56Silver Spring, United States
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My self-summary
"Me?" (looks around like the OK Cupid interviewer might be asking about someone else's background) "Oh, sure I can tell you about myself..."

I'm a fairly articulate, intelligent, humorous, poly, physically demonstrative, fit, socially liberal, playful, fiscally conservative middle-aged male with a penchant for the fairer sex. I'm a hound, a flirt, a womanizer, a ladies man. Or at least I'd like to be... the reality might not live up to my self-image. I'm the heavy-weight champ of flirting though... you'll tend to either swoon, riposte, laugh or throw something within a few moments of entering into the verbal boxing ring with me.

Oooo, and lest you wonder, I'm divorced, in a serious relationship with eclectia and polyamorous by clear and active choice, not for the "cool points". If you're looking for a single solitary soulmate to spend the elder years together with... I'm not about to accept monogamy ever again and I've found my other half after a quarter century with women who pale in comparison. If you're looking for a loyal friend, a lively debate, long passionate evenings, occasional food fights, laughter, and a view into the world of chaos (without drama) then you're in the right place.

I'm looking for friends, co-conspirators, partners, chewtoys and free spirits. My life is busy and full, but friends are the best thing I have, so who could say "No!" to more quality folks.

Bumper stickers on my car include "Stop Following Me", the fencing quote from Princess Bride, "If you think there's good in everyone then you haven't met everybody", "You can't have my Rights, I'm still using them!", a pentacle, various SCA kingdom badges with "Practice Safe Government - Use Kingdoms" and more.

My personal motto is "Nondumius Tedium" and it does tend to be accurate.

A note for the Gay Fellows out there: I'm bisexual because form matters less than function. I'm actually a Sapiosexual Sensualist, but almost no one understands that concept. There are men who stimulate me in all the right ways. You won't be my first, and you certainly won't be my last, man. Your "unit" is also not a super stick of Gaydonite that will convert me to my "true sexuality" and flip me to being Gay (or monogamous). It. Just. Won't. Happen. Girls are soft, boobies are fun, and they don't drool as much when they kiss. So, run back up to the third paragraph and read about being poly if you've got any questions, then re-read it inserting "bisexual" in opposition to "heterosexual or homosexual". Thanks!

A note for everyone about photos... please consider posting a headshot and a full body photo. It helps on deciding about the "looks" classification. I'm not looking for Twiggy, I'm looking for body language. You can be well past obese and still be sexy if you own your body, wear it with confidence, and believe in yourself. Please, show me that in your photo and I'll be Oh So Happy. Thanks again.

I am hilarious, intelligent, and open-minded
What I’m doing with my life
Planning a trip to Turino for the Slow Food Festival in October 2012.

I've started a graduate degree in sustainability. I'm studying the craft brewing industry. Yes, I'll have a Master's Degree in Beer!

Trying to find time to pick the guitar back up after 35 years.

I'm also actively working on being a better feminist. In mid-life I'm working to become very aware of what supports my (mostly female) friends and what destroys them. I don't think I've ever been a force for evil, but I desire to become an active ally.

I've moved into my first "intentional community", a co-housing development in Silver Spring. Its an active and interesting community and I'm both amazed and perplexed by the place. I'm devoting a considerable amount of time trying to get to know the people here, understand their consensus model, and see if this is something that interests me as much as it interests my sweetie. Note that this has nothing to do with being poly... as far as I can tell we're an island in a sea of monogamy here.
I’m really good at
Sarcastic wit. Insight quickened through intuition. Logic. Math. Creative problem solving. Oral sex. Listening. Cooking. Gardening. Avoiding deadlines until the last moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
my humor... I'll go a long way for a joke.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(a) My favorite books are usually SF/Fantasy or Non-Fiction History. My current favorite author is Katherine Smith Code of Conduct. anything by Lord T. Pratchett, God Stalk by Pat Hodgel, The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell, Charles De Lint has recently appeared large on my reading radar... luv those urban fey (b) My taste in cinema is eclectic - I LIKE film. All time favs include When Harry Met Sally, Casablanca, and The Long Kiss Goodnight. But what is with the recent trend to use 3D in everything? Ick. (c) I like all music and it is usually playing someplace nearby when I'm awake. Favorites include Celtic, Folk, Classic Rock, and Trance. Dar Williams, Solas, Greatful Dead, Eddie from Ohio(d)I am not a fan of bland food. Sushi is good, as is Indian. Tai and Vietnamese top my list for oriental. Not much of a fan of steak and potatoes (unless I want my cheeseburger from paradise).
Six things I could never do without
The Essentials
Special K (who is eclectia here), air, beer, venison, cheeeeeese

The Wanted
Friends, Magic, Music, Sex, Books, Nature

The Despised
Drhama Lhamas, guilt, head games, boundaries issues
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why so many people try to be just sodding stupid. Winning the lottery. What next to model, mold and cast in pewter. How to afford a glass kiln. stilts, polyamory, how to apply systems design to all human endeavor, sustainability, new beer trends
On a typical Friday night I am
That's too hard to say... since "typical" comes up as "term unknown; see also "Lack of Chaos" in my personal dictionary. Some weeks it's feet up, a book and a brewski. Others its a small music venue with friends. Sometimes its a late night with our crazy European and South American friends who feel dinner at 10:30 PM is early. Other times its on the road towards a camping trip and hike in the woods. Might involve a film, either at the normal theater or the AFI Silver. Ooooo, and the decision is as likely to be made months in advance as at 5:30 on Friday afternoon. See? chaos.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My mind has gone places my body fears to follow...
You should message me if
Your mind does more than hold your ears apart... Your friends describe you as quirky... you can accept my partner's existence, are willing to meet her, and will promise to make no attempts to break us up... you like to laugh... you understand I'm not here to complete you... something in this profile made you go "hummm" in a good way.
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