The best anagrams of my names are "amoralities up", "realism utopia", "polite samurai" and "I amour pilates". They describe me much better than anything else.
I appreciate proper conversation starters and won't reply to one-liners.
I am a loyal and trustworthy friend but known to love my dog more than anything else. In general, I find people very disappointing, whereas dogs have very rarely disappointed me. If you can prove differently, message me and it'll be a beginning of a beautiful friendship.
I will be pleased to meet any new people as friends. I have given up gender and don't identify as anything particular. I am not looking to madly fall in love, but I will accept it gladly if it is to happen. And no, it doesn't mean I am searching for 'intimate encounters'. As it happens, I already have access to unlimited, fantastic, sex. I'm looking for interesting conversations on books, politics, culture and so forth, as well as enjoyable shared time. As friends. Without benefits. I know that might sound un-exciting, but that's how it is. I like doing unusual stuff. I like art. I like museums. More often than not, I've been unlucky in my affections. There is a reason why this profile is long; I want to meet like minded people. If you can't be bothered, you probably aren't one of them.
I am engaged to my partner of 10 years. As a matter of fact, we met here. I am not going to trade him to anyone else, so if you are not up for ethical non-monogamy then you are better off continuing your search. I am not interested in casual sex, so please don't offer. I can be friends with lots of different kinds of people, though, monogamous or other kind.
I am headstrong, spontaneous, and cute. I have a very dry sense of humour. I like to believe the best of everyone but I'm sceptical, get easily sad and occasionally moody and I never ever forget if someone treats me badly. But I'm not illogical screaming-the-lungs-out-at-you psycho moody; I like to discuss things rather than argue them. I did a course in conflict management, so I've put the effort in. Someone once said I am the most self-aware person they know. And I'm fun, but rather sensible, surprisingly. I lean to the left politically and don't in general talk about it.
I use rest of my time trying to meet new people or moving around on the Reality-Fantasy-Nightmare axis trying to figure out what I really would like to do with the spare time I have. I am a sucker for well written society critique. I have a dog, two cats and four rats. That keeps me entertained when I travel back to see Mr Boyfriend. Generally, my life is pretty good, minus the money situation. Oh, and I read. LOTS. I get easily restless and want change, even when I'm happy. So often I daydream about other lives I could have lived. I could still get a ranch or move to Tibet. Maybe I will?
I wrote a novel and it's in my digital version of a drawer, probably never coming out. Most of the time I can keep myself entertained. If nothing else, I can build a sofa fort and eat toasties while watching groundhog day. I'm just never bored. I also put in a lot of effort so that I wouldn't remind people of either Miss Piggy or Holly from Breakfast at Tiffany's.
I could say I am REALLY good with fresh starts and generally 'bouncing back'. I've had enough experience to become skilled. I'm not sure that a well trained survival instinct counts as something you can say you are 'good at', though.
I'm not too shabby with drawing. I'm not trained or super good, but I like it regardless. I am also good at time estimations, multitasking and making lists or organising things. That makes me sound a bit anal, but you know what, why lie?
BUT when I do get noticed it's usually first because apparently I have "bright" and "very observant" eyes. If you get as far as talking to me you would notice I have an Irish-y accent. I used to live there. It's been said that I am also super intense but quite introverted, and brave in the sense that I go along with things anyway, despite of feeling scared. It has pretty much never paid off, but I keep doing it regardless.
shows: I used to go to theatre a lot and I was an amateur actress for 13 years, but I have had to give that up; It's just too time consuming. The only opera I have ever consistently liked was Madama Butterfly. I do like ballet and I enjoy drama on stage. I really wish I had a chance to see more. One of the best on stage plays I've seen was The Collaborators. Groundhog Day musical was fantastic.
Films: Year of the wolf, the types of films like Dogville, American Beauty, Fur and Angela's ashes. I'm not a huge fan of blockbusters and in reality I watch any old crap if the company is good. And I love Groundhog Day.
TV: Anything with strong female characters.
I like Adventure time, House, Dr Who and Being human (first 3 series). I love Mad Men, How I Met Your Mother and like Orange is the new black as well as House of cards. Black books is my all time favourite and Castle is pretty enjoyable too. I don't watch much TV, but this gives an idea of my taste.
Music: As a rule, I don't listen to music. The truth is, that I react strongly to that type of auditive stimuli and I don't want to emotionally overload myself all the time, especially if I have a lot going on in my life. I'd rather listen to a podcast. There's something wrong with people who can't handle silence. The kind of music I like is played by bands like The Neutral Milk Hotel, Queen, The Smiths, The Cure (older stuff), The Beatles, Ultra Bra, Leevi and the leavings, jazz, Apocalyptica, classical cello.. anything that fits my mood then. I quite like Kate Bush and Frank Sinatra. But in general, If I have to listen to something, I'd pick 'sounds of rain and thunder' over music any time; it's more emotionally neutral and just relaxing.
I like jazz and brass music a lot, the swinging type. I sing to myself when I'm happy. Some random music is okay in the background if I'm in the mood for it, but in general I'm only in mood for jazz. I actually really like just the clock ticking on the background. Some day when I have money and time I'd like to learn to play the trombone.
My favourite album is "In the aeroplane over the sea" by Neutral milk hotel, but I don't listen to it a lot. I also like 'Kiss me kiss me kiss me' by the Cure.
Food: I'm fussy about food, but not its taste or complexity. I like good food when someone else has cooked it, but I rarely bother to make anything very special. I was on a vegetarian diet for a long time, because I don't approve the methods used by our meat industry, but after developing some health problems have gone almost completely vegan now. So I'm very much in between vegetarian and vegan. It's hard not to be fussy when you can't eat most food on the market. I don't have much of a sweet tooth. I'd rather have a French onion soup for a starter than chocolate cake for dessert. I like flavour combinations that other people don't seem to get, such as blue cheese with pineapple. And of course rye bread from my native Finland. I like stuff with lentils, like dahl, and Indian food in general.
And I love whisky. And no, I certainly don't ruin it with mixing coke in it. And margaritas. I really like margaritas. Sadly, my ability to drink either is severely compromised due to migraines that can be pretty much be set off by just knowing the next door neighbours are having a glass of wine. Guess what I really like?; a naked man drinking cheap cava from my shoe. It's all about the context rather than the drink itself.
2) My dog, Elsa. I love her more than anything else in the world. She's my daemon. If you have read 'His dark materials' you know what I mean. If you haven't read it I probably just came across as a basket case.
3) Interest for life and the childlike ability to get excited about things.
4) Freedom and hope, in life in general. I often feel things in general are awful, but thankfully acknowledge they can get better too.
5) Books. Do I ever need books. I think I'd die without books, or go mad.
6) Self confidence, to believe in who I am and trusting I'm not a failure, the ability to just get on with things.
- if trying to live for a year as if I thought God existed would change me a lot as a person.
- love and relationships, polyamory, invisible strings that connect people in the cosmos.
- mundane existentialism and why things fail.
- my dog's face. Look at it; Isn't it adorable?
- my boyfriend, because he makes me happy
- That I should get rid of a lot of stuff
- what kind of people I'd like to meet
- how to make artsy stuff with everyday objects
- human tragedy
- How to make the damn thing work (applies to everything from relationships to recipes and the laptop).
- Why so many people are dicks and that's apparently okay.
- How to get enough money to arrange a pension plan.
It's balancing between important and absolutely meaningless things. I sometimes have the tendency to make meaningless things important and unfortunately, it usually screws things up.
I try to take some time every day now just to be grateful of the things I have and not think of anything.
A Jamaican MTA employee in NYC subway said I should have gone into stand up comedy rather than read biology and he's not the first one.
I don't usually feel very ashamed of anything I do, so I could say that I really don't have any that private things. I guess it is my dirty 'secret' that I am somewhat into BDSM as a 'bottom'. Sadly, a lot of BDSM people I have met have turned out to be a lot more crazy than average and i am already mostly meeting crazy people. So I've kind of given up on that. It's probably worth a note that I am not obsessed with this interest and it's not why I'm here. I also want to socialise with bookish people who like knitting and so forth.
I think selling sex is fine if enough money was offered and don't think it's immoral or shameful. As long as it doesn't power the drug industry or exploit disadvantaged people (which it usually probably does).
I appear confident but am actually scared most of the time. I'm just very good in hiding it.
I think the world is due another flu epidemic that should kill lots of people. I am actually waiting for this to happen. And I am disappointed it hasn't yet happened, seriously. Also, I think we should direct funds to research on certain other types of degenerative diseases rather than cancer research. That's quite a private and not so popular opinion.
Also, I let my dog lick my teeth and don't give a toss if you worry it might give you a tapeworm. I have kissed giraffes too. They carry salmonella and listeria.
That was 8 things at least. Was that enough?
- you are honest, trustworthy, respectful and fun. This is a deal breaker.
- I would like to meet confident people who have at least one thing in life they feel enthusiasm for. I want to see that sparkle in your eye; I think it's one of the most important things in life.
- Or if you are Aidan Turner. Or alternatively just happen to look very much like Aidan Turner. Yes, I can be that shallow in my weak moments.
- If you can teach me Czech.
- You like crafts and want to share ideas.
- If you can teach me to play the trombone.
- You know physics and want to tell me about the nature of time.
- If you used to know me and miss me.
- You don't need a particular kind of reason, but if you don't like dogs, I probably won't like you.
You should NOT message me if:
- your profile says nothing else but "I don't know what to write" or your profile is generic stating you just like to watch films and your family is important to you. That's poor advertising.
- You are really depressed. I know this sounds really discriminatory, but the truth is that I already know lots of depressed people and I don't have energy to support more.
- you haven't read any books since you left school (I'm bookish)
- you write without punctuation or in text speak
- you intend to say 'lol'
- you are looking for someone to settle down with, unless you are thinking of a commune. I have already settled down with someone else.
- If your muscles are bigger than your mental abilities.
- you are a self-declared dick head and a flake. Experience has taught me that if a person is comfortable with the idea that it's okay to be a dick or a flakey person, then that will come up at some point in a hurtful context. I'd rather avoid that.