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My self-summary
I'm rarely active here on OKC, but I'm still looking for love. If you'd like to join me at a salsa or tango lesson, or play or learn to play chess with me, please just say hi!

If you are a frat boy or sorority girl, I respect your choice and the joy it brings you, but I guarantee you'll hate me. If you are unconventional or progressive, you may find me more interesting: I've crashed a plane, tracked hackers, climbed the Tatras, given presentations to large conference halls, worked for dozens of Fortune 100 organizations, and learned to control my adrenal response; I'm vigilant about recycling; I audited full college courses while in grade school, then started a business while in high school that I'm still in today.

I'm bold, naturally dominant among peers, and have no problem telling a CEO when she/he is wrong, but I'm not a player and am often a little shy at the first moments when meeting a woman who I've realized makes my heart race. That's probably because while my teenage friends went to football practice, I accompanied my mom to women's meetings.

Although I move with an easy grace, being somewhat absentminded, it isn't uncommon for me to greet walls or corners when in the comfort of my home.

With or without company I enjoy dancing, martial arts, yoga, swimming, windsurfing, trail running, and then a dozen other sports that I never get around to, like climbing. Ask me. I probably love it.

I play guitar, saxophone, and have a few other musical talents, like caterwauling. Hopefully you're up for some karaoke with me?

I love truly and unreservedly, and for better or worse will do so even if it can't last. I thrive on passion and intimacy and I love to cuddle, with a kind person whom I care about.

Our self-summary:
You and I are both spontaneous and driven, generous and patient, unreserved yet thoughtful, liberal while grounded, and deviant yet rational. We're extremely open-minded but unafraid of our beliefs. We're mature in how we manage a relationship and business, but awkwardly youthful in other aspects of life. We enjoy being unusual and are comfortable fitting that in our lifestyle, whether it's expressed outwardly in broken taboos at a club, or simply expressed in a curious smile at the museum.

We are happiest when putting other people first. Because of this, we find a rare easy comfort in each other's company, knowing that our tendency to be selfless need not be guarded to maintain a healthy interaction.

We recognize that introverts often have a tremendous social awareness and vitality, even if for shorter time-spans than extroverts. We appreciate both sharing and solitude. Without feeling entitled to it, we enjoy others striving to entertain us - and without passing judgement, we give our friends time to enrich our lives in their own way. If we don't understand someone, we're more likely to become curious than frustrated.

We look for wide diversity in the live performances we see and things we do. We'll play a game of chess or solve a puzzle at a coffee shop, where we'll curse fluently and philosophize in equal measure. Whether you win a match of tennis or I win a match of racquetball, we're both up for sushi or tapas afterwards. If we have a great connection, we might leave for the airport on an hour's notice, booking tickets to a random destination on the way.

I'm looking for real friends of any age or gender. I'll be your fearless 'wingman' for an evening at your favorite place. This symbiosis ensures an exciting evening and interesting conversation for both of us.

I'd like to find a life partner, but I have time in my life for a beautiful person who wants nothing more than a dance partner. I've lived and have good friends in many places; DC and Portland are my alternate homes, and I'd love to meet you if either is yours.

I'm slim, athletic, and healthy, and it's important to me that my romantic partner is a physical match; slender, fit, or even petite. I appreciate any awareness of style, although edgy and alternative especially appeal to me.

We invite laughter, love and tenderness to the bedroom, as well as creativity and intensity. We are feminists while still reveling in our genetic code. The intimate gifts we exchange are all based in sensitivity, consideration, and respect, but many of those gifts are deeply complementary rather than identical. While your intellect, inner strength and achievements are obviously your own, you enjoy the sensual nature of a dominant partner.

You find being carried from the couch where you were dreaming a welcome gesture of affection; In my dream, you ask me how the movie ended, and I tell you it ended with me loving you.
What I’m doing with my life
As a successful computer consultant
I'm found in a coffee shop,
moving to the rhythm of some Spanish tune.
Peering fiercely at a laptop,
mind grooving on a system beyond the room.
I’m really good at
Communicating. You've probably noticed that most of the 'edgy' relationship questions here could be answered "It depends, do I trust my partner? Do we clearly understand each other?" It's the glue that holds a partnership together while liberating it to grow.
The first things people usually notice about me
I hug people that I probably shouldn't.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: I love to cook, especially for others or with a friend. Dining out, I'll suggest Asian (probably sushi, pho, or tom kha gai), Indian, tapas, or something healthy (typically including meat).

Books: Fantasy (e.g. George R. R. Martin), science fiction (e.g. Neal Stephenson), educational nonfiction, or a recommended read via a friend.

Movies (unapologetically): The Usual Suspects, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Bolt, Twelve Monkeys, How to Train Your Dragon, Watchmen, Real Genius, The Matrix, Good Will Hunting, V for Vendetta, The Truman Show, Waking Life, Contact, Princess Bride, Let the Right One In, Cashback, Monsters Inc., The Secretary, The Fifth Element, Griff the Invisible, Gladiator, Hudson Hawk, Memento, Crouching Tiger / Hidden Dragon, (Serial Experiments) Lain, Fight Club, Once, Leon: The Professional, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, 8-Mile, The Crow, The Big Lebowski, Groundhog Day, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. I also like movies I didn't really like, if I find myself thinking about them days later. Some of my favorite series: Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, X-Men, Bourne, Die Hard

Live: Any play that some characters survive through, performances featuring a cello, science lectures, comedians that can be funny and smart at the same time, acts featuring physique and skill (Cirque du Soleil), just about any music with a clear hook and a small crowd. I recently enjoyed the Reason Rally in DC.

Music: I'm probably listening to the artists listed on your profile at this moment. This site's great for finding new favorites!

TV shows: I don't watch much TV, but sometimes I binge on a fiction series, like Elementary or a darkly semi-erotic anime, like Cowboy Bebop. Series I'm likely to occasionally catch online are The Daily Show, Doctor Who, and TEDTalks.

People: Brilliant humanists who hold clear, open, and compelling conversations with society, including: Richard Feynman, Carl Sagan, Christopher Hitchens, Tim Minchin, Bill Nye, Michio Kaku, Neil deGrasse Tyson, Eddie Izzard, Bertrand Russell.
Six things I could never do without
A close friend or lover.
Time to think.
A teacher.
The net.
A solid beat.
An abundance of water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to improve.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dancing or doing something creative with my partner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My friends know and love the fact that I am deviant - it might amuse them, or they may live vicariously through me, but they support me either way. I find safety by being fearless in sharing who I am and what I feel. I'm an open book, and a fun read.
You should message me if
... you think it'd be fun. Or lovely. Or hot. Or enlightening.

Or if you just feel like it.

P.S. I'm sorry, but I will not respond if you are here with romantic interests and choose not to share photos showing your face and waistline. I don't care about age (either direction!), but I'm slim and healthy, and I feel it's fair to look for the same in a life partner.
The two of us