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My self-summary
A stream of conscientiousness about me: I have a passion for creativity and all things artsy. Intelligence is a huge turn-on. I'm a big activist, do-gooder, animal and environment-loving, bleeding-heart Liberal. I'm down to earth, and revel in life's little pleasures and joys. Travel is a huge passion of mine. I want to see everything and go everywhere, or at least give it a good try. I like long hair on guys. I'm a bit of a foodie, and I know my wines. I'm rather obsessive about books. One can never have too many around. I love art house cinema. I'm an Anglo-Gallic mutt (English mum / French dad). I have an affinity for elephants, whales, and crows. Perhaps they're my animal totems. I was accepted at Brown, but went to Berkeley. I still feel the pangs of an inferiority complex when I'm around ivy leaguers. I keep way too many tabs open on my browser. I think Tom Robbins is brilliant, but think his later stuff seems a bit forced. (Did anyone actually love Fierce Invalids...?)

Here are some qualities I'm looking for in a partner in crime: He's gotta be smart. He should also be a wit. I appreciate humour, and especially wit. I'm a bit turned off by sarcasm in general, though, as I feel it smacks of cruelty and I think that's too easy. It takes intelligence to be a wit, any ol' jack-ass can be sarcastic. I won't date a Republican or even a Libertarian, but the guy I want should take interest in the world around him. He should be a bit sophisticated, and enjoy dressing up once in a while for a nice evening out. But he should not be prissy. I want a guy who can appreciate a good dive bar, and who will roll up his sleeves and get dirty when he needs to. He should be sweet, affectionate, assuring, considerate, and a bit sentimental, all without being saccharine or overly emotional. And I want him to be broad-minded and open to new or different ideas, who won't put up too much of a fuss when I drag him to a retrospective of French New Wave cinema. My guy should also be a bit romantic. I don't like schlocky romance, though. Chocolate-dipped hybridized strawberries and mediocre sparkling wine is far less impressive to me than gathering wild strawberries and eating them snuggled together on a fallen log in the forest. Great hair that I can run my fingers through is a plus, as is anyone who can keep me in regular supply of Amedei chocolate.
What I’m doing with my life
I've worked as an interior designer, and still love it, but I've been doing a lot of event planning work, mostly for non-profits. A few years ago I formed an event production company that focuses on product placement events for the luxury industry. I still do that, but fundraising for a local non-profit takes up most of my work time lately.

I have a nice group of friends, and spend a fair amount of time socializing with them, but I'm the only gay member of my regular group of friends. It's hard to meet other queer guys when you spend most of your time with straight folk, no matter how lovely they may be.
I’m really good at
I make a great curried pumpkin and black bean soup, and my nachos are killer. I'm very good at packing: parcels, luggage, homes... I throw a terrific cocktail party. Decorating other people's homes. I have a knack for choosing a great wine at almost any price level. I travel very well, I'm not one of those grumpy, whining travelers. Walking, I'm a fast walker who seldom tires. And I'm really good at my own personal rituals. Like coffee, toasted sesame bagels slathered with melted butter, and the NY and London Times on Sunday mornings; or sipping cognac while reading golden age mysteries on chilly autumn evenings. Oh, and I'm excellent at parallel parking.
The first things people usually notice about me
My resting serious face. I seem to look more unfriendly than I am, if I don't happen to be smiling.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

I love books. No, I LOVE books. I have tons around me, and picking a favourite book would be akin to a parent picking out a favourite child. I love English mysteries, books on personal development (as opposed to self-help), historical non-fiction, philosophy, and old travel essays. Some of my fave authors include Tom Robbins, John Mortimer, Richard Brautigan, Evelyn Waugh, oh and a bunch more.


I love the indys and art house film. I often list these as some of my favourite films: Orlando, Waiting for the Moon, The Theory of Flight, Anything with Katharine Hepburn in it, Kundun, The Linguini Incident, Sleeper, Slaves of New York, Un Coeur en Hiver, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, ...


Indy, Post-Punk, Blues, Jazz, Classical, New Wave, Opera, and Alternative are the genres I most often listen to. The National, MGMT, Bowie(!), White Stripes, Keb Mo, The Cure, Miles Davis, Mozart, Chopin, Bettye Lavette, Puccini, Verdi, The Eels, Cat Stevens, Pat Barber, Razorlight, Better Than Ezra, George Harrison, Nina Simone, Echo and the Bunnymen, Franz Ferdnand, Jonny Lang, Pink Martini, The Vaselines, Buddy Guy, Scissor Sisters, Chet Baker, Ian Shaw, Manhattan Transfer, Rolling Stones, and the like get frequent play on my ipod.


I love to eat. Sometimes I regret being a vegetarian, but I still find plenty to over-indulge in skipping the meat. As you might have suspected from my profile, I can be a bit of a snob when it comes to gastronomy, I hate when bad things happen to good food. I've always said that if I had to choose only one cuisine to eat for the rest of my life it would be Indian, with a slight preference for southern Indian fare.
Six things I could never do without
Red Wine
A Curious Mind
Dark Chocolate
(I know, I know, but I did well narrowing my list down to just seven items.)

These are, of course, above the absolute essentials of Maslow's hierarchy.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future, my goals, what shall I have for dinner, how to frustrate Repubicans, art/design, my business...
On a typical Friday night I am
These days it could be anything. I might be out having a couple drinks with friends, meeting an old friend for dinner, or home watching a video, reading a book, or surfing the net.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a weird condition called associative prosopagnosia. It's a kind of 'face blindness'. It takes a while for a person's looks to imprint on my brain, so I may not recognize someone again until I've met them a few times.

That, and I have a thing for kissing the napes of necks.
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