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My self-summary
I realize that many of you have endured the Seven Circles of Douchebaggery on this site. On behalf of my gender, I apologize. They are why we can't have nice things.

I have lived in San Francisco for over 2 decades. I know a ton of its hidden nooks and crannies. I want to know even more. It blows my mind to think that as of Dec. 2016 I have been here for 22 years.

Half of me believes that nothing is ever going to work out for me in this lifetime. The other half of me believes in the magic of everything around me. Cynical optimism...

I found this website while reading Questionable Content. I used to own a rock and roll club in San Francisco, but it closed in 2008. I love live music. Was a big Deadhead when there was a Grateful Dead. Love Phish. My parents raised me on Broadway, so I love musicals more than a straight man should. I am originally from New Jersey, and have no shame about it. Love The Decemberists and any Jack White project, Dr. Dog and Dawes. I have a dog named Bucky and a one eyed cat named Socket,. They are the best and they are slowly falling in love. I used to be in a theater troupe. I am currently acting in a Shakesperean version of The Big Lebowski. It was a blast. I am thinking about directing a play. A stage version of The Breakfast Club.

I work at, at the Armory on 14th & Mission. It's fun working in a castle.

I would love someone to cuddle and discuss geeky movies, TV and music in between makeout sessions. Someone who can understand that bigger men can be amazing lovers. Someone who is interested in coming into my world but still has a world of their own for me to share. Someone who I feel like a better man when they are around, and feels like a better woman around me.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm trying to get it all together. I live in an enormous warehouse in the dogpatch. I have a dog that I spend almost 24 hours a day with, he comes to work with me, which is awesome. We spend the weekends running around. I see more live music than most people, but not all...I see more movies than most, but not all. I would like my life to be a little simpler than it is. Don't see that happening any time soon.
I’m really good at
Self deprecation. I am like the BEST self deprecator EVER. No, wait...I suck at self deprecation...I have no idea how to do it. I'm the worst self deprecator in the whole world.

Is deprecator even a word? It would have to be, right?
The first things people usually notice about me
That I smile and make others smile. That I have a large group of friends. That I love a large variety of music. That I am cynical and sarcastic and funny as fuck.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent books: The Contortionists Handbook by Craig Clevenger and King Dork by Frank Portman, I've read every Neil Gaiman comic book and novel. I am currently reading The Dream of Perpetual Motion by Dexter Palmer and really enjoying it, even though I am forming a theory about ADD and modern writing because of it.

Movies: Too many to name. Short Cuts, Until The End of the World, Brazil. Gilliam, Coen Brothers, Wes Anderson, PT Anderson. The Christopher Nolan Batman films, Brick, The 5000 Fingers of Dr. T.

Music: I like stuff from every genre if it is good. Not into electronic music, prefer bands. Tom Waits and The Residents are two of my favorites. I was a Deadhead when they were alive. I see Phish live. I love Jack White. You've already read this stuff. Unless you are skimming.

TV: I am so excited about how superheroes have taken over Television. The Flash, Gotham, Arrow, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., the list keeps growing and I love them all for the different voices they all have.

LOST (until the last episode), Fringe, 24, EVERY SINGLE THING JOSS WHEDON HAS EVER DONE, Eastbound and Down, Weeds, Breaking Bad, The Wire, Arrested Development, 30 Rock, Dr. Who. Sorry about yelling about Joss Whedon. Stranger Things and Jessica Jones and Orphan Black and, well, basically I watch too much TV.
Six things I could never do without
1. My friends
2. My pets
3. Music
4. Movies
5. The sun
6. Kissing (although I am doing without these days and surviving ok)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to do next. How to feel like my life is on track.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a concert, movie, or something with a ton of friends. But I would rather be on a date. Lately Friday has been popcorn and a movie in the warehouse.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was married for 11 years to a woman who went to Burning Man in 2007, changed her name to Sandwich, and I never saw her again. She just had a kid and named it Buckaroo. I am not making any of this up. She ended our relationship via email. Seriously the most San Francisco breakup ever.
You should message me if
that's what you're into... (cue up Flight of The Conchords)
The two of us