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My self-summary
I'm looking for interesting people to talk with, even if it doesn't lead to a relationship (although I'd like it to).

I have a lot of curiosity, and I'm always looking for interesting ideas that add to my mental map of reality. I'm an empiricist, and I'm more interested in what's demonstrably true than in what I'd prefer to be true. And I prefer intelligent conversation rather than passive entertainment.

I tend to see the humor in most situations, in a quiet way.

Affectionate touch is important to me. This article describes it nicely:
What I’m doing with my life
Thanks to the economy, I've been a full-time student for the last two years. I just moved to Chicago, and I'm looking for a job now.

I was a founding member of Milwaukee Makerspace, and now I'm a member of Pumping Station One, which is a similar organization here in Chicago. I usually spend a few hours a week there. I often build things that make my job easier (I'd rather build a lamp than curse the darkness).
I’m really good at
I've been told that I'm a good conversationalist, and that I ask interesting questions.

I'm a pretty good troubleshooter-- I'm very analytical, and I'm good at fixing things. Sometimes I fix things for my lady friends (not necessarily on the first date...).
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a very quiet person. (It's not that I don't talk, but in larger groups I tend not to.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot non-fiction, and I seek out obscure books on subjects that interest me. Some interesting ones about communicating with people:

"Some Men are More Perfect than Others" by Merle Shain (1973)
(Dated in some ways, but I like the way she writes)
"Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love" by Nancy Dreyfus (1993)
(These were originally flashcards, later reprinted as a book)
"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg (1999)
(Still reading this one, but it looks good)
"Truth in Dating" by Susan Campbell (2004)
(What a concept!)

I don't pay much attention to music, but I can tolerate almost anything if it's not too loud.

Do people still watch TV? I thought that's what the internet was for :-) I do like the TED videos (

Most interesting book about food: "First Bite" by Bee Wilson
The six things I could never do without
A quiet refuge (My apartment is remarkably quiet)
Physical projects-- I need get out of my head now and then
Intelligent people to talk with

I'll think of two more later...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How do introverts ever meet each other?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't mind if you drink, if you don't mind that I don't.

[Mostly this is because I associate alcohol with very noisy social events. I don't really care how "often" you drink, I just want to know whether it turns you into a noisy person.]
You should message me if'd like to talk. Or you'd like a hug :-)