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My self-summary
I'm Seph. I can down a pint in one, apply lipstick perfectly with no mirror in a moving vehicle and walk in six-inch heels. I want to be Jennifer Saunders when I grow up.

I'm a professional writer, though not really the glamorous kind. I do get to write about a lot of cool things, though, and I have a fortnightly advice column that focuses on sex, kink and non-traditional relationships. I once interviewed Neil Gaiman, though admittedly not about his sex life. I live alone in south-east London and work from home, meaning that I have to work hard to maintain my social butterfly status lest I wind up ordering pizza just so I can talk to the delivery person.

I'm left-wing, a feminist, a bit of a nerd and a bit of a goth. I'm a big fan of clubs, pubs, parties and intoxicants of various kinds. The quickest way to my heart involves stage musicals and gin, and I challenge anyone to love Sally Bowles more than I love Sally Bowles. I'm a LARPer and computer gamer, and I go to the occasional SF convention. I'm also pagan, but I probably won't make you listen to me talk about it.

I'm polyamorous, submissive and bisexual; I don't do monogamy, I wouldn't be happy in a vanilla relationship for long and god knows I wish there were more women in my life.

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What I’m doing with my life
I write for a living, because someone's got to. I live alone in a little flat in south-east London where I try to throw a lot of parties. I talk too much.
I’m really good at
Walking into a room full of strangers and walking out with new friends. Covering things in glitter. Making a surprisingly convincing vegan cheese sauce. Getting my eyebrows roughly even.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a filthy cackle and I wear far too much jewellery.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot and I've always read a lot, and I kind of hate narrowing books down into 'favourites' because they all mean so much. I suppose my top ten of all time list would look something like this - though not in this order, and don't hold me to it:

A Midsummer Night's Dream by Shakespeare
Anne of Green Gables by LM Montgomery
Claudine by Colette
Fire and Hemlock by Diana Wynne Jones
Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier
Sophie's World by Jostein Gaarder
The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath
The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood
The Passion by Jeanette Winterson
Wise Children by Angela Carter

I also read a lot of science fiction and fantasy, and I'm a Marvel girl. I have particular soft spots for Wanda Maximoff, Carol Danvers and the teen teams - New Mutants, Young Avengers, Runaways.

Almost all my most beloved films are musicals. I'm a Rocky Horror girl, obviously (Magenta 5eva) and I suspect Cabaret is my favourite film of all time. Other particular favourites include Moulin Rouge, Chicago, Sweeney Todd and Repo!, but I've pretty much never met a musical I didn't like. Julie Andrews is my spirit Nana and I could look at her incredible face for the rest of my life. I'm also a fan of both the MCU and the Fox X-Men franchise.

Crazy Ex-Girlfriend is probably my favourite television programme in the world ever and I will not hear a word against it. How I Met Your Mother runs a close second, though, with honourable mentions going to Buffy and Angel (plus the rest of the Whedonverse) and Orange Is The New Black.

My music tastes are massively eclectic, and there's something I enjoy in every genre. Particular favourites include Amanda Palmer, Carter USM, David Bowie and New Model Army, but I have a lot of feelings about a lot of music.

I'm a lifelong vegetarian and these days I'm about 90% vegan, though please don't take that as meaning that I don't like cheese because I bloody *love* cheese. I'm a decent cook, and I really enjoy sharing food with people I care about and whose company I enjoy.
Six things I could never do without
Both my family of blood and my family of choice, a bit of sparkle and a magical way of looking at the world, a stable internet connection, the ability to be in control of my own life, time and space to write when I need to and my makeup collection.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Today it was "what to do when your emotions are doing something to which you are logically and ethically opposed". I think a lot. Also, I am very tired now and I still don't know the answer.
On a typical Friday night I am
Ridiculously overdressed and dancing till my feet ache in some goth or fetish club or other.

Laughing my head off in the beer garden of a pub somewhere with good friends.

Curled up on the sofa with Zenith_Rising, eating a takeaway and watching Netflix.

Getting riotously drunk with my mother, who is almost certainly cooler than your mother is.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm absolutely terrible at keeping anything about myself private for long.
You should message me if
You're an outgoing queer poly domme who fancies chatting for a bit and then going for a drink and seeing if we click.

You have a dog. I bloody love dogs. I don't have my own dog (yet), but I fully intend to one day and I am very keen on other people's.

You want to get dressed up, paint the town red and then talk bollocks with me in my living room till god knows when in the morning.

(You probably *shouldn't* message me if you're a man or if you're not interested in curvy women. I mean, you can if you want, obviously - knock yourself out, I'm not the boss of you - but I probably won't reply.)
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