50 Santa Cruz, United States
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My self-summary
athletic, playful, and candid man, looking for conscientious, passionate and intelligent partner

I just came back to OKCupid recently (May 2016) after several years away. Hopefully by the time you read this, I have updated most of the important stuff, but who knows what questions I answered years ago I might answer differently now. Not many probably, but one subject is worth highlighting. I am 50 now, and though I would still entertain the idea, kids are less likely. I am for the first time in my life open to a partnership in which that is not a possibility. FYI, all of my pictures are now recent, and what you see is what you get.

While I would go anywhere for the right woman, for the time being I am trying to see if there is someone for me right here in Santa Cruz.

So here is some of the rest:

I am generally gregarious and often silly, but I am serious about important things, and I want a woman who has similar intensity, hopefully with a lot of physical and mental energy. I like things straightforward and raw, and I believe first and foremost in honesty to self. I am trustworthy and nurturing, some would say to a fault. I am a giver, and a caregiver. I am the definition of a man who wears his heart on his sleeve.

Equality and balance are important to me in relationships of all kinds, though there are many kinds of give-and-take. I prefer to err on the side of giving more than I take. I find that others who are that way make the best friends.

I love to backpack and swim and run, and I would be delighted to have a partner who isn’t afraid to sweat or get dirty. I am an energetic but clueless dancer who would benefit greatly from a few good lessons from someone forgiving that knows me. I drink very little and save it for the right occasions. Fun, but not worth the grogginess that follows most of the time.

I like travel, although if I am going to consume all that jet fuel, I would like to have a worthy purpose. I think often of living overseas. I am an excellent cook. I am a selective fish/shellfish eater still (getting even more selective), and otherwise a vegetarian. I have very strong hands and am good at giving massages; what’s more, I don’t desire them much myself.

I am not a big fan of religion, absolute thinking, or absolute policies, consumerism, spectator sports, or much pop culture, but I indulge in my share of movies and passable TV shows.

I appreciate people who are modest, yet uninhibited, but who don’t think it is in bad taste to be critical, to debate, and to engage.

At my core, I am a liberal, a conservationist, a humanitarian, and an animal lover. I believe in fairness, and that we have much more in common with our fellow beings than most would begin to admit or wish to recognize.

I am very physical, but also cerebral, and I will often analyze (and dwell on) things to a degree others would smartly avoid.

I am naturally very strong, and exercise tends to transform me, and I am getting more disciplined and consistent with my workouts. I tend to like activities that don’t dwell on gear, technique, or rules. I have often been teased for my somewhat prehistoric though effective way of tackling things with my hands. I love definitive tasks.

I find that we live more when there is change in life. Long periods of steady state seem to disappear from the memories that define us. I prefer variety to continuity without challenge.

I grew up in New York City. I had a Camelot-like upbringing in some respects in a family of actors and one writer. I was a youngest child and a revolutionary at heart. I worked on TV as a child actor (one soap opera mostly) and benefited greatly from my parents flexibility and presence. In a magazine interview from that era I said that I wanted to be an inventor like my grandfather; I wanted to invent a paperless paper machine, or a non-polluting car. I still want these things.

I dream of being in love, of being loved, of spending time in the wilderness and making a good home, of applying whatever talents I might have in science, invention, policy or persuasion. I dream of being at peace, of finding my place, of doing that with someone, and making it last as long as we can.
What I’m doing with my life
My friends would say that 'temporarily retired' would be a good description. A few years ago now, I gave up my secure, well paying job as a research boat captain for a government agency. Much of my career I have been a professional diver and captain, and large part of that has involved research in marine ecology.

No, I am not rich, but I saved enough to make this hiatus possible. We shall see what comes next.

Currently I am trying to get some invention ideas I have off the ground, running and swimming, cooking and hanging with friends, and trying to catch up on tons of long overdue personal projects.

Oh yea, and I spend a great deal of time playing with dogs. Although I don't have any of my own anymore, I borrow lots of others most days, and take them on adventures.
I’m really good at
1) Finding new solutions and being resourceful. That is: thinking of ways to do things that might not be being considered and finding ways to do things with less.

2) Playing

3) Communicating things that I feel passionate about.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am generally pretty animated.

Most often, I expect I seem happy, engaged, or thoughtful.

Who really knows. Maybe you can tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I just started reading a book on attachment theory in romantic relationships "Attached". I think I am the secure type primarily at least, but we shall see. My friend found it extremely useful. I am also still reading the series of novels that followed The Clan of The Cave Bear. I bought Franz De Waal's newest book "Are We Smart Enough To Know How Smart Animals Are, at a talk he gave recently, but I haven't yet started it.

Here are some past favorites:

Alex and Me, Siddhartha, In The Shadow of Man, The House Keepers, Guns, Germs, and Steel, The Universe in a Single Atom, Kon Tiki, The Ecology of Commerce, When Elephants Weep, The Places In Between

Never Cry Wolf, Red Dog, Love Actually, Chariots of Fire, The Full Monte, Inherit the Wind, Bowling For Columbine, A Somewhat Gentle Man, Wings of Desire, Gandhi, The Pink Panther, Star Trek, the Wrath of Khan, Being There, Avatar, - Anything that makes me cry, think, feel, or laugh a lot.

Some of what I saw my dad do when I was a child (Rogers and Hammerstein etc)

The West Wing, BSG, Cosmos, The Wire, NOVA, The Daily Show, Monte Python, Rome, Firefly (all from the internet - no tv)

Old rock from my childhood, Bold Cathartic Blues, Really Tender Ballads, Eclectic Mixes my friends give me, Instrumental Folk Music, Bluegrass, Classical ...

luscious fruit in ample quantities,
The six things I could never do without
Something to do
Something to love
Something to look forward to
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to solve problems of many kinds. For friends, globally often, and sometimes for some silly little thing.

Compassion and selfishness, and how they both drive us (if we are lucky).

The minds of animals.

Politics, news, policy

Science, and quantifying things

Better ways to do things

What the future will hold

Finding someone to share the moment, and all of the above with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lately, I have spent far too many friday nights in my cottage with no one to share it with. Sometimes I am playing with friends. The last couple of Friday nights, I saw two local live musicals that were both really well done, Cats, and then Billy Elliot, which was amazing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once learned the painful way not to put random shells in my bathing suit, even if they seem empty. Got a small (tiny) scar for life. The truth is, I am a pretty open book. Just ask.
You should message me if
You want spark and intensity, peace, love, and nurture.

You don't have to be settled in what you do, or even clear, but you do have to be good, and have a respect for all creatures (and a significant tolerance for dog hair).

You want to truly partner, and you are willing to take chances.

If you own your body, and feel strong, if you are kind, sexy, and you care about animals, if you have the patience to struggle with complexities and talk and understand, if you have read all of the above, and like what you read, and liked what you saw, then please write as I want to know more about you.

I am a good man. Maybe yours.

Keep in mind, I don't necessarily subscribe to the extra features here so message me if you want me to know you are there.