired Zippo lighter. It was given to me as a present by a loved one many moons ago and I treasure it to this day.
6) My trademark set of hippy style necklaces that me and my friends affectionally nickname my "talismans".
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life's great mysteries and complex questions, such as: Who shot first?.. Han or Greedo? Or what life must be like for Captain America post the big freeze and thaw.

But taking this question with a hint of seriousness for a second I would have to say: predictably music/guitars and complex harmony, Polymory - its ins and outs and how I really feel about labels and the way people outside the poly world view our community. Detailed, twisty plots of books or graphic novels that I really like.

When the full moon rises however I can't help but to ponder over more lustful, earthier things..
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't believe that there is such a thing as a typical Friday evening (borderline unicorn or dragon level of mythological), but during that scrummy later section of a week I may be jamming/rehearsing with some talented musical associates or catching up with some old or new friends with equal gusto or I will be lucky enough to be in romantic throes with someone amazing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I'm very attracted to people older than myself, and that some* of the best relationships that I've ever had have been with people 10+ yrs. my senior. Now that's not to say for one sec that I haven't had great connections with people closer to my own age but it's an interesting self-observation nonetheless.
You should message me if
-You at least *LIKE* guitars… (Half joke).

-You share a similar outlook to life or hold beliefs /ideologies close to mine (either politically, philosophically or otherwise) or failing that are happy to at least share some interesting ideas or conversations together.

-You are passionate about your work or something that you do for recreation. Passion is my muse and I love to meet people that truly care about something. Which quite honestly can be anything within reason, so long as you care.

-You enjoy the arts or are particularly creatively minded.

-Your Polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous or are at least open to either.

On a side note I'm painfully aware that finding the right connection could mean a hint of distance involved, I'm completely ok with this and live a nomad like existence at the best of times. If that's an issue for you I completely respect that but it isn't so much for me.

Good luck and peace and love to you all.
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