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My self-summary
I know what I'm doing and where I'm going, but I'm trying to pack that with as much laughter and good times as I can fit. I'm not looking for someone exactly like me, but if you're still figuring out what you want, this is the wrong tree to bark up. I'm turned on by good-hearted ambition (kindness and ambition are not mutually exclusive).

*Chicago city limits only, please

I'm an outdoor person, plant and dog lover, and a voracious learner. I prefer to be around enthusiastic people. If smiling bothers you, I'm not your girl. I'm packed and ready to go camping at any moment.

I talk to strangers.

I don't believe in "no regrets" - if you don't have regrets you haven't learned a d*mn thing.

I was enamored of the jungle in Laos, but I fell in love with the jungle when I volunteered at an orphanage and school in Guatemala. The corn was taller by the afternoon, the bugs were giant, the air was thick.

I'm serious about social justice and race equity.

If you're the asshole who reported me for having a photo of my dog in my profile, don't message me; and screw you.
What I’m doing with my life
I have my dream job, which brings lawyers (me) and doctors together to work on removing barriers to health for kids growing up in poverty. I love not working as much as I love my job.

I majored in English and African/Black Diaspora studies.

I danced professionally (classical ballet), and have been teaching ballet for 13 years, and I teach once a week now that I've got the real job locked down.

I'm looking for someone I can have serious conversations with, followed by equal amounts of seriously silly.
I’m really good at
Sandwich making (it's all about ratio and texture), encouraging people and being empathetic, debating, and dropping cliches (a tendency I hate and my friends seem to like). Also, when I was in seventh grade I got the highest score in the state for analogies. I still like to trot that one out. My mom says it's when she knew I should be a lawyer, but she didn't share that with me. WTF, mom?
The first things people usually notice about me
is that I smile easily, blush often, and have great big eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm into food - I like the idea of nourishing ourselves together and the joy it brings. I eat everything and I like to cook. I participated in a pig slaughter and am freaked out when people eat meat but don't want to be reminded that it was an animal first. That's way more inappropriate dinner table behavior than talking about slaughters.

When I go out to eat I like it to be food I wouldn't be able to put together at home.

I'm a reader, but lawyering made it hard to read for fun for a while, but my friends and I started a feminist book club, and the student in me is now motivated by a due date. Formative reading experiences: The Souls of Black Folk kicked off a dedication to resisting structural racism, Tom Robbins is always on my authors list (he makes me feel unweird and sexy), Barbara Kingsolver is my guilty pleasure for lazily enjoying some nature-based fiction, The Argonauts by Maggie Nelson was a revelation for both content and form.

I watch a lot of documentaries; I like justifying laziness and lounging with learning and discovery! I'm a sucker for awful-bad awesome movies: The Three Amigos is in my disc drive right now.

Movies: Moonlight, Boyhood, Birdman, Harold and Maude, Fever Pitch, Uncle Buck

My musical taste tends to be fairly old school and international with some current "indie" artists mixed in. I listen to a ridiculous amount of Leo Kottke, John Fahey and African Kora music (a gourd-based string instrument). I need someone to feed me new music. With all the time commitments, it's something I neglect to work on.
Six things I could never do without
I'm really thinking about this one...
1. I've gone without clean water for a couple days in the jungle. I got a raging eye infection and couldn't see out of my right eye for a month so clean water is definitely up there.
2. Candles. I can put up with not having electricity, but there are so many hours of the day that are dark!
3. Luna the dog
4. Books!
5. Good food - I learned in Guatemala that I cannot eat rice and beans 3 meals a day for 6 months without suffering mental harm.
6. My people, whether here or not
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the next meal and the next restaurant, how much fun Chicago is in the summer, when the next camping trip can happen. I spend a lot of time talking, reasoning, story-telling; championing equity; being goofy.
On a typical Friday night I am
making a tremendous Old Fashioned, taking the pooch on a long walk, and having a good meal; or happy hour and none of that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Hmmm, you mean more than all the other things I shared already on the interwebs?
You should message me if
you're an intelligent guy who I can also be a goofball with. You don't have to like the things I like, just be willing to hear about them. You should message me if your friends and family consider you a kind person.
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