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My self-summary
About me: I've lived a full and fascinating life, the kind of life people write books about or make independent movies about, experienced more at my age than most ever will, have survived some relatively horrible experiences, enjoyed blessings beyond imagination, persevered, accomplished a few impressive feats, realized several dreams, and somewhere in the midst of it all, managed to wear myself down. My high stress lifestyle, poorly managed, ended up making me literally ill (let this be a warning to people who neglect their health ;-) Thus, I've been spending the past couple years retraining myself to live with much more focus on my own happiness and well-being, but also with determination to continue growing, helping out in what ways I can, and especially to remain true to my personal philosophies and ethics.

I'm independent, especially because I prefer to call the shots in my life, and rather introverted, at the core, but I'm also fascinated by people, and cherish relationships with others, thus I often morph into an extrovert, especially in situations where a single other person and I become close, as friends or lovers. Overall, I appreciate and respect people, and other life, uncommonly much. The most outstanding compliments I get tend to refer to my ability to connect with others, my empathic nature, my ability to understand and relate with people from all walks of life (I'm often accused of reading minds, although I certainly don't consider myself a mind reader; I've just invested abnormally much in understanding others, listen well, and have gotten to know more individuals than I could ever remember). So.. I'm an introspective, introverted, intuitive, philanthropic people person .oO(/|\)_(/|\)

I'm also a thinker. My hopeless brain always seems to be going at it. In fact, I think I'm addicted to thought. I spend most time playing with concepts and abstracts, but generally with substantial material. That is, I enjoy thinking about concrete things in an abstract way. Weird, isn't it?

Interests: Everething, but especially society, social evolution, poetry (reading and writing and readings), mathematics, logic, physics, philosophy, literature (especially classics), volunteering, learning, neurology, nutrition, physical and mental health, felines, education, people, cuddling, indie movies (relatively little tolerance for tv and hollywood), feminism, creativity, practical artistry (such as building shopping malls out of discarded toilettes), camping, city life, computers, internet utility and culture, world culture, traveling, language, all communication and media, thinking intently, thinking frivolously, thinking practically.

I am Curious, Aware, and Real
What I’m doing with my life
One thing's for sure: Not what most people are. After I came to terms with the realization that I wasn't going to find any guides to life (at least any that work in any acceptable way) among other people, self-help books, or any literature, movies, sitcoms, the Discovery Channel, or even wikipedia, I began focusing on my methods and philosophies full-force. That helped a lot. It didn't take me long, after that, to decide that I wanted to pursue a life rich in experience, understanding, undertakings, and relaxation. Happiness, Love, and Suffering follow. I have numerous dreams; it doesn't matter if I don't realize all of them, but when I see opportunity to work on one, I do so. In addition, I make sure I'm aware and in-tune enough to recognize when I can help out in some way. Thus, I've found that I'm much more adept at helping others out in small ways, and much more likely to do so. Practice makes perfect.
I’m really good at
independent thought, confusing people, and getting bored with talking about what I'm really good at
The first things people usually notice about me
This question is boring. Wouldn't you rather hear some random facts about me?

- The abstracts of mathematics can send me into bouts of euphoria.
- My favorite person ever is my older sister, who happens to have downs syndrome.
- A few months ago, I moved into a new apt in Boulder and got the first tv I've owned, with reception, as an adult. It's never on, even when I'm bored to tears.
- I went to state in high school for reading poems by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, whose poetry often brought me to tears when I was a teenager.
- I'm one of very few people I know who listens to both bluegrass and industrial.
- I spent four months living and studying in China. Wo shuo Hanyu yidian.
- By the time I was twelve, my father had forced me to sit through The Crying Game, A Clockwork Orange, Blue Velvet, and many other movies that I barely survived.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
some books of which I'm especially fond: Pride and Prejudice, The Myth of Sisyphus, Breakfast of Champions, Slaughterhouse 5, Cat's Cradle, Fahrenheit 451, The Martian Chronicles, Beggars in Spain trilogy, Nickled and Dimed, Fast Food Nation, Jane Eyre, 1984, Travels With Charley, East of Eden, Wizard of Earthsea, Sense and Sensibility, The Stranger, From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler, The Mathematical Tourist, Chemical Magic, Childhood's End, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, The Dirk Gentry Books, Garrison Keillor, To Kill a Mockingbird, Michel Foucault, The Sun Also Rises, Mercedes Lackey, Tad Williams, Gore Vidal, The Stand, It, Carrie, Steppenwolf, Tao Te Ching (I'm not really a Taoist, but Taoism possesses deep, substantial wells of wisdom, and I owe a great deal to it), Herman Hesse, Man's Search for Meaning

Movies: "Baraka!" BBC's "Pride and Prejudice," "This is Spinal Tap," "Meaning of Life," Anything by Terry Gilliam, Jim Jarmusch, Stanley Kubrik, The Coen Brothers, "Dazed and Confused," "Possession," "The Professional," "Run, Lola, Run," "Young at Heart"

I'll work more on this section later...
Six things I could never do without
Six? Hm, this will take careful classification.
1. Myself
2. Earth (that includes the products of Earth)
3. The Milky Way
4. The Universe
5. Existence (or just IS)
6. My car, dude! .. heehee, just kidding, I don't have a car
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Lately, my brain has been terribly self-obsessed. Every day I wonder about some aspect of the human brain, and have been learning much about it. Everything we do is micro and macro-managed by the brain. Nothing plays more of a role in our health, happiness, well-being. I hope my lifetime sees the era when the secrets of neurology are finally unlocked, because I believe we will then have far more power over ourselves in every way.
On a typical Friday night I am
being atypical
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have fibromyalgia. If you don't really know what that is, I suggest looking it up at wikipedia. Be forewarned, it's among the more misunderstood illnesses, and knowledge about it is rapidly evolving these days, so much of what people know is antiquated. Don't believe most of what you read or hear about it, even from supposedly credible sources. I've found that most doctors aren't up to date about it. Luckily, I've learned a great deal about it on my own. One of my goals is to get involved in researching and treating fibromyalgia in others, as it's so common for women. (Mozilla still highlights fibromyalgia as a misspelled word lol)
You should message me if
You think we'd have some things to talk about and believe you would enjoy talking about them with me.

I moved to Boulder seeking more healthcare options for my fibromyalgia (ie acupressure, herbs, etc). I've lived all over America, and spent some years in Capitol Hill, Denver, where I fit in better, but I often feel like I just don't fit in, here in Boulder. It's not that I have anything against Boulder, I just feel a bit like a foreigner, here. I've hardly met anyone since moving here, and it's starting to drive me a little crazy. I'd love to meet people to grab a coffee or beer with, folks with whom to catch movies, discuss all sorts of things, and/or to show me around Boulder.
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