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My self-summary
Happy 2017 Is this the year i find that special someone to share life with?
As I approach the big 60 I can't help but wonder what else lies ahead for me to discover. Yes, I have a 13 year old son but in 5 years he will be off to college. Then I will undergo another major change. I am thinking maybe it is time to sail the Caribbean. What do you think? Do you want to join me?
Jimmy Buffett put it best in his songs. Their is nothing to plunder and the cannons don't thunder. I am an over 40 victim of fate.
So, get out of your comfort zone and come forth to meet me. I don't bite and who knows what wonderful things lie ahead for us.

I find freckles very attractive-glasses work on me as well.

Doubt thou the stars are fires;Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar But never doubt i love. W.S.


Here is what i need to add and maybe put out front. I am a single divorced retired dad. I have a son 13 and he is the most important aspect of my life. So, to love me is to maybe accept me first and maybe accept my son down the road. However, my having a child doesn't not take away from the time i have available to spend with a fine woman. I have plenty of support here and can get away almost any time i want to. So, fear not, i will not have the my son is sick excuse popping up very often.

The more that you know me and get used to me the more you will adore me and be happy that you gave me a look.. I am very warm to the touch and can be soft and cuddly. I am also good at keeping myself up to date. I enjoy driving so fear not, for the right one, i will drive your way to make things happen. Rob
What I’m doing with my life
I SURVIVED! lol I have decided that marathons and mud runs need to be viewed differently at my age. I am living life to the fullest and doing my best to be a good person. I am experiencing newness whenever i can. I volunteer often with the homeless and less fortunate. I volunteer at my son's school and love the kids so much. They keep my smile even bigger than normal. I sing and dance in the rain tho not as well as ole Gene did. I try to listen and follow the words expressed by some many great artists over the years. As the Moody Blues wrote,Say It With Love.
I’m really good at
I am good with music, caring and showing those close to me that they are important to me. i am good at traveling and finding new places to explore. i am good at boating and communicating. There is just so so much more. I am good at listening and i am a great kisser. Oh, i am also one that is good at taking it on the chin. So, if you aren't really interested, just tell me. I can take it.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, smile and gentle yet determined approach to life. Once you take the time to know me you will see my gentle underside and i like to have my belly scratched/rubbed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy reading most everything, try all different types of movies and am very much into music. I like most kinds and am open to listening to what she likes even if it hurts my ears. Food is something i love to cook as well as going out to eat. I like to try different foods and like to cook everything or anything. One never knows where the senses will lead us. Sharing the kitchen can be a fun experience,don't you think? My favorite types of music are rock,jazz,ragtime,classical and the blues. I listen to old 40's and 50's tunes. Some of my favorite groups are Jimmy Buffett, Moody Blues, Kitaro, Beatles, Pink Floyd,Fresh Air and most blues groups. I enjoy classical,jazz and the poetry of Frank Zappa. I am a huge fan of Frank Sinatra[and most of that rat pack music] and especially the Duets compilations. I sing in the shower but i make sure the shower is going good[water saving mode of course]. I love expanding my brain with new music and ideas. I enjoy the old match game and watching Graham Norton. Oh i really get a big kick out of the Craig Ferguson Late Night Show. I love art and am doing my best to be better at painting. Thankfully i am allowed to title my pictures or you might never figure them out. Do any of you watch Who's Line Is It Anyway? It is one of the funniest shows on tv.
Six things I could never do without
My son, red licorice, music, my pets, margaritas, and of course, Dreams. I should add water since it is looking more and more like it is going to be at a premium. While i am at it, let me add "Funky Cold Medina". I like being physical, hence the FCM.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Enjoying this wonderful life we have and walking the beach. Are men allowed to compliment a unknown woman on her perfume or appearance? How often should i message someone i have expressed interest in after making contact?Women have every right to be frightened of men but we should allow each other into the other's shell-inside the armor. We should be sharing hearts.

I recently watched a great movie called,"Hector and the search for Happiness." Here is what i learned from this road to self discovery.

1.Making comparisons can spoil your happiness.
2.Many people think happiness means being richer and or more important.
3.Many people only see happiness in their future.
4.Sometimes happiness is not knowing the whole story.
5.Avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness.
6.Does this person in your life bring you Predominantly A]Up or B]Down?
7.Happiness is answering your calling.
8. Happiness is being loved for who you are.
9.Happiness is feeling completely alive.
10. Happiness is knowing how to celebrate!
11. Listening is loving!
12. Nostalgia is not what it used to be.
13.Happiness is loving like you never have before.
On a typical Friday night I am
I will be listening to or playing music be it home or at another venue i love to dance. I can enjoy a night just cuddling and or reading a good book,playing the piano. The more i think about it, most of my Friday nights are rarely typical. I do enjoy a little place in Martinez called Armondos.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Do i read your profile? Yes i do but i have to admit this. If i see a smile that appears to be real and full of life then i am more inclined to acknowledge these before i do the nicely staged and poised smiles. The really private info is available upon request and committee approval. Also, i have incorporated Skype into my scheme. I find it easier to talk thru that while seeing the other person at the same time. It can definitely eliminate those scary face to face meetings. Can you feel me?
You should message me if
You find anything here of interest. I am a fun loving and good man doing all i can to enjoy life and all it has to offer. If you are ok with Skype before meeting.
*See Bottom of section
Everything is beautiful in it's own way.
Better Days Ahead
Music is the Doctor of the Soul
Say it with Love
You have found Joy in your life.
You have given Joy to another.
robph33 or robph3333-i can't recall anymore
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