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My self-summary
I'm into exploring life. I like playing games with ways of perceiving the world, and interacting with others. I appreciate art and beauty.

I practice a low-consumption lifestyle. I meditate. I commute by bicycle. I pay attention to how the choices I make affect the world.

I'm psychologically oriented. I look at the world through the lens of looking for the deep causes behind people's actions and feelings. I'm introspective.

I can look at anyone, and see their beauty. I can feel that it is such a gift to simply be in their presence and interact with them.

My primary focus on OKCupid is to meet women for dating, but I'm also interested in networking with people of any gender to collaborate on work that we share a passion about, and do activities that support our psychological liberation and growth.

I am open to the possibility of starting a committed relationship with someone, but I'm definitely not interested in the focus being on the relationship to the point where it takes energy away from our respective abilities to do work in the world. Ideally, my partner and I will be a team, mutually supporting one another, and moving forward together to fulfill our potentials and serve the world.

I am unique, intelligent, and open-hearted
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently working at a restaurant and doing native plant restoration work.

In the fall I'll be returning to college. My Major is Anthropology. I wish to understand how cultures grow and develop over time and apply that understanding to creating social change in our own society. I'm particularly interested in the "culture and personality" school of thought. I hope to gain the same kind of deep understanding of the collective psyches of cultures that psychologists can have of the psyches of individuals.

I want to help us as a society get to a place where we are collectively conscious, where what we do as whole is a expression of all of our conscious intentions.
I’m really good at
Maintaining my integrity, and commitment to acting in moral manner in situations that pressure me to do otherwise.

I'm also good at my maintaining sense of identity and expressing myself for who I am. My entire life, since before I was old enough to be consciously aware of social pressures, I've been resilient to them. I've always defined myself in terms of what makes me unique.

I'm a good listener. I've had the experience being listened to with compassion, with the listener giving me their complete attention for as long as I needed, as being a powerful tool for my personal healing and growth. I strive to give that same experience to people I listen to by being fully present with them, and not letting my concentration waver by thinking about how something they said reminds me of something in my own life, or planning something to say myself while they're talking.

Unfortunately, I've focused on being a good listener to such a high degree that now I can have a difficult time interacting with people who aren't used to consciously giving space to others to speak and express themselves fully in conversations. I have an internal judgment about interrupting others, and this makes it difficult for me to adapt to situations where it's necessary for me to interrupt in order to ensure that effective communication takes place. I'm working on improving at that. This is probably part of the reason why I prefer more structured settings when I'm interacting with large groups. Such settings can help ensure that all participants have the opportunity to be heard.

I'm good at writing essays and letters, and I've been told that I can be an effective and engaging public speaker.

I'm decent at designing and facilitating group processes. I have a fair amount of theoretical knowledge around organizational development and systems for facilitating the creation of collective intelligence, though I've had mixed success at applying this in the real world so far. I feel like I've gained a lot of experience, and I'm improving.

I'm pretty capable of removing myself from my material wants. I focus on the things I feel truly matter.

I feel that my greatest strength is my intelligence, especially my ability to look at situations from a unique perspective and come up with insights on problems that allow me to approach them in an effective and unconventional manner.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some books that have had a significant impact on my worldview and/or impacted my life direction are: "The Global Brain Awakens" by Peter Russell, "The Wisdom of Crowds" by James Surowiecki, "Wikinomics" by Don Tapscott and Anthony D. Williams, "Collapse" by Jared Diamond, "The Naked Ape" by Desmond Morris, "Our Inner Ape" by Franz de Waal, and "The Lorax", by Dr. Suess (I'm able recite this last one from memory).

Some books that I deeply appreciate as works of art are: "Nine Stories" J.D. Salinger, "The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran, "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho, "Siddhartha" by Hermann Hesse, "The Lord of the Rings" by J. R. R. Tolkien, "If You're Afraid of the Dark - Remember the Night Rainbow" by Cooper Edens, "New and Selected Poems" by Mary Oliver, and "The Gift" poems by Hafez translated by David Ladinsky.

Some of my favorite movies are: Baraka, American Beauty, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, The Thin Red Line, and Children of Men.

I lived with a television for the past 8 years, but I watch "Survivor", PBS's "Frontline", and science documentaries on my computer. I watched HBO's "The Wire". I also watch TED talks.

I tend to like ambient, dub, trance, new age, and world music. I like music where it feels like the artist sees themselves being a means through which the universe is expressing its beauty, rather than seeing themselves as its creator, and believing that they control it.

I'm generally less able to appreciate music with lyrics. The imposition of lyrics can feel like an attempt to contain something inexplicable in human words, like trying to bend something that's pure and beautiful as it is already, and in doing so, making it less.

Some of my favorite musical artists are: Brian Eno, Lisa Gerrard, Axiom of Choice, Omnimotion, Robert Rich, Adham Shaikh, and Paul van Dyk.

Some of my favorite DJ's are: Armin van Buurin, Ferry Corsten, Mars, and Mysterë.

I care about making responsible food choices. The Union of Concerned Scientists ranks food consumption as the second most environmentally impactful area of activity that Americans engage in after transportation. This comes primarily from the emissions from transporting out of season and non-local food over great distances to American consumers, and the use of environmentally destructive farming techniques. I buy locally and sustainably grown food whenever possible.

I'm also a vegetarian because I do not want make animals die for me when it's not necessary for my survival or wellbeing.

Apart from the free food I get from my restaurant, I generally have a pretty austere diet. Sometimes I'll boil pots of rice and beans and put them in the fridge to eat over the next week. I don't generally put in the effort to heat food or mix in other ingredients before I eat it. The way food tastes is not something that's important to me.
The six things I could never do without
I could never do without the ability and opportunity to:
1. Learn and grow.
2. Experience beauty.
3. Be in, and connect with nature.
4. Love and honor the world and those in it.
5. Use my life to serve the world in a meaningful way.
6. Feel an intuitive sense of purpose and direction in my life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
whatever it is that I'm working on at the time. I'm the kind of person who concentrates on one project for days or weeks at a time, and devotes all their time, energy, care, and attention to it until they've brought it to a state near perfection. I'm not a big multi-tasker.

Also, in general, I'm focused on the question of how to help to bring about a world where we have a greater degree of collective consciousness, and I look at everything I'm exposed to through that lens, so I often have new insights and understandings about how we might get there and what that world might look like.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a recovering computer game addict. I know now that I need to avoid computer games for the rest of my life. If I start playing one, I can lose control, and it can seriously disrupt my life, my work, and my progress on everything I'm working toward.
You should message me if
at least a couple of the statements below are true for you:

You are passionate about working to help the world (especially if it looks like we might be able to create synergy through collaborating together).

You appreciate beauty in the world around you.

You honor and value all beings and all things.

You are someone who is open to exploring, experimenting, and doing new and unconventional things (climbing trees, spontaneously doing improvisational theater in public, allowing your worldview to to changed by deep conversations with people you've just met, dancing in the rain, etc...).

And particularly for women who might be romantically interested in me:

You are capable of being a truly equal partner in a relationship.

You already have a strong sense of identity and direction in your life, and hope for you and your ideal partner to each share with each other from a place of strength and empowerment.