Most of the time I am pretty happy with myself and who I am.
I'm a computer programming nerd. I'm an atheist. I can't abide intolerance and bigotry. Being white and male and educated, I always try to mind my privilege.
I read slowly but very broadly. I follow a lot of news feeds, from commercial to radical nut jobs, and always try to consider the writers' or their employers' political slant. For fiction I mostly prefer scifi and fantasy.
Fun fact: I don't do cars; I can't pick one model out in a lineup among others, and I've never had a license. When I lived in Boston, getting a car just wasn't a priority. Public transportation serves me well, and I can easily walk for miles if there's somewhere at the end I want to be (like a good beach).
I've been married to kytheavec since 2007, and I'm looking here for friends (casual, serious, confused, BFF, nemesis, etc.), but not life partners.
If you are not looking for sex partners, then we won't be talking about you and me having sex. I don't play games that hurt platonic relationships.
If you are a man or not-female person looking for sex partners: I might be interested. Let's get to know each other first. You will have to meet my wife at some point before we get it on -- you will like her. (Also, my wife is not interested in sex with anyone but me at this time.)
Women looking for sex: I'm happy to make friends, but it might be a long time before my wife trusts you enough. If your objective is really just sex, there are lots of easier targets on OKCupid.
Answers to the old "3 adjectives to describe me" question OKCupid got rid of: I am happy, considerate, and froody.
Books: I grew up on Madeleine L'Engle (A Wrinkle in Time, etc.); Susan Cooper (The Dark is Rising, etc.); William Sleator (kick ass horror scifi novels for kids); and Ursula K. Le Guin (Earthsea Trilogy, etc.) Douglas Adams is my hero. Cory Doctorow writes awesome books you can share for free. I like Neal Stephenson's cyberpunk novels like Snow Crash. I'm currently reading the Red Mars trilogy by Kim Stanley Robinson.
Foods: chicken caesar salad; fast food-style pad thai; anything with tofu.
Movies: The Aristocrats; Contact; Coraline; Fantasia; Garden State; Ghostbusters; Juno; Lost in Translation; MirrorMask; Dogma; Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind; Nineteen Eighty-Four; The Princess Bride; Princess Mononoke; What tнē #$*! D̄ө ωΣ (k)πow!?; Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory
Music: Björk (Bjork); Natalie MacMaster; Beethoven; The Planets by Gustav Holst; The Boston Philharmonic Orchestra
Radio: No Agenda; NPR's Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!
Radio plays: The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams; anything by Alien Voices
TV: Daria; Firefly; Gilmore Girls; Mythbusters; Northern Exposure; Star Trek; Wonderfalls
- a computer
- my backpack
- my family
- the manual
- a towel
- Love to laugh
- Living life to the fullest
- Fun loving
- Can't think of what to write in your profile
- Think it's important to say you like walking in the park or on the beach
- Looking for a partner in crime
Seriously if I was looking for a partner in crime it wouldn't be HERE! (Actually I probably won't really hold any of that against you. But fix your profile. You can make it more interesting than that.)
Contact me if you're looking for friends and think I'm interesting.
Contact me if anything like these activities appeal to you:
- Playing Scrabble in a cafe
- Casual road biking
- Going naked at a clothing optional beach
- Hanging out nude anywhere that's not going to get you in trouble
- IM chatter about technology and tech news
- Classical music concerts
- Buddying up on your open source software project or mine
- Something else that you guess I would like.
Let me know if you can spot the movie I threw into my favorites section just for fun that I'd never actually watch.
It's too bad this isn't true for everyone, but ... I won't be freaked out if you are transgender, genderqueer, disabled, have a crippling disease, or have some other attribute that scares people. Please message me if you think we might have common interests. I'm more interested in what we have in common than what we don't.
My "details" box says I'm "very serious" about being atheist. But I'm not too judgy about it. All religious orientations welcome, even very serious Christians and Muslims, as long as you are also not judgy.
I'm probably not interested if:
- Your profile is empty
- You have answered no sorting questions and thus we have a 0% match
I'm an OkCupid freeloader. It's appropriate to say just 'like' as a message so I know who did it.
Other than that, please use real thought. "Hey" and "you're hot" will probably be ignored. Tell me something -- anything. What got your attention in my profile?