29 Oakland, United States
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
I am an opera singer
I stand on painted tape
It tells me where I'm going
And where to throw my cape

Vice Pricipal and violin teacher by day, opera singer and whiskey drinker by night. The teachers at school call me "The Benevolent Overlord", my musical colleagues call me "La Bestia", my friends call me Racky. That probably about sums me up.

The people I love always come first in my life, and if I know anything about myself it's that I'm a damn good friend. I'm loyal like a bulldog.

I dream big, live passionately, and am chronically curious. I'm told I have a dominant presence- whatever that means. I value my capacity for empathy, and my ability to laugh heartily at myself above all my other traits.
What I’m doing with my life
Well ain't that a great, depressing, existential inquiry.....
I’m really good at
Telling crazy-but-true stories. I'm a story teller at my core, and truth is stranger than fiction.

I have a knack for parallel parking in absurdly tight spots.

Making fire engine siren sounds. I work with small children, and also sing for a living. I've developed expert sound effect skills. ;)
The first things people usually notice about me
After taking a brief poll, the top consistent answers were: Smile, Voice/laugh, and Eyes. Diplomatic liars, my friends. ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Taste in art and food is kinda critical, so:

Books: Steinbeck, Huxley, Hesse, Bellow, Dante Alighieri, Shakespeare, Austen, Sedaris, Téa Obreht, Gregory David Roberts, Allende, Eugenides, Shel Silverstein, Federico García Lorca

Peaky Blinders, House of Cards, Orange Is The New Black, Louis CK, Narcos, well-crafted crime mysteries in general, and anything with Anthony Bourdain. I miss Mad Men, The Daily Show with J Stew, Colbert Report, True Detective Season One (2 was quite the disappointment) and Downton Abbey. Really, it sometimes feels as though all the great shows are dead and gone.

Music: Shostakovich, Beethoven, Mahler, Verdi, Puccini, Stravinsky, Debussy, Ravel, Ives, Brahms, Satie, Schubert, Schumann, Strauss, Wagner; Miles Davis, Dave Brubeck Quartet, Benny Goodman, Fats Waller, Ella Fitzgerald, Sarah Vaughan, Rosemary Cloney, Billie Holiday, Thelonious Monk, Horace Silver; Amália Rodrigues; Victor Wooten, Stevie Wonder, Ray Charles, The Stones, The Beatles, Led Zeppelin, Janis Joplin, Jimi Hendrix, so so so much more....my go-to Spotify and Pandora stations are "The 60's", "Jimi Hendrix", and "Amy Winehouse" (which I've trained well). Whew- it was hard to pare down that list!

Food: Is it spicy? Can I make it spicy? How spicy can I make it? Does it involve pork, please? Ethnically speaking: (authentic!) Italian, Greek, Thai, Indian, Japanese, Vietnamese, Korean, and Mexican are my absolute favorites. Yes. Love food. Love trying new foods and weird foods. I love a Great Drink! I worked in the alcohol industry briefly, and am a bit of a wine and beer geek. Not a snob. Just a geek.

Movies: Whatever Happened to Baby Jane, La Dolce Vita, Casablanca, Rebel Without a Cause, Broken Embraces, Reds, Doubt, Motorcycle Diaries, Bad Education, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Wall-E, Blow, Mel Brooks: specifically Blazing Saddles, and History of the World Part I; "No", ZeroDarkThirty, Interstellar. I didn't see a lot of films in theaters this year, but I saw The Big Short, and liked it well enough to put it here.

Did you even read all that?! I hope not.
The six things I could never do without
The People I love
The Music I love
Great Food and Drink
NPR- yep. As white as I wanna be.
Airplanes and current passport
My sense of humor
I think that was technically 8 things. Oh well.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
•Hipsters are what happen when you tell privileged kids they're special and can achieve anything they want.
•The awfulness and greatness of humanity and the futility of life. Why not? ;)
•Things that were misnamed: hemorrhoids should be called assteroids (with two s's instead of one). Pregnant women should be called body builders. Bedrooms should be called restrooms. A group of squid should be called a squad.
•How to be a better musician, teacher, friend, family member, human being.
•Why I'm still online dating, and why men think that leading with sexual harassment will get them anywhere.....🙄🔫
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably having more fun than you. Forgetting about my week. Singing. At least one or all of these. Aren't I supposed to out-cool you in this section or something? I don't get it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Nothing is too private with me, so I'll just give you a random anecdote: I was pittle- my- pants- petrified of E.T. until I was about 13 years old. No shame. He's still creepy as fuck, I don't care what you say.
You should message me if
•Your profile does NOT include a selfie in the mirror. If you've avoided this sad display, you're already winning. 👏

•You're a renaissance man. I have a weakness for those.

•You can make me laugh

•You're a liberal. Social Democrat of the Bernie Sanders variety preferred. At the very least clearly to the left. Libertarians need not apply. Definitely not undecided or apathetic or "anarchistic" (Jesus, don't get me started on THAT bullshit!) A liberal. You must be a voting, conscientious liberal. Otherwise it just ain't gunna work out, trust me.

•You live within a half hours drive of Oakland, Ca. I travel a lot, but not looking to meet men in Carnel or SoCal. Sorry...

•You enjoy a great cuppa coffee, a really great beer, a day at the museum, and a night at the symphony or opera.

•You know that dogs trump cats, baseball trumps football, and Andrea Bocelli and "the phantom of the opera" have about as much to do with opera as "Christian Science" has to do with Einstein and Hawking.