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My self-summary
Hi Ladies,

Thanks for stopping and taking the time to read my profile. I've worked very hard to make this profile as real as possible and I apologize for it's length. I would also like to request a favor from you. In a continuing effort on my part to improve myself and my communications every day, I would request that you explain very succinctly why you have chosen to not respond to my profile if you so chose to not respond.

My days are filled with Frisbee Golf at Clark-Centennial in Longmont, Hiking, Reading, Walking the Bike Trails in Longmont, and thinking about refurbishing my town home now that it is an empty nest. I like to hike but I don't currently have a partner and my daughter gets upset when I go solo, would you like to assist my daughter? I also Square and Contra Dance 3-4 times a week, most weeks. I'm also thinking, very seriously, about traveling to the different dance venues out-of-state in order to explore the country and enjoy the dances. I would like to have a partner with whom I could learn some couple's dancing. I very much enjoy waltzing and think that my partner and I could really enjoy the dance floor experience of knowing each other's moves because in partnership and relationship we harness the power of union.

Most of us were raised and live in a culture that emphasizes the ideals of independence and control. The general idea is that we are on our own and we don’t need any help from anyone else, and if we are really successful it’s because we are in complete control. However, I have found during my many years of complete independence and control (I raised a daughter from birth to 21-years as a single-dad) that I cannot accomplish anything truly great on my own, without any help, and the idea that we can is an illusion that causes most of us a great deal of suffering. When I began raising my daughter (she is 21-years old and manages a bank in Loveland) I had no idea how to raise a girl, but she allowed me to see that IF I could give up the illusion of controlling her, we could work together to create a harmonious whole for each other.

My purpose in partnership is to create something greater than we can create alone. Not because of any deficiency or incompleteness in either of us, but because each of us is unique, with our own talents and abilities, and in partnership we increase the efforts and talents available for creating something meaningful together. All partnerships, whether romantic, creative, or professionally-based, can be powerful relationships for personal growth. In partnership we harness the power of union.

Life is, in my opinion, a collaborative effort. Much of what we do can be enhanced through partnership. Together we are stronger because our personal power is multiplied by two. Through partnership we experience the joys of working, living, and loving together.

Would you like to explore a partnership with me? Are you a woman who does not object to facial hair and who believes women are equal to men, just different, and you want to celebrate and enjoy those differences. If you do not want to sit around waiting for the man to make the first move please contact me. I really do enjoy my own company, but I know that life would be more fun shared.

I’m looking for that special someone that I’m attracted to in all ways – emotionally, mentally, and physically; and someone whom I’m attracted to by their unique feminine otherness. Your Yin – My Yang. Someone with a good sense of humor, reliable, honest; someone who places a high value on both talking and listening, who is outgoing yet appreciates a dose of relaxation; someone who looks forward to emotional and physical closeness and is able to make simple romantic gestures are some of the qualities that I cherish in a woman.

Lao-Tsu, author of the Tao Te Ching said that; “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage (http://philosiblog.com/2011/08/24/being-deeply-loved-by-someone-gives-you-strength-while-loving-someone-deeply-gives-you-courage/) - Are you my special someone?

If you have found this interesting and/or intriguing please take a chance and contact me. I have not “joined” this site simply because I do not want to spend my money in hopes some woman will find me attractive.

The worst that could happen, if you contact me, would be for us to enjoy a meal or dance together, BUT the very best would be for us to find that we can learn to trust and share with one another while we develop a lasting partnership. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

What I’m doing with my life
I have completed (yeah right!!) raising my daughter single handly and since I have practiced meditation for about 15 years now I would like to begin incorporating some tantra type couple's meditation into my practice. I list Buddhism on OKCupid because it seems to be the closest. I walk a very individual path. I like the Buddha's ideas and thoughts on life, but I also have incorporated a lot of the Native American Medicine beliefs in Mother Earth/Father Sun and Crystal Medicine. I would enjoy, very much, discussing these ideas with you via email or over dinner if I can get to your area. I would also be very open to meeting you somewhere and/or taking a walk to get to know each other better, your choice. I am even open to you walking up, asking me for a Contra or Square Dance (Tip), and introducing yourself as having seen this Profile on OKCupid.
I’m really good at
Being myself and for those that care I am 5'8", weigh about 160lbs, I've included a couple of pictures regarding my appearance. I also love to dance, both Square, Contra and Waltz. I'm very active, never miss a dance, in the Boulder Contra Dance Community (CFOOTMAD) and I would very much enjoy sharing the dances with you. I also enjoy riding my bicycle on the bike trails around Longmont during the summer. During the winter I'm a real homebody and like to just stay home, stay warm, play board games, read and discuss those books I've read with someone special. I also attend 2-3 Square Dances a week during the winter square dance season

May you live in safety, be happy, be healthy,and live with ease.

Namaste, Raja GentleHeart
The first things people usually notice about me
I really don't know why don't you tell me when you introduce yourself?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy my life, but don't really have any favorites. I'm full-time retired so I play lots of Frisbee golf at Clark-Centennial Park in Longmont, read 2-3 books a week (I have accounts at both used book stores in Longmont), watch 3-4 movies (DVDs from Goodwill or one of my own that I enjoyed), and I'm slowly refurbishing my town home. I also do NOT enjoy spicy hot food as I cannot taste it while I'm suffering with "hot mouth".
Six things I could never do without
Food, Shelter, Clothing are about it. I also enjoy having love in my life and, since I've been a single-father to my, now 21-year old, daughter all of her life I would very much miss her if she somehow became not a part of my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I'm very introspective and think/meditate on a lot of different things
On a typical Friday night I am
Contra Dancing at the Avalon or Plus Square Dancing in Berthoud, BUT I'm very open to any suggested activities
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't have a lot of "private things" from those I love, but I also do not share "private things" on the Internet. But I can share that since I've been very involved in being a Single-Dad for the past 24 years and before that I was involved in a commited relationship for 17 years I have no idea whatsoever about how to go about starting or creating a relationship. I've been very busy and enjoying myself for the last 24 years and I do not find myself at all lonesome, but I also would very much enjoy having a sounding board to help me focus my thoughts and discuss options and approaches to resolve life's issues. I'm looking for someone to do things with and with whom I can have fun dancing. I'm looking for someone who has a good character, who I can learn from, who has a good sense of humor and who doesn't take themself...or life...too seriously all the time. Someone whose company I miss when we're not together. I am looking for someone with a positive outlook and a sensitive, sensual personality that wants love and security. To me, sexual love is a very real part of a relationship, but most people seem to confuse that with the "security" aspect of the relationship in which both partners simply know the other one is there for them. I'm really seeking a woman that can understand that sometimes I just want to "cuddle/snuggle under the 'buffalo robes'" and physical sex does not have to be involved. I would very much like to develop a very real, in the present moment, relationship with an aware woman who is fully confident of her femininity and strong enough to allow me to be weak and scared at times because she knows I will once again become the strong, successful male manifesting fearlessness (as taught in Shambhala Buddhism) that she wants and needs. I don't expect a perfect match in likes and dislikes...that just means we're individuals as well. I want to form a solid foundation as friends, as I think that helps make a stronger personal relationship work. I think a deeper relationship takes time and a level of commitment beyond what's provided by matching up interests on this web site. If a deeper relationship happens, I can't think of a better way than to start it as friends.
You should message me if
You would like to get to know me better and see what happens
The two of us