SamJay9
41 Boston, United States
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My self-summary
Relationships are journeys, not destinations. Some are world tours, others a trip to the corner convenience store. Some are expeditions to the highest mountaintops, spelunkages into the deepest caves, dare-devil trips over Niagra Falls in wooden barrels, others are scavenger hunts around the city. They are all different, all opportunities to learn, to grow, to discover sides of ourselves, to reinvent ourselves and find our karass in the world.

Hey! I'm looking for travel partners!

I'm an ex expat. I've lived and worked in South Korea, Japan, Israel, Holland, and Australia. Tokyo, Melbourne, Phoenix, Bloomington and Chicago are all places I consider home. I've spent time in Mexico, Colombia, Brazil, China, Singapore and Malaysia. I've studied at Arizona State, Indiana University, UNC Chapel Hill, Duke, Yale and the University of Melbourne. I only use the Oxford comma when absolutely necessary, which is never.

Newly relocated to Boston after five years in Australia. Looking to make some new, local, interesting friends to add to my global bouquet of intelligent, interesting and improvisational community.

I'm addicted to "what happens next?" If I can predict it, it's boring. I can't stand having a lack of wonder about the world and about the next moment. I like people that can turn any boring situation into fun and have a naturally happy approach to life. I also like hard workers. :)
What I’m doing with my life
A former academic now working in the fintech space. My day job is to prevent the next GFC. If you don't hear about such, then I'm doing my job. I absolutely love my job, but only do a four day workweek on principle. My passions are in the discovery and pursuit of other objectives and interests.

Outside of work, I like to partner alongside passionate people, get involved with their missions, become part of their worlds and have them part of mine.
I’m really good at
Planning and staying on schedule... How boring? Well, makes more fun possible, I think!

Finding the upside. Flexible non-dogmatic thinking.

Gastrophilanthropist - In the right (social) contexts, I'm an excellent purveyor of the wants and desires of others.
The first things people usually notice about me
A Cheshire cat like smile that promises fun. Maybe some mischief.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books by Paul Auster, Italo Calvino, Milan Kundera, Hunter S. Thompson, Philip K. Dick, Jon Ronson, Beat Generation authors William S. Burroughs and Jack Kerouac and South American authors: Jorge Luis Borges, Julio Cortazar, Adolfo Bioy-Casares, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Isabel Allende... Always looking for more South American authors...

Movies: by Jim Jarmusch, Wes Anderson, Luis Bunuel, Pedro Almodovar, the Coen Brothers, David Lynch, Robert Rodriguez, Ang Lee, Tim Burton, Pixar and of course many other films, in particular old french films, with the best by Eric Rohmer.

Music: too broad! John Coltrane, Louis Armstrong, Billie Holliday, Bob Marley and Taj Mahal. Jazz and Blues and Salsa and Downtempo Electronica. Endless, just like it is for you too.
The six things I could never do without
1. A glass of whisky after a long day.
2. The solitude of my own personal space.
3. Meeting new people and the conversations they spark.
4. Throwing people together to see what happens next.
5. A crazy new plan or project.
6. A centered, unwavering internal core of happiness.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Art and Literature! All kinds. Not my field, just an interest. Also heady lectures and the MIT Poverty Lab.

How can I host or get involved in small, meaningful ways in important, but fun, organizations.

The past, present and future of cities. Cities are magical. So full of promise. 50% of the world's population lives in cities, a purely human construct. By 2050, 70% of that growing population will live in cities. (Of course, I do like unplugged time in remote places).
On a typical Friday night I am
Chasing down an art opening and catching up with friends for drinks...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The 800+ questions I answered are pretty incriminating. They've also been answered in speed quiz style five years ago and may be out of date.

In my five years in Melbourne, I've picked up Shibari as a bit of a thing I do. It's like a form of dancing, or an extended close embrace. I'm always looking for someone to practice with.
You should message me if
You should message me if the following sounds good:

An honest, accepting, committed, open relationship where conscious communication, enthusiastic consent, empathy building, active wish fulfillment are the hallmarks of the day.

Where the freedom to pursue desires aren't because we don't care about each other, but because we do. Where we keep the mansplaining to the absolute minimum.

Where I'll not only encourage you out on that new date, but I'll help paint your other partner's house, because he's a cool guy and he helped me move (yea, that's happened, ask me about it).

Where we accept our jealousies and face our insecurities with love. Where we are together solely because we want to be and not because we need to get through a rough patch that started in 2005.

This isn't a fast food relationship, it's gourmet and the ingredients are organic. It's only as good as the chefs in the kitchen make it. I've no time for casual sex.

If you are interested in making a friend. I may or may not be right for you, but if I'm not, maybe one of my friends is!
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