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My self-summary
The values that matter to me most are affection, intimacy, personal connection, empathy, gentleness, friendship and love. Loving my community of friends and my family is a central part of who I am. I tend to maintain friendships for a very long time. I am still good friends with my two former partners, and they are very much a part of my family. A sense of play is also very important to me as well. I have a very active mind, a playful verbal and gentle sense of humor.

I am looking for friendships and relationships with men who share these values. The men who appeal to me most are interested in sharing love, sex, and a sense of play, and who share my commitment to a community of friends and family. Lately I have lived my life polyamorously, which is why I use the plural "men" instead of "man", and "relationships" instead of "relationship", but I would very much like to find a primary partner.

I'm a big believer in starting with low stakes dates, and not diving into a relationship too quickly. That means coffee, a walk, and talking to start. I love sex a lot (really, a lot), but I'd rather start with getting to know one another a bit first. Benjy Feen wrote a great piece on low stakes dates that I got from the OkCupid profile of a friend: http://benjyfeen.com/2008/11/12/low-stakes-first-dates/

Other Stuff: I've got a little bit of an obsession with 17th and 18th century keyboard music. I also love to read, and adore good writing. There is something intoxicating about language when it is used well. As for my work, I'm a statistician who has had a long career in mathematics and computing. When I was younger I did social work, I've taught mathematics at the university level, worked as a software engineer, a research scientist and as a statistician. These days I work for a game company.

Health and exercise are also very important to me and it would be great to find a partner who can also be a workout buddy, who is interested in exploring hiking and healthy living in general. I love to cook and share meals with friends and family.

O', and my username, "Random" is a playful reference to my profession.
What I’m doing with my life
Taking care of my home, pursuing my career, enjoying friends, family and community, playing music, taking care of my cat, and generally enjoying being 55. I didn't expect to enjoy being in my mid fifties so much, but it is turning out to be great.
I’m really good at
Now this is a tough one, so I'm going to answer with what I'm passionate about, and not necessarily in any particular order ...

Mathematics - I have an excessive number of degrees in math and statistics, it goes well with music ;-)

As for whether or not I'm really good at these things, take this as an aspirational list. I do my best.
The first things people usually notice about me
There may be even more answers to this than there are people to do the noticing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's see ... for books, these are books that have had a huge impact on me:

The Autobiography of Bertrand Russell
In the Suicide Mountains by John Gardener
The Baron in the Trees by Italo Calvino
Dialogue Concerning the Two Chief World Systems by Galileo Galilei
Candide: Or, The Optimist by Voltaire
The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger
Inferno by Dante Alighieri
Birds of America by Mary McCarthy
Songs of Innocence and Experience by William Blake
Nights in Aruba by Andrew Holleran
Walden by Henry David Thoreau
The Hunting of the Snark by Lewis Carroll
Letters from the Earth by Mark Twain
The Quiet American by Graham Greene
Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus by Ludwig Wittgenstein

And I think that I already mentioned an obsessive fondness for 17th and 18th century music, particularly keyboard music.

Television shows. I don't actually watch a lot of TV, but I am inordinately fond of Dr. Who.
Six things I could never do without
Well, I'm not sure about "could not live without", but I would be very sad to lose the joy provided by my friends and family, music, cooking meals with friends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why it's hard to find time for enough love, fun, job, exercise, music.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending time with good friends, cooking a nice dinner either alone or with family and friends, or perhaps playing music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Anything that I put here automatically loses its mystery, so you'll just have to ask ....
You should message me if
Message me if what you've read sounds appealing.
The two of us