39 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I've decided to completely rewrite this profile. Over the years, it had grown into a bit of a collage as I added and subtracted things from it. I feel like it was too convoluted, and people rarely gain an accurate picture of a person from a long, rambling profile anyway. That's if it even gets read. Who knows? Maybe the next step is deletion.

I'm an artist and a builder. I have practiced many disciplines in art, but I stick to mostly painting and small sculpture these days. If a day goes by that I don't work on a piece for at least a little while, it had better have been a pretty fantastic day, or I feel like I cheated myself a little.

I work in sustainable building. It pays me well enough and I get to work on all kinds of interesting projects involving shipping containers and recycled lumber and such. I'm quite good at it.

I ride bikes and share my bed with a cat.

I value empathy and communication. As such, I am constantly disappointed by the world in general. I try not to get too cynical about that.

While, my instinct is to start writing all sorts of things about myself, I won't. I know that they would just be my own perception of who I am and I don't know if I can describe that to anyone. You are going to have to build your own.

I'm a mix of silly and serious. I think they call that well rounded.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to live it as authentically and as best as I can. Painting, sculpting, writing. Riding my bicycle everywhere. Spending time with people who aren't in a rush to get anywhere but are not stagnant. Listening to good music and avoiding television. Taking random road trips to obscure places that have great historical significance. Following dirt roads to ??? Making pasta from scratch. Wondering how anyone could ever get really, truly bored when there is so much that they could be doing right then. Plotting my escape.
I’m really good at
Introspection, talking for hours, reflection, building things, empathy, expecting too much of myself. Cutting my own hair with a series of mirrors. Wanting to know what other people really think about things. Being the big spoon.
The first things people usually notice about me
How would I know? That I'm covered in paint? I smile and laugh a lot? I am not a hamburger?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Any non fiction about the 19th or 20th century and parts of the 21st. For fiction, W.S. Burroughs, Huxley, Atwood, McCarthy, Bukowski, Ginsberg, Hemingway, Stevenson, Gaiman, William Gibson are some of my favorites... and Ballard. Too many to choose from.

I like music and movies. Who doesn't?

Food? Yes. I'll cook it.
The six things I could never do without
Canvas and brushes. Music. Curiosity. A sewing machine. My closest connections. Empathy. Six more things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Art. The things I'm building or going to build. The people I love. What the hell happened to the human race that we are dropping the ball so often these days?

Should I just move to the middle of nowhere so I can be alone in the world and surrounded by nature instead of alone in the world and surrounded by people and garbage?

Where are my keys?

How did I come this far already?
On a typical Friday night I am
I'll be honest, because ridiculous singularity and honesty. Unless there is a band playing that I really want to see, chances are I'm doing one of a few things. I might be at home painting, going out to watch a movie, hoping a date will go well enough that I consider turning this profile off or maybe just sitting in my sauna and then reading a book in bed. I'd love to be doing some of these, and other things, with another significant person. I just seem to be at a point in my life that I value quality over quantity and by that token, I spend a lot of time alone, unless the company is phenomenal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes wonder why we emphasize the importance of being happy with oneself. I feel like I can always be better, but I may have reached the limit of self improvement for my own sake. If I'm going to be happy, I want to be able to share it with someone that matters to me.
You should message me if
You like people who are weird in the not creepy way. Art is important to you. You might want to make or go view some art together. Going for a walk and talking sounds nice to you. You don't just want to get drunk somewhere and call it a date.

You like to have engaging conversations.

You know exactly who you are and don't lie to yourself or anyone else about that.

You think that you might be able to help me be better because I know you and have heard your voice.

You are happy with who you are and realize the importance of living without expectations, but also understand that living without expectations is, sometimes, really only about two rungs of the ladder away from nihilism or ceasing to have hope when it comes to better things for yourself

Someone who would make this seems interesting to you.

I dunno... you like free dinner?