I'd call myself a friendly introvert. I'm happy in the company of someone I like, but I do enjoy space and solitude as well. I tend to keep people at arms length, until I get to know them better. And I'm more of a listener than a talker. Or at least that's what people tell me :-P
I devour books, learn new stuff for the fun of it and can keep up a conversation with almost anyone about their passions or areas of expertise without getting bored or left behind. Intelligence and intensity are both things I look for in a partner.
Got a sense of humour that runs toward snark, sarcasm and self-deprecation. I don't take myself too seriously. Bad puns and dry wit are favorites, but I'm not above laughing at dirty jokes either ;-) I'm never mean-spirited in humour with someone, unless of course I know them well enough to be sure they're alright with trading sick burns; my friends and I roast each other regularly.
Fond of animals, provided they aren't trying to kill me or bite my shins off.
I like to drive, to walk or to wander. That means road trips, exploring cities on foot, or even just going outside to clear my head and gather my thoughts. Stuck inside in the middle of winter makes me stir crazy.
Who I'm not:
This comes up a lot, so perhaps I should state this upfront: I'm not a country boy. I live in Gan on account of my job and the low(er) cost of living, but I'm not precisely local. Wasn't born here, and don't plan on dying here either.
I'm not averse to dating someone local mind you, provided I feel we have enough in common. But a great many people seem to jump to the wrong conclusions about me, based on my location.
Who I'm looking for:
I have a serious weakness for women who are geeky/nerdy to some degree. By that I mean shy, introverted, intelligent, focused, eccentric, rational or any combination of the above. If that describes you, message me :-)
The short version:
Strong minded, smartassed, introverted geek who has his life together, seeking same.
Wow, you read this all the way to the end? ;-)
Got a stable job with excellent coworkers and a laid-back boss. What's more I actually enjoy it, occasional 5am wake-ups notwithstanding. Also, dental, yay!
Got my own place, my own car and zero debt to worry about. I live within walking distance of my work, two grocery stores and several places to eat that aren't fast food. And if I want the amenities of a city, Kingston is a twenty minute drive.
TV Shows: Firefly, Burn Notice, Mythbusters, Monty Python, Game of Thrones, Futurama
Food:Mediterranean cooking, Indian cooking, Pub food, Seafood
Or, if I'm being serious...
My family, friends, a computer with a working wifi connection, and the contents of my bookshelf...
And being a smartass. I could survive without being a smartass, but I wouldn't call that living.
So instead of a typical friday night, how about a typical day off? These days I'd be:
Playing games with my online friends. We've got our own TS server, and perhaps a dozen different games we all enjoy.
Curled up with a good book. And my cat. Who does not understand why the book is more interesting than giving her attention.
Hanging out with my offline friends, or my little brother.
If you're clever, funny, kind, shy/introverted and looking for some or all of the above in a partner.
If you're wondering why I haven't messaged you yet
I have not had the best of luck with online dating. The ratio of bad experiences to good ones is discouraging. And I know from talking to people that I'm not alone in this.
When I do send messages on here, I generally aim for a couple paragraphs, to avoid getting lost amid the flood of "hey, what's up?" messages. If I've "liked" you or viewed your profile more than once, it might mean I'm still thinking about what to write.