45 Derry, United States
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My self-summary
I AM: vibrant, intelligent, fun-loving, musical, articulate, passionate, funny, happy, confident, loving, sensual, creative, spiritual, compassionate, spontaneous, intuitive, balanced in right brain/left brain, a great listener, a healer, a mom, a devoted friend and partner, a teacher.

I love to: laugh, converse, explore, learn, sing, dance, play in or near the water, read, listen to music, be with people, enjoy me time, watch my cat playing, spend time with the people I love.

I love my life!
What I’m doing with my life
I am currently a grad student finishing up the last few credits of my master's in counseling psychology. I have already secured a job as a staff therapist with a great company in MA and am excited to get started with my new career.

I am also spending quality time with my two wonderful daughters (18 and 20) before college classes kick back in for them.

Beyond that, I am soaking up every day for what it brings me - both the joys and the challenges. I have amazing friends and a loving family (who all live in upstate NY), school and work that I love. Now I am investing time in seeking out a special someone with whom I can share all of it. It's a journey!
I’m really good at
listening and creating connection. I am also a great mom, friend, and partner - because I work hard at these things and invest in them.

I also have a good singing voice - anything from blues to pop to classical. I miss having an outlet for expressing it beyond the inside of my car. :-)
The first things people usually notice about me
My blue eyes and my smile. I was also told recently that, unlike most people in our culture, I look people in the eyes when they are speaking, demonstrating my true interest in what they are saying. The friend who shared this said that it makes him feel cared about and heard. That warms my heart!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My taste in music is very broad - classical (Chopin, Tchaikovsky, Mozart, Bach, Elgar, Haydn, etc) especially on rainy days; jazz (Charlie Parker, Miles Davis, Thelonious Monk, etc); folk (David Wilcox, Peter Mayer, Mad Agnes) because the achingly poetic lyrics touch me deeply; classic rock (Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, The Doors, etc), pop/rock (Dave Matthews Band, KT Tunstall, Sara Bareilles, Norah Jones, Billy Joel, Florence & The Machine, etc); blues (Stevie Ray Vaughn, Etta James, BB King, Mumford & Sons, etc) because it is soulful. Music is and always has been an important part of my life.

I also love to read and have been happy to have the time to read for pleasure again after three years of reading to study.

I don't watch regular television (don't even have cable), but love Netflix.

Some favorite foods are: Indian, Italian, and meals that are made with fresh ingredients and lots of herbs and spices. I started eating gluten-free a few months ago and have been learning how to alter my cooking/baking to adjust for that change.
The six things I could never do without
My daughters (18 and 20) who are my greatest gift
My friends who love me as I am and keep me laughing
My family who are quirky and funny and embody my history
Music which is my soul
Passion in all things
Engaging Conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People. This is a central part of my personality. I spend a great deal of time thinking about my relationships (family, friends, romantic) with the people in my life because I believe that connection is what life is all about. This is probably a big reason that I am studying to be a counselor!

I also spend a lot of time pondering this thing called life. I love to take in new ideas about being - both spiritual/metaphysical and scientific. Then I sort through, keep what feels true to me, and let the rest go. My beliefs and understanding are very fluid. I like change. It is essential.
On a typical Friday night I am
It varies, so is not very "typical." I enjoy spending time with family and friends, but I also enjoy having time to myself. Either way I am usually hanging out at my house or someone else's, out for dinner/drinks and/or listening to live music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes wish that my life was literally a musical... with people bursting into song and choreographed dances. Wouldn't that be fun?! :-)
You should message me if
You are an open, passionate, intelligent man with a great sense of humor and the ability and desire to communicate in a straight forward manner. You are looking for a committed relationship, not just a hook-up, and have the patience to allow the physical connection to grow slowly as the relationship does. You know how to bring romance into a relationship and eagerly do so. You have worked on yourself enough to be emotionally stable and available. Does this sound like you? :-)