48Sonoma, United States
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My self-summary
I am: Not clean cut. Not All-American. Not boy next door.

I prefer to follow my own narrative based on experiences. I can talk about anything and think its time to evolve the dialogue. I notice haircuts. I sometimes say things I don't mean. I listen when others are speaking and participate in two-way conversations. I will shake your dads hand and look your mom in the eye. I have a smile that can light up a room and my energy is infectious. I am intense at times but I am also silly, impulsive and light-hearted at other times. I can be serious when I need to be. I'm rarely bored and rarely predictable. I'm not secretive and prefer opening doors to closing them. I enjoy naps. While I am sex positive, I enjoy sex most with someone worth waking up to. I cry when I need to and I can tell you how I feel. In tough times, I tough it out. I like to live in the now. I am intuitive and rarely led astray by my intuition. I am comfortable being alone but I can be gregarious when I want to be. I thoroughly enjoy my downtime because I've earned it. I'm confident but not egoic. I am compassionate and often champion the underdog. I lean into people that I like. I may even touch them. I surround myself with people that help me grow and I generously return the favor. I tell those close to me how much it means to have them in my life. I have deep eyes that can see through faces and illusions.

If proximity is a major factor in your life, I live in Sonoma. If that is a concern at this stage (the profile viewing stage aka stage 0), then stop reading here -> ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Working on the garden inside me by observing, engaging and contributing so that I may grow and help others to do the same.

When you quiet the noise, its amazing what you can hear. When you stop staring into the lights, its amazing what you can see. When you stop trying to feel, its amazing what you can feel.

During the day, I work in new media & web software and I have my own photography biz. All other times I work on me.
I’m really good at
Channeling my inner child, having fun and making people smile. I like to think that my real profession is "Life Experience Creator." It's a terrible business model: no revenue, no salary but lots of customers and business is booming!
The first things people usually notice about me
I look young for my age and that I almost always smile. Maybe its the smile that keeps me young...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Bit of a nerd so I enjoy most nerd subject books, movies and shows.

My sense of humor: Team America, Paul Mooney, Strangers with Candy/Amy Sedaris, Dave Chappelle, Samantha B and almost anything Kristin Wiig does.

My music taste: Space Cowboys/Shissla/8Ball, Nickodemus, Cut Chemist, Sia, M83, Silversun Pickup, MIA, Tom Eno, Gotye, Santigold , Die Antwoord, Muse, Balkan Beat Box, Adele , Royksopp & Jay-Z (maybe not all together unless you are a truly gifted DJ)

My food taste: a quality hotdog (no pun), Vietnamese, Thai, Himalayan, Nachos, BBQ (Carolina!).
Six things I could never do without
Passion, Honesty, Play Time, Laughter, Positive Growth and Healthy Pleasure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think about Dragons, Superheroes, Ninjas, Pirates, Aliens, Cowboys and Indians. And I think about why we let ourselves get in our way.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm usually at the Swiss Hotel on Sonoma Square laughing with good friends.

In the city, possibly at dinner with friends or a cocktail somewhere interesting.

Sometimes curled up, horizontal under a warm blanket or cuddling with my pup.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a bit of a 'thing' for nice hands & feet and I like fun socks (ok maybe this is an extension of the foot thing).

Oh yeah...And I'm really 44. Are you really how old you say you are?
You should message me if
Opening up is important to you. You are more human than drone. You like to laugh. You are not afraid to hug in front of your mom. You don't mind that I might subtly smell you when I lean into you (reference above for when this might happen). You have the power of empathy. You kiss like you mean it. You enjoy being playful. You like to wrestle - I may let you win. You can look someone in the eye and not look away. You recognize when egos are silly. You value principles to live by over meaningless hard rules. A connection has greater value than proximity. You know an illusion when you see one. You can appreciate simple things but have a sense for adventure. You know how to relax and want to enjoy life vs. planning to enjoy life. You blush when someone pays you a complement. You focus on what is good in life and generally you are a happy person. You have a light in your eyes and a genuine smile. Sharing the adventure sounds like a good thing and sharing in general feels good to you.

Maybe you're not all of these things. Maybe you want to be. Maybe you don't have the time. Maybe it scares you. Maybe I'm here to help. Maybe now... Maybe tomorrow... Maybe never... Maybe forever... Maybe... Maybe...
The two of us