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My self-summary
Updates!- Right now there's a lot going on which means I don't have a lot of spare spoons. I want to make that limitation clear up front and also spell out exactly what I'm looking for. At this point I don't feel like I'd be able to be a full participant in another long-term relationship so, for now, I'd like to stick to more casual relationships and especially friendships. If you're not interested in casual, no problem, I'm 120% interested in meeting new people just for hangouts.

Heads up, I am polyamorous. If you're unclear as to what that means or you're not sure what my specific take on poly is, feel free to ask.

If you're going to contact me, please at least be open to ideas of critical theory and social justice. I don't expect a doctoral dissertation, especially when I still have so much to learn myself, but if you are just adamantly against even recognizing concepts like misogyny, transphobia, privilege, etc and don't even want to discuss them then we'll have difficulty getting along.

Being kinky or at least kink friendly is major bonus points. I'd love to have more like-minded people in my life.

A direct approach works best with me pretty much across the board. Just be subtle as a T-Rex and we'll get along fine.

No Myers-Briggs type. The test is garbage, indicative of absolutely nothing.
What I’m doing with my life
I dunno, what is anyone doing with their lives anymore?

Politics is a big part of my world.

My "afford rent job" is with a non-profit as a counselor for adults with special needs in Santa Monica teaching life-skills. I also do some freelance handyman jobs and IT work on the side. If it'll make a few bucks I'll probably give it a shot.

The list of things I'm involved with has gotten so long and it changes regularly. I'm more than happy to talk about anything I'm doing at any given time.

- I build bows for archery. It's quite a bit of fun. If you'd like your own bow, let me know; materials are less than $10 and it's a fun afternoon project.

- A lot of legal research pertaining to a project to secure more permanent housing. In the same vein, I'm a FOIA nerd so I'm usually babysitting one or two requests at any given time.

- Looking for a place to start growing things again. I kind of hate living in the concrete jungle sometimes. If you've got some open ground and like plants, let me know.

- Writing a polyamory-centered romance screenplay. What? It's LA. Are you *really* that surprised?

- I'm working to start a not-for-profit to refurbish computers for low-income residents. This is a fucking gargantuan task and if you want to lend a hand, I'm all for the help.
I’m really good at
going back to Home Depot five times in two days because I miscalculated the size and number of bolts that I needed. -headdesk-
The first things people usually notice about me
"You look like Trevor from Phish!"
-Some guy in the Van Nuys courthouse
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Way too many books to list. I have a borderline obsession with learning new things so I go through a lot of books. I have an e-book library that is, by now, probably in the tens of thousands.

Movies are similarly diverse.

My TV experience is limited to whatever is on Netflix as I don't have cable or a TV. I got really into Alphas, Walking Dead, Firefly, Terra Nova, Dead Like Me, and Vikings.

My musical taste is impossible to present with any degree of brevity or cohesiveness. I've loved punk for years, I grew up listening to it but it's difficult to find punk that's fast enough for me to get into. I also have a tendency to really like one or two songs from an artist and dislike all the rest. You probably wont like most of what I listen to and that's OK. Live and let listen.

A few sample tracks from my popular tunes list:
Track One The Casualties - Corazones Intoxicados Corregido
Track Two The Casualties - Soldado
Track Three Rachid Taha - Ya Rayah
Track Four Ryan Harvey - I Won't Be Part Of It
Track Five Arabic Orthodox Hymn
Track Six Eisenfunk - Skudrinka
Track Seven Crucified Barbra - The Crucifier
Track Eight Sister Sin - One Out Of Ten
Track Nine GBH - Timebomb
Track Ten Groupe Badar - Allah Wastajib
Track Eleven Percival - Jomsborg
Track Twelve Garmarna - Gamen
Track Thirteen Finsterforst - Mach Dich Frie (Make Yourself Free)
Track Fourteen GBH - Sick Boy
Track Fifteen The Revels - Rolling Down to Old Maui
Track Sixteen The Wolfgangs - Cannibal Family
Track Seventeen Seaside Rebels - Abandon Ship
Track Eighteen Mureti - Antifascist Oi!

Food is also a mix (-rimshot-) though I do have a fairly restricted diet due to health issues (I cannot eat dairy, nuts, beans, or soy) but I still try to eat well. I rarely eat out because it's difficult to be sure the food you're getting is free of allergens but I'm not against a good meal at a place I know wont attempt to poison me.

When I play games they're almost always on the PC. I rotate what I play pretty constantly though I don't have as much time or energy to play as I used to. I've been getting kind of obsessed with TIS-100 and Shenzhen I/O.
Six things I could never do without
Cookware! Holy crap I don't know that I could function without something to cook with. Even basic dollar store stuff is fine though I prefer a good set of chopsticks and a heat-resistant spatula.

Beyond that, something to read or a project to work on. I'm kind of like a puppy when I get bored. Not in the "awww you're adorable!" way, more in the "why/how did you destroy that?" kind of way.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
AronChupa's "I'm An Albatraoz"

Is it literal? Figurative? Why is being an albatross better than being a mouse in this context? Where's the curse come in? Why does the music video show two saxophone players when you never hear any saxophones in the song? And why does the Wikipedia entry for the song suggest that the albatross is being used "as an inexplicable metaphor for female empowerment."

This is one of those things you never think about it until you do and then you never stop.
On a typical Friday night I am
It greatly depends on what's up or who is around.

If it's not already abundantly clear, I'm somewhat of an introvert. I do enjoy getting out and spending time outside but I need quiet recharge time after being out and around.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My brain doesn't function quite the same way as most other brains as I go through life with dyscalculia.
You should message me if
-If you are polyamorous, poly-friendly, or just curious. I love talking about poly so if you want to ask questions I am more than game. It's also pretty much impossible to shock or embarrass me so don't be shy if you're curious about something really juicy.

-This resonates with you at all

-If you're looking for a tabletop gaming buddy. I'm down for most games, doubly so if it's Shadowrun or Legend of the Five Rings. Matsu!

You should NOT message me if:
-You want someone to bar-hop or club with. If you want to go, more power to you, not my scene.

-You can't "be." This sounds super woo but it's as simple as "Can you sit in a chair for ten-ish minutes and be alone with your own thoughts without having to read something or futz with your cell phone?" If you can't do this, we likely aren't going to get along.

-You're half a world away. I'm sorry, I'm looking for someone local. Long distance relationships are not something I can handle. Best of luck to you.

You made it to the end, congrats. If you read the whole thing but still didn't find it to your liking, I still want to leave you with something for being awesome and willing to read the whole thing. Behold, the cutest fucking thing on the internet: Enjoy!
The two of us