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My self-summary
I am still figuring out my sexuality (happily pansexual for over 10 years and then one day I realise I may be more of a low sex-drive kinsey scale 5, but I don't love the term homoflexible, so jesus I have no idea.) Also a geek, poly individual. I live in Ellenbrook, Western Australia, and spend my time writing, engaging in creative pursuits (artwork, singing, piano etc.), internet pursuits (blogging, typing, uploading art, etc.) bushwalking, and healing (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - PTSD), as well as media (TV series, Ghibli, and so on).

I'm pretty introverted, but that works for me. That's one of those things that I'm not looking to change. I've recently started describing myself as 'reclusive' and none of my friends or family have objected, so I think that's pretty accurate too.

I enjoy one-on-one encounters, and prefer to establish a pretty good friendship online before meeting people. If you're uncomfortable with emails or something similar, you might not get much out of a friendship with me. My illness means that sometimes the only way I can keep in touch is through text (emails, IM, Skype etc.), and I sometimes cannot meet people for months at a time. If you're someone who likes to get to know someone slowly, then I'm probably a good bet!

I'm very much into and appreciative of all forms of media, from graphic novels and manga to TV series and films and music and whatever I can get my hands on. Eventually, someone who hangs around me will probably get exposed to new TV, film or music. I'm also interested in queer theory, subversive and mainstream representations of mental illness in the media, and the politics and ethics of how to live as an artist in a culture that doesn't value art (or artists). I'm also someone who tries to be aware of her privilege, and I'm always happy for you to point out if I'm getting something wrong when we converse.

Oh hey, since a few people have asked, if you want to check out my artwork, you can see it here:


What I’m doing with my life
Even I'm not entirely sure.
I’m really good at
things that don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. Actually, I'm okay at knowledge retention, art, writing, singing, radio broadcasting (of all things), media analysis, university papers and identifying random wildflowers and animals in Perth.

I can be obsessive about some things, so I end up with these weird knowledge bases in specific areas. I know a lot of about Ciconiiformes (herons/egrets etc.) and Cracticids (Australian magpies/currawongs etc.). I know a bit about different brands of pastels (Schminkes FTW!), I know too much about fandom, I know a lot about the 1989 HIV 'Grim Reaper' AIDS campaign and how effective it was, I know a lot about dog breeds - even though I don't own a dog - and clicker training, I could probably tell you all about Russian shamanism but not so much about Inuit (though I could tell you a bit about that too). Generally, it's not stuff that comes up in every day conversation (though I wish it would!)

I think I can be good at engaging with other people and hearing them. I am always endeavouring to get better at authenticity, and being a present person. I am the kind of friend you can go through a crisis with, or laugh hysterically with. I'm also the kind of friend who forgets birthdays.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have been told I am 'physically imposing.' I'm tall-ish, voluptuous, with a forthright voice and manner. A loved one has told me I 'walk like someone with a purpose.' (Even if that purpose is the fridge.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I never answer this section because OH GOD it would be so huge at the end. But I'm going to give it a shot.


I have packed bookshelves in this house, and I love all the books in it. I own 1000+ books, and I have 30 in my backlog of both fiction and non-fiction. So instead of writing all of this down, I'm just going to write a whole bunch of random stuff:
- House of Leaves
- Robin Hobb
- The Hunger Games
- The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland in a Ship of her Own Making
- Stephanie Gunn
- Media and mental illness
- Nnedi Okurafor
- stuff that challenges privilege and subverts
- Scott Heim
- Mysterious Skin
- Notice
- The Last Unicorn
- Harry Potter but not Twilight, never Twilight
- The Velveteen Rabbit
- Field Guide to the Birds of Australia.


I like musicals, romantic comedies, documentaries, movies made by Indigenous cultures like Ten Canoes, some action (particularly superhero action), most animations, anime, dramas and comedies. I don't mind psychological thrillers if they don't have a supernatural element. Otherwise I can't handle horrors, thrillers, and mindless action films (like Bond movies). Generally I like movies that make me think, or make me feel good.


Okay. I'm just going to come out and share with you what I am currently watching and enjoying: Homeland, Community, New Girl, Prime Suspect US (cancelled!), The Fades, Misfits, Bones, Fringe, Glee, The Vampire Diaries, Law & Order SVU, Life, David Attenborough's Frozen Planet (and anything else by him), In Treatment, Kuroshitsuji, Work of Art, Top Chef, Doctor Who (Ten is my Doctor, and Donna is my favourite companion) etc. I like comedies, but I need to be in the mood for them. Otherwise I veer more towards drama.

I like the works of Joss Whedon, but not slavishly so. I can call a spade a spade and recognise sloppy writing and pacing in Dollhouse when I see it. But I think Buffy is amazing. I read Avengers fanfiction. ;)

I enjoy Alan Ball, I like True Blood and Six Feet Under. I own the full box-set of Queer as Folk US and Press Gang, and I used to be an X-Phile. I own more TV box-sets than I do actual movies (I think), and sometimes I really just enjoy going through an entire show back to back.


Everything? Almost everything. I haven't been converted to country yet. But everything else is fair game. The best way to find out what kind of music I like is to check out my Last.FM account:



Everything? I'm very partial to Dutch, Japanese, Indonesian, Thai and Italian cuisines, but anything else is fair game. I'm an omnivore, but can happily cook vegetarian; did last night, in fact! I don't know how to navigate vegan, however, but I'd be interested in trying if you're vegan. I prefer lighter foods over heavier foods, I can't stomach meals heavy with potatoes, and I can't tolerate too much lactose. I prefer a tasty stir fry over a carbonara, but I'll have a carbonara too. Just once or twice a year, instead of often. I love chocolate, I think the Margaret River Chocolate Factory overprices and I'm dying to go to Koko Black's. I like Dutch salt licorice, much to everyone's chagrin, and don't like regular licorice. I've probably consumed my body weight in lip gloss unintentionally.
Six things I could never do without
Basic needs aside, I think:

- Animal companions
- The internet
- Walking
- Drawing supplies
- My DVD collection
- My bed
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about privilege and unfairness and justice, as well as the need to be authentic and self-improving. I'm often thinking about my past and how it intersects with my present, and how I can use that knowledge to manage my future with more grace and wisdom. And then I think about things like 'all this thinking is maybe stopping me from being present right now!' and so then I'll go lie down on the grass with a book, or push my head into a cat's belly, or listen to really loud music and be in the moment.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home. Yup. Or writing. Sometimes meandering along a beach somewhere, or watching a thunderstorm. I love going out in winter, so sometimes in winter you may find me rugged up at King's Park, marvelling at this wonderful city. You may find me at Hillary's, when most of the cafes have closed and the tourists have gone away, enjoying my breath misting the air and holding the warm hand of a friend.

I am almost 100% not likely to be clubbing or at a pub.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a Fetlife account; but I tend to be quite private about it, and the username is different to this one. :)
You should message me if
You're someone who can take responsibility for things that are your issues and you're not looking to to take responsibility for someone else's (I take responsibility for my own crap, don't need anyone else to do it for me!) I'm looking for friends, people to chat with and hang out with - with a possibility for more maybe, but please don't let this be your ulterior motive. :) My sex drive is hit and miss, and I don't base meaningful relationships off a sexual component.

I am pretty shy initiating contact, so my apologies. I'm working on it, :)
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