Here are some qualities I'm looking for in a partner in crime: He's gotta be smart. He should also be a wit. I appreciate humour, and especially wit. I'm a bit turned off by sarcasm in general, though, as I feel it smacks of cruelty and I think that's too easy. It takes intelligence to be a wit, any ol' jack-ass can be sarcastic. I won't date a Republican or even a Libertarian, but the guy I want should take interest in the world around him. He should be a bit sophisticated, and enjoy dressing up once in a while for a nice evening out. But he should not be prissy. I want a guy who can appreciate a good dive bar, and who will roll up his sleeves and get dirty when he needs to. He should be sweet, affectionate, assuring, considerate, and a bit sentimental, all without being saccharine or overly emotional. And I want him to be broad-minded and open to new or different ideas, who won't put up too much of a fuss when I drag him to a retrospective of French New Wave cinema. My guy should also be a bit romantic. I don't like schlocky romance, though. Chocolate-dipped hybridized strawberries and mediocre sparkling wine is far less impressive to me than gathering wild strawberries and eating them snuggled together on a fallen log in the forest. Great hair that I can run my fingers through is a plus, as is anyone who can keep me in regular supply of Amedei chocolate.
I have a nice group of friends, and spend a fair amount of time socializing with them, but I'm the only gay member of my regular group of friends. It's hard to meet other queer guys when you spend most of your time with straight folk, no matter how lovely they may be.
I love books. No, I LOVE books. I have tons around me, and picking a favourite book would be akin to a parent picking out a favourite child. I love English mysteries, books on personal development (as opposed to self-help), historical non-fiction, philosophy, and old travel essays. Some of my fave authors include Tom Robbins, John Mortimer, Richard Brautigan, Evelyn Waugh, oh and a bunch more.
I love the indys and art house film. I often list these as some of my favourite films: Orlando, Waiting for the Moon, The Theory of Flight, Anything with Katharine Hepburn in it, Kundun, The Linguini Incident, Sleeper, Slaves of New York, Un Coeur en Hiver, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, ...
Indy, Post-Punk, Blues, Jazz, Classical, New Wave, Opera, and Alternative are the genres I most often listen to. The National, MGMT, Bowie(!), White Stripes, Keb Mo, The Cure, Miles Davis, Mozart, Chopin, Bettye Lavette, Puccini, Verdi, The Eels, Cat Stevens, Pat Barber, Razorlight, Better Than Ezra, George Harrison, Nina Simone, Echo and the Bunnymen, Franz Ferdnand, Jonny Lang, Pink Martini, The Vaselines, Buddy Guy, Scissor Sisters, Chet Baker, Ian Shaw, Manhattan Transfer, Rolling Stones, and the like get frequent play on my ipod.
I love to eat. Sometimes I regret being a vegetarian, but I still find plenty to over-indulge in skipping the meat. As you might have suspected from my profile, I can be a bit of a snob when it comes to gastronomy, I hate when bad things happen to good food. I've always said that if I had to choose only one cuisine to eat for the rest of my life it would be Indian, with a slight preference for southern Indian fare.
A Curious Mind
(I know, I know, but I did well narrowing my list down to just seven items.)
These are, of course, above the absolute essentials of Maslow's hierarchy.
That, and I have a thing for kissing the napes of necks.