60 Somerville, United States
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My self-summary
Peace - Justice - Books - Exercise - Family - Fun

Daily runner, ex-musician (though I still play and sing sometimes), kink-friendly computer scientist and ex-potter (ceramics). Hoping to connect with a woman who is adventurous and likes living slightly outside the box, to share healthy fun activities such as skiing, applesauce-making, singing, going on road trips, trading backrubs, traveling, attending political rallies, biking, baking, cuddling, creating, or whatever.

I am drawn toward lasting relationships based on shared values and great communication.

I live a healthy lifestyle, with healthy habits, weight and exercise. I prefer home cooked meals, mostly organic and mostly vegetarian (though some fish and chicken), but I am not dogmatic or rigid about it. I don't drink, smoke or watch TV, but I do indulge in dark chocolate. :) I take care of my body and you should too.

If you have ever seen a red "MAKE JOBS, NOT WAR" bumper sticker, it came from me. I have given away over 10,000 of them since Bush invaded Iraq in 2003. I care about the world around me, and I strongly support peace, human rights and environmental organizations.

I tend toward intellectual pursuits, tempered by simple practicality and creativity. I have traveled in over twenty countries, and speak some Italian and French.

I also greatly enjoy simple home-oriented activities, such as making pizza with the kids -- including making our own whole wheat crust -- or canning home-made applesauce in the autumn.

I am attachment-oriented. My natural tendency is toward polyfidelity, though I am open to other ideas. I enjoy some kink / BDSM as one aspect of an overall relationship. I can be gentle one moment and rough another, depending on the situation. I have a wide range of appreciation.

If you are non-local but think we have important values in common then I could still probably arrange to meet you sometime for a meal when traveling for work or other reasons.

UPDATE 25-Jan-2017: Amazing Women's March last weekend! So nice to see such a huge turnout, so many smiles, so much creativity in the signs, and so many positive message. One of my favorites: "Make America Kind Again".

UPDATE 1-Aug-2016: I took the kids to Iceland and England for a month this summer. They loved it! The excuse was to attend my nephew's wedding in England.
What I’m doing with my life
Co-parenting wonderful twins, doing my part to help support peace and justice and looking forward to meeting other interesting people.
I’m really good at
Living with others in a shared household. I have lived with housemates ever since I started college, and very much enjoy it.

A friend also adds: "You're good at cuddling and giving hugs. You're good at offering a shoulder for a person to lean on."
The first things people usually notice about me
My long hair, or the "MAKE JOBS, NOT WAR" stickers on my jacket.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Richard Dawkins ("The Selfish Gene"), Oliver Sacks ("The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat"), Almodovar, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr., Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortenson, National Geographic, Philip Pullman ("His Dark Materials"), Maurice Sendak ("Where The Wild Things Are"), Winnie the Pooh, Roald Dahl, Secretary.

Food? Simple and healthy. Dark chocolate! Mangos! Fresh bread!
The six things I could never do without
Family, ideas, justice, creative expression, smart people and hugs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
1. My kids. 2. How much damage Trump will cause to this nation and the world, and how we can best mitigate it. We hope Trump will be better than Hitler, but he could be worse. We just don't know yet. 3. Songs I'm mentally arranging.

More keywords to feed okcupid: activism, activist, social justice, environment, environmentalism, recycling, musician, Gandhi, quaker.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing my guitar, playing a game with the kids, working on a project or making whole-wheat pizza from scratch.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You should message me if
. . . you are interested in real life interaction. Email is fine as a first step, but I will want to meet you in person as soon as practical -- lunch or hot chocolate at a cafe, for example -- as I have no interest in cyber-only relationships.

I'd like to find a good friend (or more!) to ski, bike . . . or maybe you have an outdoor activity you would like to suggest? It would also be fun to go to a peace rally or political action with you, or spend the evening singing songs and drinking tea or hot cocoa, or make dinner and play a game with the kids, or who knows what.