I'm one of the good guys. I care about what's really important in this life. It's important you love the people in your life, and treat everyone with the kind of respect and care and kindness that makes the world a better place and lets you sleep better at night.
I hope you will enjoy my profile. I've been on a couple of dates with people who only read this far before deciding to go out on a date with me. It's not my fault their approach to my profile was "TLDR". However, in response to a complaint I feel compelled to insert this "if I only had 30 words" personal ad here:
Bisexual, Polyamorous, Sex-Positive, NudistMale, 38, educated, well-read, and open-minded, seeks conscientious adventurers to help me expand my horizons. I am drug and caffeine free and come with glowing references!!
I am Genuine, Friendly, and Smiling.
As such, I live each and every day of my life with one goal higher than all others: I want to sleep well at night. I want to have a clear conscience and a good-faith belief I've done the best I can that day to make the world a better place than it was the day before. I've never taken any Hippocratic oath, but I think it's wise to do the best one can to "do no harm". I also want to spread a message of hope, and let other people know that love is meant to be shared and there's plenty to go around!
I learned a long time ago never to do anything just for the money, but we all want to keep a roof over our heads, so I'm a self-employed small business entreprenuer who also does fee-only small business consulting. Also, I'm a writer. I've had some magazine articles published and I'm currently working on a memoir that I don't think will ever be finished. I am passionate about the work I do, and I pretty much wake up every morning wanting to get to work. It puts a smile across my face just thinking about it. How many people EVER find themselves in that position? I am a lucky guy, and good things happen to me! Some people love to be a part of that, and some people can't stand to watch.
I've seen thousands of movies and I have a rating system, "Phil's 5-star movie rating system", that all of my friends have grown accustomed to using, even though they make fun of me for it.
I have eclectic tastes in music such that the cd's in my player right now include Edie Brickell & The New Bohemians, Huey Lewis & The News, Sublime, Blessid Union of Souls, and the latest from 50 Cent, Akon, Eminem, and Kanye West. But my cd player has gone largely ignored since I got satellite radio. Between my dozen or so favorite satellite stations, NPR, KSHE 95, KMOX, and KTRS 550, it's been a while since I just put a cd on play and listened to it. The Heist by Macklemore and Ryan Lewis is probably what I turn to most lately. Same Love! My new favorite song is "Take me to Church" by Hozier. It's about how churches have a responsibility to stand up for the rights of GLBT folks, not just look the other way as we're being oppressed. It's an AMAZING song!
I tend to avoid onions and garlic. Fortunately, I'm not allergic, per se, so sometimes I'll eat them.
About five years ago, I replaced "Thursday night Chinese buffet" with "Thursday night threesomes" and have dropped about 90 pounds and counting. I am now a huge proponent of my own revolutionary weight loss plan, aptly titled, "Less Food, More Sex!" I'd be looking for a book deal, but seriously, what else do I need to say? "More Sex, Less Food"?!
2. Intimacy. That moment where someone else's care makes you feel so special you realize your happiness might be about the most important thing in the world to them, or, in the alternative, when your care for them makes them feel like their happiness must be the most important thing in the world to you.
3. Sexual fulfillment. I enjoy sex. Lots of kinds of sex. Sex is kind of like oxygen, if I'm not getting it, I'm going to notice. But the sex isn't about orgasms for me, it's about the intimacy that the sexual bonding facilitates.
4. Optimism. It seems to be a pretty fundamental part of who I am. I'm told my optimism facilitates a "joi de vivre" that is fun to be around, and even though it's sometimes over the top, it combines with a generally positive attitude to create hope and share love with those around me.
5. Financial support. Money to be able to afford to pay my bills so that I can spend more time sharing intimacy with my partners, inside the bedroom, and outside the bedroom.
6. Recreational companionship. Share time doing things with me, for fun or just for the sake of sharing life together. I sometimes find an intimate moment in the aisle at the grocery store every bit as compelling as one in the bedroom.
I will offer this caveat: I'VE LEARNED THAT IF I'M HAVING SEX REGULARLY, THERE ISN'T MUCH ELSE THAT REALLY EVER BOTHERS ME. But if I'm not having sex regularly, every tiny little thing that I might find mildly annoying blows up to become the worst thing ever. So clearly, it's important that I have sex REGULARLY, within the context of any healthy, well-adjusted, happy romantic relationship.
It has been brought to my attention that this part of my profile makes it seem like all I care about and or what drives me is sex. Folks assume I'm some sort of "sex addicted orgasm-junkie" just following my penis wherever it takes me. This is not true. If it were true, I wouldn't have romantic partners. I'd be a swinger, instead of being polyamorous. There was a time in my life when alcohol and sex with strangers kept me going, but I am not a 21-year-old college student. Far from it. What keeps me going now is the relationships I have with other people, especially the loving relationships I share with the women I love. The always wonderful group sex is simply bonus ;-)
The women I love, and what I can do to keep them happy with me. Also, how much easier life is with two partners than with six partners, and how five partners is probably my poly-saturation limit. With six partners I seem not to get anything done. With four partners I seem to have a lot of spare time. I currently have three partners that I've been with 8 years, 5 years, and about 16 months, respectively, which means I spend way too much time playing games on my iPhone lately.
The business I run, and how to make sure it keeps paying my bills so that I have more free time to write. How to work smarter, not harder, so I have as much leisure time as I can possibly squeeze out of each day without worrying whether the phone bill will be paid on time or if an unexpected traffic ticket will wreck the groceries budget.
My primary partner is Odinsmunin. We have been together over eight years, and have lived together over seven of them. She's who I live with, laugh with, love with, and spend as much time with as she can possibly stand. She's my partner in every sense of the word, and does an amazing job of helping me stay organized. She radiates unconditional love.
Since I began living polyamorous, I've gotten happy in ways I never knew were possible. The women I love actually e-mail and text each other to collaborate to make sure each of our threesomes or foursomes is better for me than the previous one. These women are very important and special to me and I don't want to find myself without any of them being regular contributors to my life. I cherish every moment I spend with each of them, and all of the moments I spend with all of them. I feel so truly blessed by the people in my life!
I am open to love in all the ways it comes to me, and I don't plan on changing that about myself, ever.
You're not offended by the fact that I've got three women I'm in love with and we're open to finding more partners who can make positive contributions to our world. I'm a "more the merrier" sort, in bed and out.
You should also message me if you have actually read all of my journal entries (wait, where'd those go?), viewed all my pictures, compared all our test scores, compared our profiles, and read all this profile basics stuff, and still think I'm someone your world would be better for including.
You should also message me if you can have some patience with my answers to my profile questions. I've been using OKC for social networking for around ten years now. Some of the answers to some of the questions I've answered are patently out of date. For example, I don't currently have a boyfriend and five girlfriends. That hasn't been my situation for several years. I'm torn between starting a brand new profile, or just putting the date at the end of the answers as I write them. No date means the question's answer (or explanation) *might* be out of date.
You should also message me if you're a raving fan of intelligent conversation. I'm never starved for it, but I don't run from it, either. Indeed, I embrace it.
I don't care what your politics are, in as much as everyone who is political wants to make the world a better place, they just have a different idea of what's better.
I don't care what your sexual orientation is. Just because the rest of us are bisexual (pansexual, sapiosexual, mostly, just sexual) doesn't mean we're going to expect anyone to do anything they don't want to do. If you're straight or gay, you're not disqualified from joining us, you just don't have to do anything you don't want to do (not that you have to do things you don't want to do if you're bisexual, of course, everyone just wants you to be comfortable and happy).
I don't care what religion you have, because we're all trying to learn the same single maxim from religion: There is only one eternal question (why are we here?) and there is only one correct answer (Love). You don't have to be a Christian, Jew, Muslim, Hindu, Taoist, or Buddhist of some sort to figure that out, all that matters is that you figure it out. Some of the most loving and ethical people I know are atheist or agnostic. They still seem to "get it" in ways some professed religious people I've met clearly do not.
I genuinely look forward to hearing from you. There's no time like the present, so message me!