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My self-summary
I am a 36 year old guy looking for a connection with someone, a good time, and maybe a little more. While I enjoy relationships and being with people, I am more interested in getting to know you and seeing where things go from there. I would prefer to start a relationship "in the moment", and worry about what the future holds after we have had time to get to know one another. The truth is I would go out of my way to include the right person in my life for the long-term.

While most people consider me a fairly logical, rational person those who get to know me know that there is a sensitive, caring side to me that only comes out once trust and respect have been established. I think those who know me well know that I am driven by a need and desire to help others, and to be a boon in other peoples lives, instead of a burden. I get along well with people who are somewhat open with their emotions and are willing to talk about them, instead of hiding them or covering up their thoughts.

I am a bit of a geek in many ways, as I love to game (in virtually every sense of the word, be it video games, board games, card games, role playing games, and others), and work with and on computers. While I enjoy most sports, if there is a choice between watching a sports event on television or doing something with another person, I will always pick the later.

I am amiable, witty, and thoughtful
What I’m doing with my life
I recently completed a graduate degree in clinical psychology and have received my license as a clinical psychologist. I work as a therapist at a medium-sized clinic, and while some of the work gets rather dreary (fucking paperwork...) I really enjoy working with the people.

Don't let the whole "psychologist" thing influence you, though, because I don't use my powers for evil, only good. I also write quite a bit, contribute by volunteering with the homeless, and judge debate for high school.

I have also started exercising more intensely and dieting in an attempt to change my Body Type from Overweight to something a bit more... healthy. Exercise is a funny thing, in that I hate it until I am done with it for the day, and then I think it's the best thing ever. Yet, come the next day, I have to push hard to do it.
I’m really good at
I have been told by many that I am an excellent friend, caring, compassionate, and loyal to a fault at times. I am a good writer and a bit of a wordsmith , and enjoy playing with language when the mood strikes me. I am resourceful, and am good at taking different perspectives and forming solutions and plans that others don't think of. Being a therapist by profession (at the moment), I also think of myself as a good listener and a good shoulder to cry on or yell at, depending on your preference. That being said, I work hard to not be a therapist when I am not being paid to, so know that all of that stuff goes in the closet (as best I can) when I am off duty. I am good with video games, computers, and all of that geeky stuff. I am also a very good cook.
The first things people usually notice about me
This is a hard question, but I believe that people first notice my smile and my eyes. That's what I have been told. That I have a nice smile and that I have "kind" eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite work of fiction is American Gods by Neil Gaiman, although I also am a fan of Stephen Donaldson, Vernor Vinge, Patrick Rothfuss, Charles Stross, John Scalzi, Ian M. Banks, Neil Stephenson, H.P. Lovecraft, William Gibson and most Stephen King (especially the Dark Tower books).

I like a wide variety of movies, but some of my favorites of all time are The Exorcist, Cabin in the Woods, The Big Lebowski, Aliens, Ghostbusters (both of them), Army of Darkness, Evil Dead, Red Dragon (and Silence of the Lambs, but not Hannibal), anything featuring zombies in their many permutations, Hot Fuzz, and the Fifth Element.

I enjoy television as well, but don't actively watch at scheduled times. I like The West Wing (and own all of the good seasons on DVD), The Wire, True Detective (Season One), the X-Files, Millennium, the short-lived Drive, Firefly and and The Simpsons.

My musical tastes tend towards ambient music such as Massive Attack, and Aphex Twin. I also really like Nine Inch Nails, Front Line Assembly, Muse, and The White Stripes.

I am a bit of a foodie, and like most cuisines, but prefer Asian food and cook it frequently. I am a proficient cook with French, Italian, Mexican and Central American, some Spanish,and most "American" fare. I love to eat sushi, but lack the ability to make it well.
Six things I could never do without
I could never go without my glasses (literally, quite blind), a computer or some technological equivalent, a creative outlet such as writing, good books, good friends, and great games.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking about fantastic or unusual situations and the like. Essentially, day dreaming about different or imaginary situations. I also spend time thinking about some of the different aspects of society that are troubling to me and how to go about changing them.
On a typical Friday night I am
rarely at home. Most Friday nights I spend out with friends, either playing some variety of game, going to a show, or some other social activity.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sight unseen, the most private thing that I am willing to admit is that I am fiercely protective of the people who are important to me, and can appear a bit reserved with those that I don't know well (or so I have been told). So, if you want to know more, you will just have to get to know me!
You should message me if
you are looking to meet a person who could be a great friend and maybe something more.
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