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My self-summary
I asked a couple friends of mine to describe me recently. One said I have an "intimidating presence", something about a combination of being blunt and honest combined with my height. I see myself as a teddy bear personally. Another said I was just tactful enough to not be an asshole. That's a complement I guess? Another said I'm too smart for my own good.

I asked them because, while I know what I think about myself, that doesn't tell you (the person reading this) much, since you'll obviously think differently of me than I think of myself. I see myself as silly, passionate, and curious. I'm an INTP, which as far as labels goes is creepily accurate to me. I'm a software developer by trade and hobby, my other hobbies including games (board/video/tabletop, doesn't matter as long as they are mentally stimulating), trying to get into shape, cooking (which goes against the "trying to get into shape"), and reading. I love learning pretty much anything, but am particularly passionate about science (physics more than others), philosophy, history, computers, and math.

Another passion of mine is stories, which may sound strange but it makes sense in my head. Everyone has a story, everyone is their own protagonist and has their own goals and sees themselves in a positive light, it's fascinating! It's one of the reasons history is on the list of things I particularity enjoy learning.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, studying, driving all over New Jersey for one reason or another. I had a fairly major surgery a little while back, and can finally drop some of the weight I put on after it because I couldn't exercise.
I’m really good at
Deciphering and creating overly complex systems, listening to other people's issues, and working with my computer. I'm also told I'm a decent teacher and cook.
The first things people usually notice about me
I assume my height, although my beard is my most complimented feature.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A Song of Fire and Ice, Off to be the Wizard, Dragon Delesangre, Transformation, Wyrm (favorite book), Sword of Truth, Dragonlance, The Singularity is Near, The Republic, The Gay Science, and so on and so forth.

Movies: Gladiator, What Dreams May Come, Inside Out, Silence of the Lambs, Dark City, Moulin Rouge, Saw 1, Watchmen, Guardians of the Galaxy. probably more that I can't think of at the moment.

Shows: American Dad, Family Guy, Futurama, Supernatural, Game of Thrones, Firefly, The Dresden Files, Invader ZIM, Arrow/Flash

Music: Disturbed, Foo Fighters, Poets of the Fall, Edguy, Symphony of Fire, Dragonforce, Symphony X, Transyberian Orchistra, etc etc. Mostly rock and metal.

Food: I'll try anything twice, but notably cuban and italian. Oh, and sushi. Mmmm, sushi.

Games (at the moment): Dark Souls, Stellaris (pretty much everything Paradox makes), Elder Scrolls: Legends, Hearthstone, Sentinels of the Multiverse
Six things I could never do without
I really can't think of a way to answer this and take it seriously at the same time, it's just too cliche!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If you've gotten this far, congratulations! Time to piss everybody off.

There is a concept in Objectivist philosophy (as a note, I'm not an Objectivist, but I try to read every side of an issue) which boils down to the argument between the individual and the collective. What is better, working towards your own betterment, or the betterment of others?

It's a complicated topic obviously, but the facet that has been worming it's way through my head lately is the concept of individuality and labels. Most people would agree that labels can be beneficial in most scenarios. If I told you I'm a Republican, and you're the kind of person who would match with me, your stomach probably just turned. I'm not, as a note. But just saying that would immediately give you volumes of information about me.

However, what if not every aspect of that label applies? Does opinion you just generated based off of one word even apply to me? Even worse, if I willfully give myself a label, how does that affect my perception of myself? If I started calling myself a Republican, would I start to subconsciously see things from a more right-leaning point of view? And how does that apply to how I see others as well? I know I've been browsing profiles on here and went "SJW? Nope". However, my disagreement with the SJW movement comes from blanket bigotry towards entire sections of humanity without thought towards the individual. Am I guilty of the same prejudice that I've formed opinions on others based on? Should I go back and reevaluate my reactions based on the concept of the individual? Or does someone applying labels to their personality in turn alter their personality to meet the label, making the judgement valid?

It's enough to drive someone mad, but also the kind of questions I enjoy asking and thinking about. I know it's the wrong section, but my biggest relationship goal is to meet someone who I can have these kinds of dialogues with. Someone with a philosophical mind who isn't afraid to question everything and try to work through the tough questions.

If you got through all that, let me know! If we meet, I will give you a cookie.

No, I'm not joking.

Yes, I'm serious.
On a typical Friday night I am
So, my friends and I have a fun Friday tradition. I know this profile is already way too long and at this point I'm most likely typing to myself, but I think it's interesting, so I'm going to type about it.

We get together at my buddy's house every Friday to roleplay. I was running an Iron Kingdoms game where the party was a group of spies from Llael (France) in Caspia (London), and it was the evening of the Harvest Ball. So to get everyone in character, I made a french dinner for the group.

The next week, a friend of mine cooked. Then I cooked again. Since then, every Friday someone has cooked dinner for the group before game. It's a fun tradition, and something to look forward to at the end of the week!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I tend to rant. A lot. If it wasn't obvious just reading this thing.

Other then that, ask and find out if you want to know anything. I'm an open book.
You should message me if
If you message, I'll answer. Eventually. I like meeting new people, even if I don't at all think we'd get along, and while I don't mind sending people messages, I also don't believe in the "the man should initiate everything" stereotype.

To answer the implied question, I'm looking for a woman who is her own person. I don't really follow the whole sexual labels game, but a friend of mine described me as demisexual, and it seems to fit. I'm attracted, primarily and before anything else, by intelligence and wit. It's one of the reasons I'm surprised I'm still on here, since it seems like 90% of the women on here are looking for hook ups (I can only imagine the male population is worse) which I am not at all interested in. If the idea of discussing the finer points of a complex philosophical issue referenced in a show on Netflix sounds like a fun evening to you, we'll probably get along.

Also, if you've read all this and made it to the end, I'll give you a second cookie. You already know about the first.
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