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My self-summary
Are you a secure, beautiful woman who doesn't need the validation of a steady boyfriend/husband?
Are you sick of the hot guys who hit on you always being ***holes or douchebags?
Do guys pass you by because they fear that if your single at our age you must be crazy or...
you will end up just breaking their hearts?
I'm none of them,
in fact I'm that guy you often ignore ...but when you do get to know me you will fall in love. Fair warning.


"If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time."
Joseph Campbell

"I don't know whether what I know of my being is my proper being or not;
but I do know where my rapture is. So let me hang on to rapture, and
that will bring me both my consciousness and my being."
Joseph Campbell


Being a freeloader on this site I can't recieve your "like/meet me" notices so send
me a real note instead., even if it's only says Hi :)

After being here and dating for 3 years now I've learned a few things about myself, at least I've begun to re-consider my relationship definitions.
I want to customize the traditional relationship. I've often wondered what my type of relationship is called, Open? (feels too open), Polyethical? (is that even a catagory) ....but each of those seemed not quite a perfect fit, however may be close enough for this. Labels and definitions sometimes (most of the time) fail.

I form long term, meaningful/emotional/sexual/spiritual connections with those I care to date. I wouldn,t want to shut down any part of my life, I'd rather incorporate all that we are into this relationship/experience then define it after. For me it's the path not the destination. Infinity is a long way.


I'm divorced (20 yrs ago) and still happily single (honest! :) Raised two kids on my own, they are now in their early twenties. Got a really great job (29yrs and counting down to retirement). No cigarettes but 420 friendly.

I'm not your average guy.
I'll help you laugh and learn and ... we'll just see. Ive been called a renisaunce man ...things even more interesting, ...cosmic comic, drummer.

I'm intuitive/empathic, artisitc/creative and a free thinker, liberal, non-religious, non-cultish (but I do own a Mac).
We create our own reality, so if it's screwed up I blame you (kidding).

My 3 grandsons (still under 9) call me PeePa,
oh, and there's a cat around here somewhere ...but not that grey cat, that's the neighbors cat.

'Truth is stranger than fiction' is the reason I don't read fiction.
I like my fiction in movies even if it's only for the buttered popcorn.

I like natural beauty over made-up but makeup is good too.

My life is centered around self development, personal discovery and sharing with others when interested. I've always been an explorer of our deepest self often hidden self. I question everything and seek a personal answer or understanding/analogy.

It's all about passion, intensity, relaxation, being here now, following your bliss. ...life is a continuous meditation. .....Be the change you seek. .....have i made enough bumper stickers?

Think/feel/express with your whole being. Cry because it's so good. Remember to breath.

Books; I have a huge library and read them all...Music; library is even huge-er. Movies/DVD's

Sex as ritual
...and not because I only get it once per 'Mayan Great Year'
......hey wait a minute, I'm due!
What I’m doing with my life
Nearing 30 yrs in aerospace, look forward to retirement. I have so many things I need the time to do, those 10 hrs a day back will be divine. Family, friends... Never stop learning, laughing, loving.
I’m really good at
Newly added; Following directions!!

Being honest.... I guess that's a rare thing here.
Saying it like it is. I'm often out spoken but can pull back on the reins. Being a real gentleman (or so I'm told). Creating music in my home studio, movies as well, graphics 2D/3D, Macintosh, raising kids and grandkids, art, massage, listening, kissing, loving, being a friend. I enjoy entertaining, lecturing, finding creative ways to solve problems. Intuition or psychic senses as they're so called.

I wanted to share a note I just recieved from an old work friend regarding all my BS/profile.

Hi Randy!
I happened to stumble across your OKC profile and had to tell you GREAT JOB!!!
Even though it took me 3 hours to get through it, you perfectly described the Randy I recall from years ago.

Kudos to you!


Took a bunch of goofy tests here, with my ratings below;
Ideal Job for Your Personality - Teacher
Do I Like Curvy Women - Likes Curves
The Best Thing about You - Intelligence
My Type of Girl - The Girl Next Door
What is my Real Age - 48 (62 in real years as some tend to lie I'm told)
3 Variable Funny Test - the Wit
Sexual Interests - Ultimate! (I'd do me)
Am I a Good Kisser - The Tempter
What's my Sexual Style - TYPE P
The first things people usually notice about me
Silver hair, quiet/talkative, engaging, relatively intelligent (especially when the subject interests me) easy smile/laugh, fun, funny, some say handsome, nice butt (I feel so cheap).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books; I have a huge library and read them all... how about subjects; archeology (ancient Egyptian, Puma-Punku, global megalithic sites), para-psychology, alternate science/realities, power of intention, ufo's, psychic powers, Kirlian Photography, Brain studies, Man Dolphin Communication (if we want to talk to aliens we should at least be able to talk to our mental equals here on earth (but they probably use more then 10% of their brains so we would bore them), consciousness, personal development, religions/myths/legends of the world, Joseph Campbell, Nicola Tesla,... National Geographic. Political humor. 'Drumming at the Edge of Magic' comes to mind (read that to expand your musical listening pleasures).

Music; library is even huge-er; Porcupine Tree, Kate Bush, Peter Gabriel, World Music, Pat Metheny, Bjork, BlackField, lots of progressive or under the radar European stuff, all of the early 70's... Zep, Sabbath, Floyd, Yes, Genesis Tull, Joni Mitchell, CSNY, too many to even think about.

I would like to really turn you on to something you have never heard.... (I wont know what that is until I meet you). I hate to say it will be easy, but hay I'm tell'n the truth here (just get over it).
...so now you've seen my ugly side.

Movies; Life of Brian. Rabbit Proof Fence, The Princess Bride, Koyaanisqatsi, Schindlers List (required viewing for all earthlings), Ground Hogs Day. 40 Year old Virgin. Brazil, Close Encounters, Sci-Fi, action, computer animated, comedy, documentaries, suspense, live concert DVD's, .... too many to even list (what was I thinking). I like movies and the technologies and processes involved in their making as well.

TV; Daily Show, Colbert Report, The Office, South Park, The Whitest Kids You Know, UFC, high stakes poker (but I don't play/gamble), History Channel, educational stuff. but don't watch daily.

Live Rock Shows; whenever I can afford them, been to many, have traveled to see some favorites, even if they played my city. Sometimes you just have to be there.

Food; I don't do sea food (must be that dolphin thing) Love healthy foods and all ethnicities as long as it's not too hot.
Six things I could never do without
not in any particular order (well maybe)

I should get extra credit for sticking to 6.
Can now add "follows directions" to my 'What I'm Good At' section.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The next Pet Rock, nature of perception, prehistory, intention, family. ...kissing, touching, yes even sex (am I dolphin or drummer? who can tell now), music, artistic projects I could never accomplish. Wether it's ever good to end a sentence with a parentheses (I think not).
On a typical Friday night I am
Possibly playing live music, hearing live music, working on music, a date might be nice too, web, TV, grew up with grandpa watching the Friday Night Fights, now prefer Saturday night MMA, have some favorite fighters I keep tabs on. Festivals... Friday nights can be less crowded. Always room at the beach.

Going out Friday is a way I get back part of my day eaten up by working, you know what I mean.? ...think of it as a good kind of tired.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
... My family currently occupies a bit of my time/space ... untill I have an empty nest I'm helping them out as best I can.
You should message me if
You have a rich and fruitful life already.
You are in no hurry to live and love.
You are a great kisser (or willing to learn).
You have something to turn me on too.
You are unshure of on-line dating like me.
You are the most interesting person in your group of friends.
The two of us