1) Your message is generic. Examples of generic messages include:
- "hello, how are you?"
- "can we be friends?"
Like seriously, stop. I feel like you are either just being lazy, or you're just copying and pasting the same sentence over and over again to different girls. Which will not impress me.
2) Your message is cheap flirting. Examples:
- "hi sexy, may I know you?"
- "hi, you are very pretty. I would like to know a cute girl like you."
- "Hello, beautiful"
Please, just. No.
3) You send me a message but when I click on your profile, it is empty. NOTE: THIS IS A DATING SITE. You have to actually MAKE THE EFFORT to write something on your profile (and, of course, make it interesting) for girls to want to talk to you. If you're too lazy to even do that, good luck to you. You're not getting any replies from me.
4) You don't read my profile before messaging me (Which would be obvious if you violate any one of the above 3 pre-requisites). I have received messages from guys who actually make the effort to read my profile before messaging me, and it is really nice to know that he made the effort to read my profile and then send me a personalised message based on the content of my profile. Unfortunately these kind of guys are rare, but they're the ones who will get my attention.
**If you message me without reading my profile, I will reply your message by copying and pasting all of the above to you.
***RANT OVER. Here is my actual profile:***
I am a fighter. I do whatever it takes to achieve my goal. I have strong perseverance. I put in my all because I know the only way to success is to exceed my capabilities and to constantly challenge myself to realize my full potential.
I love pink, ice cream, movies, computer games, shopping, designer bags, and all gadgets and gizmos.
A ESFP, whatever that means.
I am someone who lives in the moment. Some people may view me as the type who is carefree, nonchalant and not generally concerned about my affairs, or as some may put it, a "couldn't-be-bothered" attitude. However, the truth is that when I am put under pressure, I tend to hide my true feelings of anxiety and panic, and I put on a calm appearance. When faced with problems, I try to put on a strong face and be okay, even though I may not be. I generally try to see the brighter side of things and be happy. This has led to some people assuming that I just don't bother to be concerned about things, while I actually do.
I LOVE GAMING (Add me on Steam!). Unfortunately, not the FPS kind, because I get 3D motion sickness. I enjoy RPG, rogue-like, dungeon, simulation, and survival. Bonus if the game has cute graphics! A list of a few games I'm currently playing: Don't Starve, Binding of Isaac, Sims 4.
I have an interest in singing and dancing, though I'll have to admit, I don't have much talent for that. That being said, I have improved quite a bit ever since I took up singing lessons! =D
I have a huge fascination for movies featuring the living, flesh eating dead and I religiously watch every single one of them.
Let them laugh - I hold fast to my principles and values regardless of how others view me.
I continuously remind myself that failing is fun, and that everything is an experience.
I may procrastinate at times, and it is something I am trying to change. My living space can be a little messy at times, but I have been decluttering because I hold very strongly to the concept of minimal living. I HATE hoarding and I declutter by throwing out my old stuff every now and then, because I feel like it purges the old in me. The first time I tried it, I threw out 75% of my clothes and I felt so good after that. My rule is: If I haven't worn/used something for the past 1 year, it gets thrown out.
People motivate me. However, I can sometimes feel pressured and intimidated by someone whom I regard a higher status than I am, in terms of experience and maturity. With regards to these people, I tend to speak less and listen more, for fear of being ridiculed for saying something shallow. I realize that this is something I need to work on, and I am trying my best to improve my confidence.
I am not perfect. Sometimes I make bad choices. Some may think I'm a bad person, but I don't care. I say what I want to say and I do what I want to do without worrying about what others think.
I aspire everyday to become a better person and I am constantly striving to improve myself to be a more confident, independent and courageous woman.
Here's the part on my personal life: I have money. I have a roof over my head. I have food on the table. I love my boyfriend who is very supportive of me and adores me. I love my job. I have a career. I have a clear view of what's ahead of me. I know my goals. I know what I want. I know how to achieve them. I know I'm a winner. Above all, I know I am happy, not because of my possessions or achievements, but because it is my choice to be happy and nobody can stop me from feeling that way.
Also, Talking, listening, asking questions, laughing, entertaining people.. I guess. But that's about it. I'm just your average Joe, a jack of all trades, master of nothing.
But I'll tell you what I wished I was really good at. Getting inspired. Singing, drawing, dancing, writing, making music.
Sometimes, just sometimes, when I'm in the mood, I pretend I'm actually good at them.
Movies: Ted, Big Hero 6, Resident Evil, Sweeney Todd, Avengers, Fly Me To Polaris, Love Me If You Dare, Forrest Gump, Inception
Shows: House, Walking Dead, Big Bang Theory, The Office, How I Met Your Mother, Family Guy.
Music: Ingrid Michaelson, Lily Allen, Greenday, Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, Christina Perri, Lady Antebellum, Eminem, The Band Perry, Avril Lavigne, Aerosmith, Jason Mraz, Bruno Mars, Avenged Sevenfold.
Food: Japanese. Definitely Japanese. Some Thai and some Chinese would be good too.
I should also add that I'm happily attached with my significant other (we met on okCupid, so that's one success story for you!) so I'm not looking to date anyone here. But I'm always welcome to having new friends!
Edit: it irks me when a guy messages me on okc and then when I check out his profile, it's blank. If you're going to want to pick up chicks, the least you could do is put in some effort to write something about yourself. If you're going to message me but all I see is an empty profile, rest assured you're never getting a reply from me. :)