69 Allentown, United States
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My self-summary
Out of nothingness, I am. So, what am I humanly being. This will not be about who you think I am. Many people are looking to fulfill a "fantasy"...a lie that excites you. I, like every human on the planet, am a multi-dimensional being. If you expect me to conform to a "media image", a long gone teenage crush or the social gossip people tend to believe as fact, you will be disappointed. I am, first and foremost, a thinker. The wonder of living to this age is in appreciating how one's perspective becomes wider and clearer... When I was younger, love was casual...nowadays it's specific. The "cup" is closer now to full, the perception more terrific. And when I lean towards a fine romance, I'm not intending "now & then". Divining nothing from those past mistakes, it's certain they'll occur again. So, this time, I think I'll stack the deck...an ace or two hid up my sleeve. This time be true to myself and it's in "you" I will believe. Why settle for anything less than what we all deserve. Go for it with gusto, wait for the one with verve. I know you're out there. Expressing myself through writing has been a lifelong venture. I love to sing, write songs, do massage therapy, learn guitar, facilitate groups, share life experiences, listen...to you, life and even the silence. We are infinite. We are here to learn...period. My main concern about relationship is: "Can you manage your passions and not allow them to stampede and trample the aspirations of another? Yes, passion is vital, but if unrestrained, it is the clichéd "Bull in a china shop". Peace.
What I’m doing with my life
A retired Baltimore City Probation Agent, now Group Facilitating (mainly anger management groups) ; enjoying my renovated home; working-out at YMCA; singing karaoke; about to re-perform in "Jesus Christ Superstar" (5th year doing it...locally); writing; getting to know obscured facts; being unconventional; being a member of Community Exchange (doing massage) and doing lots of karaoke. I see myself as correcting lies told to me by others and myself. We've all done it. Honesty begins with self. It's called "integrity". Performed in the in the Pa. Playhouse stage production of "To Kill A Mockingbird" in Bethlehem in 2014. Really stretched my comfort zone; 9 performances; I loved it!! Life keeps happening. Just discovered "Meet-Ups". Great idea for hooking-up with people who have similar interests. Look it up in your area.
I’m really good at
Reading between the lines. Descending into the "rabbit hole" with Alice and imagining the infinite possibilities of existence...being a thinker. Listening and actually hearing. Not being "that person" the people who stereotype expect. Eliminating baggage (spiritual & physical). Seeing through people. Just about anything I request God force to enable me to do. Being creative; finding new ways to do the same thing. Extracting the positive from adversity.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I exist.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Kerouac,Eckhart Tolle (A New Earth), Carlos Castaneda, Aldous Huxley, M. Scott Peck, Edward Albee, James Baldwin, Bhagavad Gita,Tao Te Ching, The Bible, Crack In The Cosmic Egg, Knight In Rusty Armor, Empire of Illusion ..What The Bleep Do We Know, Pedagogy of the Oppressed.
The six things I could never do without
Reliance on a Higher Power,self-awareness/acceptance, water, reflection, imagination and humor.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life is all about change. Nothing is ever what it initially seems. Whether it's people we meet, places we "dream" of or activities we'd like to be involved in. Why is this? Because our expectations are based on hopes, dreams, desires and facts...that may have once been true but, lately have evolved as do all things in this reality. And, most importantly, we ourselves change & evolve...mature to arrive at a place and time we'd longed for only to realize we've changed...time has changed...the party's been moved to a new location...unknown. And so, we search for Ms. or Mr. Right...using yesterday's dream as a guidepost...only to find, as Billie Holiday sang, "The Thrill Is Gone". So, we're here, taking the leap of faith, looking for something ephemeral that we want to make eternal. And, knowing all this our wants persist, at war with needs we are unsure of. Thus, here I am on Plato's ship of fools because I dare to dream yet once again. As the song goes..."Will I find my love today..."
On a typical Friday night I am
At YMCA and/or at a friend's or karaoke
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It wasn't me! I'm a Jersey guy.
You should message me if
You like exploring ideas & places, being spontaneous and can live outside the "box".