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My self-summary
I've recently fleshed out the Q&A portion of my profile with greater detail and explanation — some of the questions aren't as simple as choosing one of the few options provided, and context can make a big difference in how those answers are interpreted.

I don't believe in "guilty pleasures". If it gives you pleasure and makes you happy, I see no good reason for guilt. As long as you're not preventing others from attaining happiness or avoiding suffering in the process, go ahead and get weird.

I like games nights and costume parties. It's never a bad idea to dress up silly with your friends for a laugh. I took up snowboarding last year as a means of finding something to enjoy about winter; it worked. I found an old murder mystery dinner game while thrifting and I intend to play the hell out of it — characters, costumes, terribly-executed accents, etc. I used to get down with karaoke more than I probably should, but that's taken a back seat lately to more physical activities like rock climbing and trampoline dodgeball.


I'm not treating this with any sense of urgency — more into complimenting than completing each other. I'm quite happy on my own, or surrounded by people that I love, but am nevertheless open to meeting interesting and compatible new people and opting to be individually awesome together.

I'm also into polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. If you already have a partner, their input and feelings are important to me, too.

What I’m doing with my life
Confronting my fear of heights daily.

Overdressing for the occasion.

I returned to academia in the fall in pursuit of a degree with which to become a relationship counselor (with a focus on non-traditional dynamics). Anyone with experience in the field who would like to take a crack at encouraging/dissuading me, have at me.
I’m really good at
...making my friends friends. I really like inviting people from different corners of my life out to do things together, and discovering afterwards that they've since started their own bond beyond me. I get friendship compersion.

...taking a genuine interest in people. People are fascinating; their stories are integral to their character. I feel that I can get along with anyone and share a natural compassion with most human experience.
The first things people usually notice about me
You tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
B: Dawkins, Palahnuik, Harris, Hitchens, Ellison, Lama, etc. To be honest these days, most of my reading consists of articles via RSS feeds or Reddit. In preparation for future life ambitions, I'll read pretty much anything relating to psychology.

Mo: Fantasy, Action/Adventure, Slasher/Horror, High-/Low-brow Comedy... I'm not above the odd RomCom, but you may have to sell me on it and I'll require at least 15 minutes as little spoon.

S: It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia is the best show nobody I know watches. Honourable mentions to Arrested Development, Breaking Bad, Louie, Archer, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Tim & Eric, etc. For nostalgic reasons, I want to revisit '90s sitcoms, starting with the awkward pilots and psychically predicting my way through everyone's near and distant futures.

Mu: Tonnes. Rock, electronic, hip-hop, blues, metal, acoustic, indie, and assorted pretentious things that make eyebrows raise. I may have enough music to live out the rest of my life with a single playlist which never repeats. Think you're into something I've never heard of? Try me. If you show me something I'm blown away by, I'll buy you a drink.

F: All. Stuff my face, plz. I'm also not one to turn down a meal of any sort that I've never tried before — I tried Guinea Pig without hesitation while in Peru; it was... underwhelming. But I'm glad I tried.
The six things I could never do without
-Intersectional feminism
-Deep, hearty belly laughs

I'd probably just waste the last one on something dumb like flavours of Crispers.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How awesome it is that our brains just perform complex tasks like decoding language or physics without consciously thinking about it. I've never been hit by a car in my life, but I've never actively calculated for velocity or inertia before/while crossing the street. If you don't think that's fascinating, you're doing it wrong.

What the person on the bus next to me was like as a child (or what they'll be like as an adult/elder). I'm curious about the personal stories of the background actors in my life.

On a typical Friday night I am
6/7 of the way through the calendar week.

I don't like 'typical', but I could happily make TED Talks & old-fashioneds my default fallback.

I'm a big fan of whimsy. Let's have an adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Given the chance, I will totally snoop your iTunes/music library and high-five you for your guilty pleasures.

Hyperbole is literally worse than Hitler.
You should message me if have a suggestion as to who should play me in a film about my life. have a TED Talk you want to recommend to me. want to play a real-life game of "Where's Waldo?" — get the appropriate costume (glasses and all), head downtown and I'll find you. Or vice versa. want to join me for wine and Scrabble/Jenga in a nearby park during the afternoon, or play surprise flashlight tag with the people attempting to have discrete sex in the bushes at night.

Ultimately, though, these are just fun ways to meet new people. I don't take OKC meet-ups too seriously, always going in with the notion of "No pressure, no expectation, no worries". If we share chemistry, cool; if not, cool. Either way, it should be relaxed and pressure-free.