51 Los Gatos, United States
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My self-summary
(OBS my Ap makes it look like I am always on this site even when not. If I had just visited your profile and then left; it looks like I'm staring at you lol. Oh my God! Look at all these ladies; how exhilarating!! So I have kids and you will have to understand that…but that can be hot. Conspiratorial plans, crimes of opportunity, who knows where it will lead…I would rather have somebody in my life of quality as a muse who I see less frequently but with abandon than somebody convenient. On the other hand, such a quality person would become a priority herself. When I meet you, I hope to feel that I have missed you.

Let's go running or meet at the beach or grab a glass of wine. It may work out romantically or it may not but at least we will have maybe discovered a new trail, beached or sipped wine with hopefully a cool person! Either way we will have that moment. We're adult enough for that right?! Ultimately, I'm looking for somebody I can't resist and just as importantly can't resist me!

I'd love to plan an adventure near or far. I've been to over 50 countries, manage to get fed in a host of languages but I'm hungry for more!

Sorry about the shirtless pic but a woman friend told me that my pics made me look like "an innocuous skinny white guy", evidently a fate worse than death :)
What I’m doing with my life
I am trying to balance being the best father I can be with career and intellectual pursuits, health, travel and diet. Balance in each category is essential to success in the other categories. Being a single Dad is enormously gratifying but I'll be honest up front. I presently spend half the week in Marin and half in the South Bay with significant time in San Francisco so that may not be for everybody. Although I didn't plan it out that way, it is actually ideal in many ways. The woman I date will have to be cool with this, even turning it into an asset by creating situations where we really value each other highly. Don't get me wrong, the sky is the limit as despite the sound of it, I have alot of flexibility.
I’m really good at
You could parachute me in to anywhere in the world and I will thrive! Our definitions of thrive may differ but for me it will be very good times. Boy, do I have some stories and I'd love to hear yours.
The first things people usually notice about me
If I'm emerging from around a corner, my nose. Unless I'm naked.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
If you followed me for a week you might think that I was a raw vegan but I am a de jure omnivore with emphasis on provenance. I couldn't really label my music tastes but I could tell you that on my drive from Sonoma today, James Vincent McMorrow, Ray LaMontagne, Seu Jorge, Maroon 5, Nando Reis, Rage Against the Machine and Flogging Molly were my Pandora stations. I go by the "If the music is good on volume 6, it will be better on volume 8" motto.

I love Ian McEwan, Kundera, Tolstoy, Mishima, Hemmingway, Appolinaire, Rilke, GGMarques, Gibran, Geek Love by K. Dunn, José Saramago, Hesse, Patrick Süskind, John Irving, Pat Conroy, Ayn Rand (don't have to see eye to eye to have it be impactful), Dave Eggars, The Russians...just read Netherland by Joseph O'Neil, The Brief Wondrous Life by Junot Diaz, the latest Murakami and Constellation of Vital Phenomenae. Currently transfixed by Brian Doyle's Mink River. What evocative power that man has.
The six things I could never do without
Working on asceticism...uh...with a smart phone. And a good sleep. Oh, and my kids. And a muse. With a passport. And a bottle of Grand Cru Chablis. Et sex bien sur! ;)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Penso ergo sum.
On a typical Friday night I am
What do you propose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I will whisper in your ear ;) Oh one more thing and this might be a deal breaker.....I have....never been to Burning Man. And far worse... I have zero desire to go.
You should message me if
You are attracted to me.
You smell good.
Want to learn more about me.
You want to hang out and people watch.
Go for a run?
You fancy yourself a commiseratrice.
You want to geek out on wine.
- I have been told that I come off very sexually here (and I am) but I'm not a player; I want to find ONE woman with whom we will reciprocally provide all of our sex.