... also proudly geeky, often goofy, and pragmatically optimistic
Amy Schumer and Kristen Schaal are personal heroes
"I'm just an average/laid back guy who is looking for a partner in crime."
The phrasing is as dull as the sentiment is cliched. Put your back into it, boys. Words have the power to seduce, and they are abundant, not mention free. No woman in her right mind will respond to such pablum with anything other than the scorn it deserves.
While I appreciate the messages received from men who are looking for something monogamous, know that you WILL NOT get that from me.
If we're all on the same page, please proceed...
Kissing. I've been described as a "barn burner." That's about right..
Raising your temperature, and maybe more, simply by wearing a little black dress and heels.
Being the person saying something crude at full volume when the music cuts out... yeah, that's me. That's why my best friend went to parties with me in college
Long stride and a fast walk, even in heels
Crimson curls that bounce when I laugh
This site attracts an unusual number of good-to-great writers, and their gifts should be shared. This portion of the profile is a bit wild and wooly in terms of length, so I cut it back. Here are a few selections...
"You like how the lights in Vesuvio remind you of when you first moved here."
"The best sound is when you hold your breath and sink to the bottom of the swimming pool and all you hear are the distant muffled garbled bubble voices and the quiet whispers of your own thoughts. Floating."
Writers/theorists/critics, or "the geeks in whom this geek finds inspiration"
Allan Sekula, Charlotte Cotton, Roland Barthes, Benjamin Buchloh, Susan Buck Morss, Judith Butler, RETORT, Arthur C. Danto, Claire Bishop, David Levi Strauss, Ariella Azoulay, Christopher Knight, Tyler Green, William Poundstone, Susan Sontag, Lucy Lippard, Theodor Adorno, Michel Foucault, Gayatri Spivak, Alan Trachtenberg, Rebecca Solnit, A.D. Coleman, Steven Dubin, Doris Kearns Goodwin, David McCullough, David Sedaris, Fredrick Jameson and Jonathan Sawday.
Current reading selections:
Long and non fiction -
Robert Oppenheimer: A Life Inside the Center (Ray Monk)
The Invention of Nature (Andrea Wulf)
Professional development -
Afterimage, Afterall, Frieze, Filip, and Aperture magazine
David Rakoff, you are missed
If you're curious, ask and I'll provide links to my writing at Strange Fire Collective, Humble Arts Foundation, KQED, Art Practical, and SF Camerawork
2016 has brought startling losses. First David Bowie, and now Prince...
The soundtrack that accompanies my life includes everything from AC/DC to Hank Williams to Glenn Gould (thanks for the edit assist!)
Current current obsession:
Alt-j, Hozier, Kaleo, Chet Faker (Pandora)
This American Life
Stuff You Missed in History Class
Frieze Art Fair, WireTap
Stuff You Should Know
Bad at Sports
House of Cards
Game of Thrones
True Detective (DO NOT ask me about the hot mess that is Season 2, unless you seek a detailed rant condemning nearly every aspect of the show)
Recent favorites: River, Making a Murderer, Flesh and Bone, The Walking Dead
Scene selections from a few favorites...
... when Slim says "you know how to whistle, don't ya Steve?"
... when Lisa walks in to Jeff's apartment, flushed with accomplishment, after Thorwald reads the incriminating note. The look in Jeff's eyes is a mix of pride and unfiltered adoration
... when the mothership blasts Roy's electrician's truck with light and subliminal messages of both terror and the sublime
... when Sydney finds Dith in the Laotian Red Cross camp, and their shared trauma comes to an end
... when Ferris, Cameron, and Sloan find themselves in a taxi next to the one Ferris' father is riding in, and Sloan takes matters into her own mischeivous hands
... when Lester stops, and Angela's innocence is spared
... when Elinor learns that Edward isn't married, and tears overwhelm her stalwart emotional fortitude
... when The Joker forces Batman to reckon with his own menacing potential
Recent winners: Spotlight, Macbeth, Chi-raq, Brooklyn, Trainwreck, The Witch
Thank you, JJ Abrams, for saving the imaginative soul of an entire cinematic generation. Ask me how much I LOVE Episode 7
I love it. I you ask nicely, I'll cook some for you. Chances are you'll be licking your fingers throughout...
The love of my life, mx-eris
Vigorous and frequent exercise
My family and friends
Access to art, artists, and arts institutions
The oxford comma
The little "things"...
Red-haired men. My ginger brothers, you don't know how delicious you are
That moment after my cat leaps from the ground, before she alights on our bed
Loud, snorting, body-shaking laughter with family and friends
A full tank of gas and an un/known destination
The feeling of my heart pounding against my ribs mid workout
The sound of crickets on a warm night
Arriving just in time to catch a bus or train
The first sip of bourbon, and the warmth it brings to my skin
Eating with my hands, and then savoring the taste on my fingers
A seductive smile, suggestive of the fun that is about to unfold
Men in tailored suits, particularly involving checkered shirts and dark ties. I *might* have a wee crush on John Oliver
How did I talk my way out of that "vandalism" fine?
(It wasn't vandalism. The bus was operating, and no one was injured. There are plenty of Muni buses rumbling around San Francisco's streets with that repugnant, Islamophobic vinyl poster plastered on the side. If the powers that be who support the protracted genocide of Palestinians have to pay a bit more money, that's FINE by me.)
How to write more critically without retreating to jargon
How to live in the now, and not worry about what comes next
Which historical moment I would witness if I could travel in time
How to remain hopeful and stridently engaged as darkness, in myriad forms, threatens to overwhelm our world
If we're friends, I'll do damn near anything to make you laugh
I giggle at the most inappropriate times. Yes, this includes funerals. It's a nervous reaction...mostly
My first crush was Bugs Bunny
I'd love to meet/play with a bi-male couple. Being a guest star is SOO much fun!
I understand the need for online privacy. That said, it's unlikely that I will send or reply to messages sent from accounts with no pic included.
If you and your partner have recently (6-12 months) opened your relationship, I wish you the best of luck. I'm happy to field questions and/or offer advice if you ask, but I'm not interested in dating. Thank you!
Please DO contact me if...
You have more to say than "Hey" in your first message. Single word messages will be deleted immediately and you will be mocked for lacking creativity and spine.
You are comfortable with a partner who is in a committed, open marriage.
You are between the ages of 30 and 50.
You live in San Francisco, Berkeley, or Oakland.
Please DO NOT contact me if...
You are only looking for a bed warmer.
Further to that, don't contact me if your favorite sport is slut shaming. Or do, and be prepared for the verbal beat down you richly deserve.