34 Lehighton, United States
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My self-summary
They taught us in psych class that you can learn alot about a person by the way they complete the phrase 'I am . . . ' You can use a descriptor - lonely, beautiful, smart, funny, insane; a relationship - mother, student, citizen; a hobby or practice - birdwatcher, couch potato, writer, dreamer. So to repeat an old exercise, let's see how well I can sum myself up with 6 'I am's

I am: changing. It's been a long year with a lot of growth. The core of who I am remains, but I've added to it, learned more about what that core is, and had to face that some things I thought were core, weren't.

I am: labels. A whole collection of labels like mother, writer, bi, poly, kinky, feminist...these labels describe me, but they do not define me.

I am: myself. This is the first time I've done this exercise and not had "Me" or "Myself" be the first answer. Not sure why that is, but I think it says something important. Kind of like the Bibles "I am that is" I don't feel the need to define myself. I am me, and that's enough. Says something else that this has been demoted to third on the list.

I am: tired. New job has me up later than I like and kid has me up early in the morning. Running absolutely crazy keeping way to many balls in the air. So far the juggling act is working, though.

I am: confident. I have finally learned to believe in myself, to believe in my ability to succeed, and more importantly my ability to deal with life throws at me. My family is still in a tough place, but with hard with and the help of friends and some genuinely good people, we are managing to climb out of it. And I know we'll keep climbing until we are where we want and need to be.

I am: Striving. Still. Life hasn't magically gotten easy, and I still have goals that are not anywhere near in reach. I am and will continue to strive--but honestly, I don't think I'd be happy if I didn't have challenges to reach for.

Alright, there's my 6 'I am's. Feel free to tell me what you think ;)

(updated 10/22/2014)
What I’m doing with my life
Wow...um...Okay, so I have three different writing "careers" going, one as a freelance writer and online marketer, one as an advice 'guru' for polyamorous relationships, and one as an author of kinky fantasy. Then I'm helping my partner get his game dev off the ground, working a side job to help pay the bills, and taking care of the house. My partner has (thankfully) taken responsibility for being the "stay-at-home" parent, a responsibility he loves and that seems to be working very well, but my kid still gets a good bit of my time and energy as well.
I’m really good at
Writing, cooking, meditation, understanding people, interpretting dreams, parsing heavy and convoluted philosophical writing . . .
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea, really . . . depends on where they meet me I guess. Very quiet in public, more outgoing and comfortable in small groups or with friends.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Moon is a Harsh Mistress, Grand Central Arena by Ryk Spoor, Tinker and the Elfhome series by Wen Spencer, The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, Shakespeare, Song of Songs, lots more

Movies: hard to say - unlike books I tend to watch a movie once, enjoy it and move on. Um . . . Well, Princess Bride, History of the World Part 1, Shawshank Redemption, I enjoyed the super hero movies that were coming out a few years ago, less taken with the more recent ones. . . . My Best Friend's Wedding, Ordinary People, Renaissance Man . . .

Music: Joshua Kadison, Doors, Rolling Stones, Queen, Enya, Clannad, Sons of Somerled, Puccini, Beethoven, They Might be GIants, Rush

Food: Japanese, Pizza, my own baking, a well-roasted chicken, broccoli smothered in cheddar cheese, wild greens salads

TV: haven't bothered with tv in years, but enjoy NCIS when I get the chance to watch. Was really into Bones for a while, but the last season was a disappointment.
The six things I could never do without
stories, food, drink, oxygen, clothing.

Everything else life has forced me to do without at one point or another, and while I didn't like it, I know as long as I can survive, I can deal with anything.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Writing, activism, my family, the webcomic I want to write, stories, raising my kid, how to be a good person
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching Netflix with my partner
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am an incest abuse survivor. Doesn't affect on my daily life nearly as much as the rest of the shit I'm shoveling, but sometimes messes w/ my sex life.
You should message me if
you want to. If you message me, please include enough in your message so I can tell you actually read my profile. If you are monogamous and looking for the love of your life, we are NOT COMPATIBLE.

If I'm hanging out on OKC, chat requests are welcome.